(Closed) Is a late Friday night Wedding with Light Refreshments and no Dinner Okay?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is it ok to have a 8pm Saturday wedding with hors d'oeuvres & Drinks only?
    YES : (87 votes)
    45 %
    NO : (106 votes)
    55 %
  • Post # 3
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @Barbiestylez:  I think what you have planned sounds lovely. It may be fun to add some hot appetizers to that list to allow for more selection. however, I would pick 7:30 as a start time for your ceremony to allow your guests time to commute and get ready after work. 

    Post # 4
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    1522 posts
    Bumble bee

    I cn see that for an early wedding like 12 but nt at a late wedding just my opinion tho

    Post # 6
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    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    That was my plan….until my father said “You expect people to show up, have a shrimp and go home?” And in a way he’s right. If they are coming from any distance, specially on a Friday with little time to get ready after work, never mind eat, you really should be feeding them. I just cant see people having time to do both and if you’re giving them booze they really need something in their stomachs besides apps. Does it have to be a Friday?

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @Barbiestylez:  honestly I think you should do whatever you want and enjoy. weddings are a personal thing, and not everyone will agree with your decisions. I think you should love it and feel excited about your plans. if you are not excited it isn’t worth it. 

     

    Appetizers and trays are perfect, and I think your guests will like that they don’t have to write off their entire saturday to attend. 

    Post # 9
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    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  i know it might go against “tradition” or wedding “protocol”…. but i’m considering the same thing…. July wedding at 7:30pm…. because we want to catch the sunset at some point in our ceremony (outdoors…. overlooking the ocean…. i’m on the west coast)…. so I thought just light appetizers, champagne / sparkling cider, and cake.  i don’t know what’s “right ” or “wrong”… it’s really up to you and what makes sense to you… and think, if you’re ok with attending someone else’s wedding reception similar to what you’re planning… then go for it.  i feel like dinner at 8 or 830pm is too late anyway…. but I don’t know anything.  sorry if that didn’t help much… i’m torn too. 

    Post # 11
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    1671 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    If you did heavy appetizers, I would say yes. But since your saying light. I say no.

    Most people get off work at 5 or 530 and get home between 530 to 630. They have to get dressed, eat, and commute to your wedding in 30 minutes to an hour? Then your not even feeding them anything. They will probably be tired as well. 

    What if they have kids they have to get a babysitter and get kids ready. 

    I would think about doing a lot of appetizers, hot and cold. Especially if your serving drinks.

    Post # 12
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    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Saturday would be better then, most people are off, so they have time to eat early and get ready and then its not an issue but be sure to make clear on the invite they are are joining you after the ceremony for apps and cocktails so they relaize it is NOT a sit down dinner so they can prepare and eat ahead of time. Have lots of substantial apps too, you dont need sick or drunk ppl because they drank too much and had nothing to soak it up in their tummies.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think the only issue in this case is you’re planning on serving alcohol (and from the sounds of it, maybe to a heavy drinking crowd?). I think in that case, you need additional appetizers – not necessarily a full meal, but food to help soak up the alcohol to ensure people don’t get sick.

    I would also maybe start a bit later, even like 8pm, to really give people time to eat a proper meal after work. I don’t know about most people, but we don’t eat supper until around 6:30, so I wouldn’t have time to eat before a 7 or 7:30 wedding.

    Post # 16
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  amen, sister!  My Fiance and I go against the grain a lot…. and we just want to remain focused on US and not making everyone else happy.  although… I can’t imagine your (& our) family and friends not being happy ,…. whatever type of wedding we have….

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