(Closed) Is a heavy hors d’oeuvres reception ok for a 5 pm wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Another FYI, you might want to get SLIGHTLY bigger plates than the little plates.. I think that people feel self concious about going up and getting more, even though they are encouraged too, so people will feel hungry.

Just another suggestion!

Post # 33
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I went to a wedding like and one of the stations was sliced sandwich meats and toatsed breads so you could make up a sandwich. The appetizers were things like toasted raviolis and ‘heavy’ kind of food, plus there were salads, fruits, etc.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it depends on how heavy the hors deouvres are. Personally, I HAVE to eat a meal between 5 and 8 pm or I will be tired and grouchy. If the hors douvres are enough to fill my belly, i’d be happy, but if not, i’d leave early to get some fast food…you don’t want to be remembered as the wedding where everyone went to mcdonalds.

Post # 35
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We were going heavy hors deouvres until I found it was cheaper to do a seated dinner than it is to do hor deouvres or a buffet.  Our caterer said it’s because they have to make a surplus since there is no control of what people eat.  With seated, they get their plate and that’s it.

Post # 36
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Newbee

I’m not a bride, but I have 4 children in their 20’s, and I’ve been to about 100 weddings in the past 5 years, almost all of them in SC or NC. The weddings have ranged from 30 people to over 200 people, and I’m sure the budgets ranged from less than $5000 to more than $60,000! In the Carolinas, most weddings seem to be between 5 and 6 PM, and all of the receptions I’ve been to featured heavy hors d’oeuvres instead of meals. The only time I’ve ever had meals with wedding receptions, the weddings weren’t in the Carolinas….until I went to a wedding in NJ a few years ago, I didn’t realize people actually had sit down meals at their wedding receptions!

I’ve had a lot more fun and never been hungry at the receptions with hors d’oeuvres!! The receptions seem to be more relaxed (despite some of the very formal weddings), and there’s more socializing and mingling when guests can move around and don’t have to sit at a certain table or eat at a certain time. To make my long post short: having hors d’oeuvres at the reception is a Southern tradition – go for it, girl, and your guests will have a great time and won’t go away hungry, I promise!

Post # 38
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Newbee

I would compare caterers and prices. You may be able to have a nice dinner buffet for what it would cost to pass hors or apps.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Hi Ms. Teddy- If your not settled on a caterer yet you should check Beyond Expectations. They were significantly cheaper than a lot of places I looked into that offered the exact same thing!!

Post # 40
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

That sample looks AWESOME! Sounds just like the heavy app reception I went to a few years ago. Sounds delish =]

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think you’ll be fine — that menu has plenty of filling food on it and people should be able to make themselves a meal out of it. I’ve had seated dinners with less food than that (like when the vegetarian option is just rice and steamed veggies…oops).

We elected to do a buffet for our reception because the caterer told us they can move people through dinner faster, which will give us more time for dancing and other fun stuff. It’s also cheaper, but I was hesitant to go for it at first because I was afraid it would take fooorever.

Post # 43
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Newbee

Honestly, it’s your wedding. You can do whatever you want. From a guest’s perspective, though, it would depend on how “heavy” you apps are. I know if the wedding went from 5 – 10 p.m. and all that was there was little finger foods, I probably wouldn’t make it to 10 p.m. I might leave early to grab a bite to eat. I’d feel really bad, but I really need to listen to my body or I’ll faint! I went to an evening wedding once where all they served was tiny little apps, and I kept wondering why guests were disappearing for an hour or two throughout the evening. I found out that they were leaving the venue to eat dinner and then come back later to party! A few of them even brought back food to the venue! If your set on apps, then it would be courteous to your guests to communicate to them that they must eat dinner beforehand if you want them to last to 10 p.m. Though, personally, eating a heavy dinner at 4:30 p.m. at the latest is way too early for me. But that’s just me. Your guests may not mind at all. Good luck!

Post # 44
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Wannabee

Common misconception is that an Hors d’ oeuvres only reception is less expensive.  

It isn’t!   These type of events are chosen because they lend themselves to less formality and allow for a more relaxed casual atmosphere.  And also the Groom and Bride can offer their guests a bigger variety of food as opposed to being limited if only entrees were being served. 

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