- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
Hi, Bees. Can I pick your brains on something? I’m going to keep this as brief as I can, lest it turn into a giant, rambling, emotional mess.
Finding a ceremony venue in my hometown is nigh impossible if you are not a) religious, or b) rich (we are neither). After a lot of research, my fiance and I happened upon a ceremony venue that we both loved. My mom nixed it due to religious reasons, and we were both very surprised–and hurt–by this.
So, we found an alternative: a nice hotel in our hometown that can accommodate both the ceremony and the reception. It’s nice enough, and it’ll be convenient for everyone, but I am not impressed with their food for the price. I’m also ambivalent about it because my fiance and I didn’t choose it together.
Back when my fiance and I first got engaged, my mom lightheartedly suggested that we get married on Hilton Head Island. During a “what-the-hell-are-we-going-to-do-about-this-wedding?” talk the other night, I half-jokingly floated the idea to my fiance. To my surprise, he loved it.
Immediately, my brain spun visions of an intimate beach ceremony at sunset, roasting s’mores over a fire pit, and setting off sky lanterns over the ocean. Having such a wedding would, of course, be contingent upon whether our core people (immediate families and wedding party) could attend. The handful of people we’ve mentioned it to thus far have said that they will absolutely come.
Only two things make me nervous about this: I don’t like the thought of inconveniencing anyone (especially since the huge majority of our guests live in or near our hometown), and planning remotely promises to be a challenge. That said, our wish for an intimate, simple, laid-back wedding seems difficult to fulfill in our hometown, given its limited options.
Do you think a destination wedding could be a good option for us?