(Closed) Is a cash bar the norm for weddings where you live? Or is open bar the default?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 62
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Lots of weddings in ND and MN all cash bar with a sprinkling of limited wine or beer provided.  A wedding in SC, dry.  Several weddings in Central NY, about 50/50 cash/open.  In general, I’ve also observed that large metro area weddings are more likely to have an open bar than weddings in more rural areas.  

Post # 63
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MightySapphire:  LOL….seriously?  

Go to any bookstore and I’m sure you can find all the info you need.

Post # 64
1245 posts
Bumble bee

@MightySapphire: Google Etiquette about Cash Bars and you will get PLENTY of sites.

Post # 65
1245 posts
Bumble bee

@flyinpig3: You post just as often and have far less substantial things to comment about. If you can’t comment about the subject at hand, and continue to post to harass Lisa or anyone with an opposing view, I’m going to start flagging you for being snarky and stirring shvt.

Post # 66
526 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@flyinpig3:   And another 1/4 are yours demonstrating quite clearly that you don’t know alllllll about etiquette.  In fact, you’ve often (and rather curiously) bragged about your willful ignorance of it. 

And once again you’ve followed me to a thread merely to try to insult me and engage me in an argument. 

Moderators, take note!

Post # 67
3340 posts
Sugar bee

@lisa105: If you’re going to insist that it is a fact, then I’m going to insist on a citation.  And if you can’t provide one, then I’m calling shenanigans. 

Name one objective source stating that wedding etiquette is not regional and that refreshment etiquette is not regional.

Post # 69
4460 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Post # 70
6377 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Miss Tattoo: Lol, you say the things that I wish I had the balls to! =)

Anywho, Upstate, NY here…

I’ve never been to a wedding where there wasn’t atleast some form of an open bar. I would say our norm is the limited open (beer, wine and soda with the occasional signature drink) which is what we’re having. Full open bars are awesome but just too expensive. I also find that giving guests liquor, tends to get people rowdier. Thats why we’re not even offering a cash bar for liquor. Beer, wine, soda and a few signature cocktails will be the only options our guests have. I doubt anyone will have an issue with it. 

Post # 71
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 2012

I have never been to a wedding with only cash- one where wine and beer were hosted and the cash bar was oputside like part of the hotel. one with no alcohol and some with a full open bar.


I live in CA.

Post # 73
2148 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have been to wedding in GA, SC, NC, and VA and 90% of the SC weddings have either been dry or open bar during the cocktail hour only with wine served with dinner. The rest have been open bar.

From what I have seen it has nothing to do with money but more of the mindset that providing good food and non-alcoholic drinks are what’s required and everything else is extra.

Post # 74
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

i dont really think its regional.  i think its more social norm/class/affluence based.  im from MI, im my circle it would be akin to asking guests to pay for their own dinner to have a cash bar.  but other poster in the midwest have had cash bars.  we live in the same general region, so the decision cant be regional.  i have been to 1 dry, 1 cash, and ~15 open bar weddings.  the cash + dry weddings were in LA, but both were very religious.

Post # 75
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Indianapolis – Open Bar

My small town (1 hour away) – Cash Bar or Open Bar

Post # 76
798 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Toronto- we’re having an open bar.  I’ve only been to one cash bar wedding and that was in South Western Ontario (Sarnia, to be exact).  

I would say that, in my experience, the weddings I have been to have been open bar and there have been few that had wine and beer hosted with liquor being cash.  So, cash bars are not my experience and therefore weird to me.

My FH’s experience (outside Toronto) has been cash bar.  

I admit that I don’t bring money to weddings, so advanced warning on cash bars would be necessary for me.


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