Post # 1
I’m determined not to use a coordinator, mostly for budget reasons but also because I don’t think it should be a necessity. I also don’t want my wedding to have that ‘produced’ feel, I want it to be natural and homey. But I feel pressure, probably from reading too many blogs, to get one. Yes, if I had all the money in the world, I’d probably get one, but this is one area I feel I can save on.
Has anyone else gotten through the entire process without a coordinator, even the day of? What do you guys think? Worth the money? An industry pressure thing?
Post # 3
Well my wedding hasn’t happened yet but I can say with 100% certainty that having a coordinator thus far has been a god send.
A coordinator is there to make your life easier and to provide accounability and organization on your wedding day (which In My Humble Opinion is the most important aspect) rather than you having to solve all the last minute emergencies. A coordinator is not there to take the reigns and produce the wedding without you or your desires in mind. I have been to many a “natural/homey” wedding that had a coordinator involved because that feeling and theme comes from the bride, not the coordinator.
If you can’t afford a start to finish coordinator and feel you want the help why not look for a day of instead, they are significantly cheaper and allow you to enjoy the big day as you planned by handling all the details and issues.
Either which way if you can afford a coordinator than get one but if you can’t than please don’t feel like you or your wedding will suffer. I will say that when I started planning my wedding the number one piece of advice I was given by many a friend and acquaintance was to hire a coordinator if the budget allowed it.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
You don’t have to have a coordinator. But you do need to have someone who knows all of the ins and outs of your wedding plan who is willing to make all of the last minute decisions, handle phone calls from people who get lost/have parking issues/etc., double check that all deliveries are on schedule and delivered in accordance with your vision, set-up your decor, and be your advocate when something goes wrong. And something will go wrong. There is a lot to do on the actual wedding day. If you have friends and family who want to work, can do these tasks well, and you trust complketely, then use those volunteers.
We decided to hire a month-of coordinator and are thrilled with the decision. It’s a relief to know that my Maid/Matron of Honor will not be arguing with the florist when the floral delivery is late and totally wrong (happened to a friend this past May). It will be a relief to know that my brother isn’t running around the reception venue using a book of matches to light all of the floating candle centerpieces (another friend’s wedding in April). And it will be a relief to know that all wedding day problems will be solved by someone else so that my friends and family can just enjoy the day.
Post # 5
@bridetobeindc (BTW Love the name 🙂 )….Don’t look at a coordinator as another expense. Depending on when you hire your coordinator he/she and save you money on negotiating contracts with/for you and that can cover their fees.
The ladies gave you great advice.
This is something that I focus on for my brides. I save one of my Feb 2012 brides $400 off what she planned to pay on flowers yesterday during our floral consultation.
It all depends on what you are looking for in a coordinator. Personally I understand that planning a wedding is expensive but having the relief that you have a team leader for your wedding professionals for the day taking care of everything while you get dressed down to the last dance (average of 10-12 hours) it is a good investment. Check out the option of at least having a month of coordinator.
I think you should at least meet with 1-2 coordinators if not more and listen to how they can assist you. This person will be your right hand on your wedding day.
Post # 6
Depends on how many people, how big, how many locations (ceremony and rec in same place?), how organized you are, etc. I did not have one, but my ceremony and reception were at the same place, I was fairly organized (and have a job that allows me some flexibility when it comes to wed planning) and had 50 people and 4 people in the wedding party. Not much to organize.
That being said, I was very clear about everyone’s jobs and had one person (who happens to be a meeting planner) that I put in charge that day. I told everyone if there was a problem to go to her and I would trust her to make the best decision. You may not need to hire an outside coordinator, but you do need someone that is the “stage manager” the day of to a handle all the little things so you don’t have to.