Post # 31
You realize, of course, that social mores evolve? And have certainly done so quite a bit since people were regularly invited to wedding “breakfasts” and kept “proper social stationery” sitting about the house? I’ve never known of anyone to invite fewer guests to the reception than to the ceremony — people simply don’t do it that way anymore (and haven’t for a very, very long time) — and suggesting that people use that archaic custom as a go-by in order to figure out whether one should send a gift (or send a note on one’s social stationery) is kind of absurd. Things have changed since the time of Emily Post (even if some of us wish they hadn’t). Oh, and I’ll assure you — no one’s decision to buy a gift that is worth more than it costs the hosts to feed them will turn a wedding into “a rather tawdry commercial transaction.” So don’t worry about that.