(Closed) Is a hotel necessary for the wedding night?

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would…but that’s totally my personal preference. My friend is getting married in April and all of the festivities are super close to her house, but she’s still staying in a hotel room the night before (and her Fiance will stay at their shared house) and they two of them are staying at the hotel together the wedding night as well.


Post # 4
23 posts
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think it’s necessary at all.  We will be doing it, because I think it is more special and it might be a bit anti-climactic for us just to go back to the same flat we’ve lived in for 5 years on our wedding night, but I think it’s totally down what you and your Fiance want to do and how your budget is looking.

Post # 5
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Is it necessary? No. Would it be nice? Sure.

Our venue was literally down the street from our house, about a 10 minute drive. But I didn’t want to have my getting ready photos taken in our home, so I opted to stay in a nice hotel the night before and Darling Husband joined me after the wedding. The hotel was about 20 minutes away. We ended up taking our first look photos around the resort and seeing those photos made it worth it for us.

Post # 6
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@ZChick17:  We are having our wedding about an hour from his parents house and thats where we will stay our wedding night. We have to get up very early to drive to where our cruise is leaving from so it just seemed like a waste to pay for a hotel room when we have to leave so early, plus his mom will be driving down with us to housesit so it all just seems more logical. That’s extra money for our cruise!

It would be nice, and I certainly wouldn’t mind, but it just makes the most sense.

Post # 7
1709 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@ZChick17:  I don’t think it’s necessary, but we are since we don’t live in that area (my mom lives about an hour from the venue but we are DEFINITELY not staying at her place on the wedding night).  Our venue will give us a free room if we meet our minimum room nights for our hotel block, so we are hoping to get it for free!

Post # 8
3571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t think it’s nescessary at all, but we are still doing it. We live 5-10 minutes from our venue.. the hotel we’re staying at is maybe 2 minutes away from the venue. So while we could of went home no problem, I think it’s part of the fun of staying out the night of your wedding. Plus we have a shuttle taking us from the venue to the hotel, if we went home we’d have to find a way home – I don’t know if we’ll be in shape to drive. Plus a large group of our guests are staying at the hotel, so it’ll be fun to go back with them & then maybe bump into some of them the next morning. It’s only costing us $109 plus tax, to me it’s worth it.

Post # 9
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

You know…we went back to our house on our wedding night and I love that our first night as a married couple was spent in our home.  Mr. 99 carried me over the threshold, I was in my dress, he was in his tux.  He had made our bedroom a really special place with candles and satin sheets and flowers…I think another factor in our decision was the fact that we were flying to the South Pacific for our honeymoon the next day, and wanted time to get everything packed and set up, spend time with the dogs, get the house sitter settled, we even went to our favorite coffee shop with the rest of our wedding cake and served peices…it was a nice, relaxing, start to married life.

Post # 10
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

its not necessary, but i think itd be nicer to have the hotel for one night. esp if they decorate it prettily (some do it for free, petals or fruit or whatever)

and then sleep in and have a nice (preferably buffet) hot breakfast before you leave that you neither have to cook nor do the dishes for.

btu if you prefer to save the money and go home do that!! it can be equally romantic where your new husband carries you across the threshold and you go to your home for the first time as newlyweds

Post # 11
428 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our venue is just about 5 minutes from our apartment, but we have to catch a plane at 6:00 the morning after our wedding, so we’re staying at a hotel near the airport (which is probably 20 minutes away.)

If we weren’t leaving so early, I would probably still want to stay somewhere special for our wedding night, but if you don’t want to pay for a hotel room, don’t! There’s nothing wrong with going home together 🙂

Post # 12
8470 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It’s your wedding night… make it special….

Post # 13
3829 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not at all necessary.  Alot of my friends have stayed at their own home. Our wedding is 15 min from our house. 

HOWEVER, we are staying at a really nice hotel and not letting anyone know the location because the last thing we want is people bothering us right after the wedding. We are going off the grid for a few days to enjoy some time together!

Post # 14
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s not necessary, but it was very important for me to stay the night in a hotel away from family and friends. 

Post # 15
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ZChick17:  the venue of our wedding is literally a mile and a half from our apartment. we are staying in a hotel the whole weekend so that we can use our apartment as sort of a “hospitality suite”. We figured the extra cost for us is worth it because we’ll be way more relaxed and be able to more comfortably provide out-of-towners with an extra location to hang out. 

my parents are staying there for the few nights leading up to the wedding so that they don’t have to pay for a hotel and so that if my little brother wants my cousins to come over or whatever, they aren’t in a tiny hotel room.

certainly not mandatory, but we’ve found quite a few extra reasons that it makes sense for us and you may too.

Post # 16
13563 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree that it’s nice, but definitely not a necessity, especially if you’re trying to cut down on costs. We stayed at the hotel right by the airport on our wedding night because 1) we didn’t live together yet and 2) we had a REALLY early AM flight. It was still a nice hotel, but pretty inexpensive, so we could put the extra money toward the honeymoon!

The topic ‘Is a hotel necessary for the wedding night?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors