Post # 1
So recently I’ve been mulling over the idea of hirig a DOC for my big day.. the only thing is. I dont know if I can justify spending about $900 on this lady for one day. My venue provides wedding coordinator services for free up until the month PRIOR the wedding. For the month OF the wedding (and the day of), I would have to pay for her services. To be honest, I’ve only met with her once since signing the venue contract, I’ve done all the planning myself thus far. She did refer me to the limo company who we booked on the same night we met with her (she sent us to his office right after our meeting). I’ve already gotten my dress(es), my shoes, florist, limo, MC/DJ and photographer. The invitations have to be done by a Chinese printer, so no need for a referral there.. my Fiance is working on the favors. The Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and Groomsmen suits need to be done.. and I have to book the hotel for the ‘getting ready’ pics (which she had referred).
The thing is, I’m kind of a high stress bride..meaning, I tend to stress myself out A LOT. not anyone else, just myself. Why? cuz i’m a dork. I’m worried things won’t run smoothly, or something will mess up, etc. etc. And I’m semi-forgetful. I’m afraid the flowers won’t show up on time, or the bouquets will be wrong, or something will go awry during the ceremony or the reception, or someone will walk out with the card box or just ANYTHING.
I’ve heard reviews on how its not really necessary, and I’ve heard input on how this is going to ‘the best money you’ve ever spent’ cuz the DOC ‘saved the day’. I’m so confused. Can you guys offer any input?
Post # 3
I have a wedding planner that is going to be there all day. I am extremely stressful, so it is in everyone’s best interest that we have a DOC.
Post # 4
Seriously. Get one. It is worth it. I know a lot of brides who regret not getting a DOC.
Post # 5
I would never use the word “necessary” for almost any element of a wedding, because almost any combination of circumstances you can imagine has been accomplished by some couple getting married somewhere. Not everyone has a DOC in their budget and it’s certainly entirely possible to have a perfectly fine wedding without one.
However, if it is at all possible for you to budget for one, everything I have read and been told has led to the impression that this is an invaluable investment. Perhaps shop around for other DOCs in your area who might charge less, especially ones who might give you a discount. Our DOC emphasized to us that her job is to make sure that if any crises, large or tiny, pop up on the wedding day, Fiance and I and our guests won’t even know about them until later because she will handle them. The point is that the couple and their guests are free to relax and enjoy each other and their loved ones all day without stress.
There really are a lot of moving parts to a wedding and any single one of them could go wrong – not to sound like a forecaster of doom, but we all read wedding horror stories from great to small. Our DOC mentioned one time when a caterer informed her, immediately before the cake-cutting, that the couple had failed to contract for any cake plates. The caterer stated that there would be a $250 additional charge to use the cake plates that she had sitting in her car. The DOC took care of it immediately without having to upset the couple, with a quick hushed mention to the parents (who were paying). Had the DOC not been there, the parents themselves would have had to deal with that confrontation, or worse, the couple. A good DOC will prevent mishaps by calling vendors to make sure that they are on time, jumping in to take care of anything that is left as a loose end, putting together your DIY decor elements while you get ready, everything. As far as I’m concerned, you can hardly put a price tag on that kind of peace of mind on your wedding day.
Post # 6
please.. any more input would be much appreciated in helping me make a decision!!
Post # 7
I can’t speak from experience yet but we didn’t get a DOC. I don’t think its necessary per se. I think $900 is a large additional expense. And if the venue supplies someone, they too know the ins and outs of the process, so they’re probably a GREAT free resource. In the end, I think you need to be organized, and you need a support system that is not only organized, but is willing to help out when you need them. I see my Mom as my DOC lol. She’s been great… intense, but great. I guess what I’m saying is, I wouldn’t do it.
Post # 8
I suppose it depends on your circumstances. I won’t be able to drop $900 for one (must be nice!), but I still have people around me who would be willing to fulfill the same role. Personally, as long as I have people outside the wedding party who know how everything is supposed to go down, I’d be comfortable. There are all sorts of variables to consider: how big and formal is your wedding, how many rentals do you have, what happens during set-up, the community that’s helping you, your own stress levels, etc. If it’s stressing you out and you can afford one, why not?
Post # 9
Not necessary probably but really nice to have. Do you know anyone you could get to do it for you? I have a girl I went to school with that I chat with sometimes (but isn’t close enough that I’d invite her to the wedding) that is getting marred 2 months before me, and I asked her if she might want to trade DOC services… so I’ll be hers and she’ll be mine. We probably won’t be as good as REAL DOCs I guess… but we’re relatively organized and responsible people who will be in charge of making sure things run smoothly. Maybe you know someone who is getting married near you that you could trade with?
Post # 10
For me? Necessary. Sure my friends and family could pitch in and see to all the little details, but I don’t think they’d do a good of job as the DOC I hired and, more importantly (!) I don’t want them to have to “work” on my wedding day. I want them to be guests and just enjoy themselves.
Post # 11
I hate to say it but I think my wedding would have fallen apart without my DOC. We got her involved pretty early on and she was able to point us in the right direction when we fell off course. She managed everything on the day of from family to vendors, I didn’t worry about anything. I got to enjoy all the fun stuff and wasn’t worried about calling the vendors to make sure they were going to have everything ready ontime and making sure the florist knew how I liked everything. If I didn’t have her I probably would have lost massive amounts of sleep and showed up looking like the bride of Frankenstein. I don’t know where you are getting married but she works in NY if you want her contact infor she could probably at least point you in the right direction if you wanted to do it yourself. She even did our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner even though we changed the date for it like five times! Good Luck!
Post # 12
I am not having one, but honestly I am not sure what a DOC really does? I have already booked everything, I have everything ready to go for the day. I have the centerpieces ready, I have already a time line for all my vendors. I have a checklist.. I am not sure why I really need one. I am not the type to just “enjoy” my wedding. Because honestly the planning the event, the stressing, the figuring out problems and fixing them. Is my fun. I want to be doing something up til I am walking down the aisle. Because if not, I think I am going to throw up from nerves. (Not from marrying Fiance, but everyone looking at me. OH god please don’t trip.) So I say you don’t NEED one. But think honestly of what you want to be doing that day, and what you don’t.
Post # 13
ok, so i called the wedding coordinator today, and she said the charges are $950 for the month of the wedding and the day of coordination. she and her assistant will follow us around all day and during the ceremony/reception to the end of the night, they will formulate our timeline for us and help us with the rehearsal for the wedding ceremony. plus help with the tea ceremony and the photos during the wedding.. i’m sure theres much much more things which they will be keeping track of, but those are all the things which were mentioned casually during our conversation. part of me wants to hire her for peace of mind, and part of me wants to save the money.
my guestlist is at about 200, we plan to have the getting ready pics at the hotel with my bridal party, have the limo p/u to go to the ‘park’ for photos and then drive back to the venue where we’ll take MORE photos, have the wedding ceremony, cocktail hour, tea ceremony and reception all in the same place. I have a total of 3 dresses (incl. my white wedding gown) plus shoes.. my bridal party.. i’m really not sure if i can count on them to be honest.. they’ve been somewhat flakey to date.. so I’m not sure how it’ll be the day of the wedding. I dont have any DIY items at the momeny, however I am working on 2 things, the alphabet initials for the guestbook table, and possibly making my own card box… i’m thinking of purchasing some frames and printing out a verse about love and places a frame on each table.. (i’m rambling)..
the Fiance said ‘he’ll think about it’. which of course, i dont blame him. $950 isn’t cheap.
Post # 14
I really struggle with this too…I see so many brides that regret not having one. But besides putting together a timeline, and contacting vendors…what are they doing?
Are they doing set up, take down? I know everyone has different needs at their wedding…but I don’t necessarily want to pay $650 (the cost I was quoted for a DOC) to have someone give me a timeline and tell me when it’s time to “go”?
Post # 15
We’re saving a lot of money on all kinds of stuff, so I really want a DOC. I am a huge worrier, so it would be nice to know that someone else is handling everything.
Post # 16
My Suggestion is get someone you know who is a VERY organized person who wouldn’t mind doing this for you. My Husband’s aunt was ours and she felt very honored rather than obligated to do this for us. She researched everything, and it was great. BUT I DID have most of it written out and she just had to follow the directions, so, if you dont feel like doing all the organizing yourself, I’d hire someone. I’m the type of person that LIKES to do everything and lives firmly by the motto ” If you want something done right, you’ve gotta do it yourself. ”