Post # 32
@Barbiestylez: if you want to serve appetizers only, you need to set the wedding time so that it’s clear that only light refreshments will be served. This either means really late, or early in the afternoon. I personally would be really irritated if I was invited to a 7:30 PM wedding and it was a light refreshments only reception.
It’s not enough to put it on the invitation. You really think people are going to read the whole thing?
Post # 33
@gelaine22: I just updated the poll to word it better and from suggestions! I guess I didnt think about Friday and people getting off work late. So Saturday would be a much better option. Im not sure about hors d’oeuvres — Maybe crab cakes, meatballs, artichoke dip, coconut shrimp??? a Mix of things really! Im open. I dont want people to have to sit down if they dont want to. Id like them to all mingle and if they want to sit down with a plate of hors d’oeuvres then thats great too!! Any ideas for hors d’oeuvres?
Post # 34
I’d do it on Saturday, but otherwise I think it will be just fine.
If they’re really from the country, especially. I’m from the country, and most of the weddings in my hometown are simple cake and punch do’s. (It’s kind of nice for me, because I don’t need to get ice sculptures and a string quartet: I’m having a “fancy wedding” because I am serving food–any food.)
Just make very sure that everyone knows there will not be a full meal served. Putting on the invitation something like “cake, drinks and dancing to follow” should convey the idea fairly well. I disagree that you necessarily NEED to start it super late. If you were in the city and so were most of your guests, you’d want to do it that way as a matter of etiquette, but I’m guessing that at least some of your guests are farmers and ranchers, and when you wake up with the rooster’s crow, 9 and 10 pm is bedtime. Just make sure, like I said, that you make it clear that there will be no meal, otherwise some people might get drunk and hangry.
ETA: I’m not sure why people think it’s rude not to serve a full meal these days. In my mom and grandmother’s day, most people didn’t do that, so the most “traditional” weddings (despite what the WIC tries to tell us) are just cake and punch in the parents’ living room or the church fellowship hall.
Post # 35
I haven’t read anything, but I would push it to 8:30pm. That way people can easily eat dinner before hand, and wouldn’t expect there to be dinner. If the wedding was at 7ish I would expect a pretty heavy spread.
Post # 36
@Barbiestylez: i think this is called a football wedding my grandmother had one no dinner just finger food ( sandwiches ) and drinks ; ) i think its wonderful and i love the desert table also you could throw in a chocolate fountain very inexpensively ( fruit, pretzels and marshmallows just fun things to dip) i would love to going to a wedding like that i thinks its a neat idea no heavy dinner just light food desert drinks and good music.
Post # 37
Your plan is a bad idea. If you don’t want the dinner, then do heavy appetizers and start later. Expecting people to rush home from work to attend your wedding, then drink and dance without substancial food is a mistake.
Post # 38
I’m going to play “big bad wolf” and speak out for the people who’ve said no so far but not commented…
Guests spend a lot of time and money on coming to weddings. It might take them 4 hours to get there, and the same on the way back… think of the petrol money/trasportation costs. Once they get there, they then have to pay for accommodation (usually for 2 nights, depending on the wedding timings). If they have to take time off work, as some would for a Friday wedding, they also lose money and/or holiday time because of that. Then, they might have to buy a new dress or rent a suit. They also have to give a gift. It all gets very expensive.
I would think that, if I am spending hundreds of pounds to attend a wedding, they could at least feed me a proper meal. If you don’t want the formality of a sit down meal, that’s OK… just do a self-service buffet. But I do think that you should feed people properly, especially if they are going to be drinking.
Post # 39
@EffieTrinket: Yes these people are countryyyy! LOL Nothing wrong with that! I really cant see anyone being upset by this at my wedding! I will have to see my options. i would rather do this than serve a crappy dinner (for cost reasons) when its not what we really want to do!
Post # 40
I think a Friday is a bad idea personally I wouldn’t have time to eat before as I have to organise my kids so that I could go out. Then I have to get ready and travel to the wedding. I’d be starving and if I couldn’t get something drive thru to eat on the way I’d probably leave early.
A Saturday on the other hand would be easier.
Post # 41
@Barbiestylez: Saturday night is MUCH better. As long as your guests know beforehand that there will be no dinner it is fine.
I think popular hot apps could be:
chicken tenders or wings or something
mini quiche (? I think some options for vegetarians may be good)
my mind is drawing a blank. Lol
Post # 42
@Rachel631: I understand your point. I think it doesnt really apply to my wedding. Like I said, for my sisters wedding my dad paid for about 15 hotel rooms for the night for immediate family & friends to stay overnight so they had no costs. Unfortunately, most guests do not give gifts. I’ve been to 5 weddings this past year of my fiances buddies & family & there were 200-300 guests at each wedding and maybe 20 gifts on the table. People dont give gifts. I told my fiance I was shocked and his reply was “its just how they are — they come to drink and party.” So I see your point totally, but I also am making sure that majority people wont have to miss work and will have accomadations made for them to stay overnight.
Post # 43
@gelaine22: thank you so much for the ideas! I will have to brainstorm!
Post # 44
I say yes, if you –
Have it on a Saturday.
Have more appetizers, including hot and cold.
Let guests know ahead of time. (Put it on the wedding website or on the invites.)
With a 7:30 PM wedding, that leaves guests enough time to eat around 5 or so before coming, as long as it is on Saturday and they have off work. 🙂
Here is a list full of AWESOME appetizers, with photos. 🙂
Post # 45
I like the apps so far, I think you will do just fine!
Post # 46
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: thank you so much for the website!! I will have to have an array of apps!!!!