- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
I think it’s strange to think it’s rude or tacky. I haven’t seen one good reason yet as to why it’s such a horrible thing to do. I do not see how it is different from any other registry. I also do not understand what’s so much better about asking for cash or having people figure out that the tiny gift registry puzzle means they should give cash.
Marriages and households are very different than they were back in the day, and with so many different ages of couples and types of couples, I don’t see why anyone would judge a couple for being honest about their preferences and needs.
Honestly, I’d probably want a Pets Mart registry or a honeymoon registry because we do not need dishes, blenders, towels, etc. We are not a baby couple starting out. We don’t need home building gifts, as newly weds from other generations might need.
The truth is, people who want to criticize you will do it no matter what you do. If you do a regular registry, they’ll complain about what’s on them–that you went for expensive gifts, or cheap gifts cause you think your guests are cheapskates. I mean, there will ALWAYS be something. An older guest might be offended if they see your bridal shower registry at victoria’s secret.
You can’t please everyone, so I just advise being true to yourself within the knowledge that any one criticizing you that hard about a registry probably doesn’t really care too much about you. Think of who on your guest list would be that type of person, and determine how much their thoughts really matter. If it’s your boss and he’ll refuse to sign your checks, well, you might reconsider the honeymoon registry. If it’s your mother’s cousin’s neighbor who you were forced to invite, well–I say who cares what the neighbor thinks. If it’s your sister who claims she’ll never speak to you again if you do it, then I think it’s about time that you stop letting her manipulate you–cause i’m sure this isn’t the first time she’s threatened you with this.
Lastly, I’d say remember that the internet is really a fishbowl. Something could seem like reality because it’s on the internet, but in actuality, it’s not that way. That’s the danger of net. It just can make something seem bigger and more prevaliant that it really is. We had a thread on here that addressed that very thing. People were talking about how things like photobooths and candy buffets seemed to be the craze at every wedding. But in reality, they are not. It’s just that a bunch of wedding sites and writers have taken these same ideas and repeated them all over the net, and something that really isn’t popular seems popular. So just think of that when you get advice as to what “EVERYONE” will think of what you are doing.