(Closed) Is a late Friday night Wedding with Light Refreshments and no Dinner Okay?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Is it ok to have a 8pm Saturday wedding with hors d'oeuvres & Drinks only?



  • Post # 32
    1015 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  if you want to serve appetizers only, you need to set the wedding time so that it’s clear that only light refreshments will be served.  This either means really late, or early in the afternoon.  I personally would be really irritated if I was invited to a 7:30 PM wedding and it was a light refreshments only reception.

    It’s not enough to put it on the invitation. You really think people are going to read the whole thing?

    Post # 34
    4554 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I’d do it on Saturday, but otherwise I think it will be just fine.

    If they’re really from the country, especially. I’m from the country, and most of the weddings in my hometown are simple cake and punch do’s. (It’s kind of nice for me, because I don’t need to get ice sculptures and a string quartet: I’m having a “fancy wedding” because I am serving food–any food.)


    Just make very sure that everyone knows there will not be a full meal served. Putting on the invitation something like “cake, drinks and dancing to follow” should convey the idea fairly well. I disagree that you necessarily NEED to start it super late. If you were in the city and so were most of your guests, you’d want to do it that way as a matter of etiquette, but I’m guessing that at least some of your guests are farmers and ranchers, and when you wake up with the rooster’s crow, 9 and 10 pm is bedtime. Just make sure, like I said, that you make it clear that there will be no  meal, otherwise some people might get drunk and hangry.

    ETA: I’m not sure why people think it’s rude not to serve a full meal these days. In my mom and grandmother’s day, most people didn’t do that, so the most “traditional” weddings (despite what the WIC tries to tell us) are just cake and punch in the parents’ living room or the church fellowship hall.



    Post # 35
    299 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I haven’t read anything, but I would push it to 8:30pm. That way people can easily eat dinner before hand, and wouldn’t expect there to be dinner. If the wedding was at 7ish I would expect a pretty heavy spread.

    Post # 36
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @Barbiestylez:  i think this is called a football wedding my grandmother had one no dinner just finger food ( sandwiches ) and drinks ; ) i think its wonderful and i love the desert table also you could throw in a chocolate fountain very inexpensively ( fruit, pretzels and marshmallows just fun things to dip) i would love to going to a wedding like that i thinks its a neat idea no heavy dinner just light food desert drinks and good music.

    Post # 37
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Your plan is a bad idea.  If you don’t want the dinner, then do heavy appetizers and start later.  Expecting people to rush home from work to attend your wedding, then drink and dance without substancial food is a mistake. 

    Post # 38
    6375 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    I’m going to play “big bad wolf” and speak out for the people who’ve said no so far but not commented…

    Guests spend a lot of time and money on coming to weddings. It might take them 4 hours to get there, and the same on the way back… think of the petrol money/trasportation costs. Once they get there, they then have to pay for accommodation (usually for 2 nights, depending on the wedding timings). If they have to take time off work, as some would for a Friday wedding, they also lose money and/or holiday time because of that. Then, they might have to buy a new dress or rent a suit. They also have to give a gift. It all gets very expensive.

    I would think that, if I am spending hundreds of pounds to attend a wedding, they could at least feed me a proper meal. If you don’t want the formality of a sit down meal, that’s OK… just do a self-service buffet. But I do think that you should feed people properly, especially if they are going to be drinking.

    Post # 40
    1974 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 1998

    I think a Friday is a bad idea personally I wouldn’t have time to eat before as I have to organise my kids so that I could go out. Then I have to get ready and travel to the wedding. I’d be starving and if I couldn’t get something drive thru to eat on the way I’d probably leave early.

    A Saturday on the other hand would be easier. 

    Post # 41
    6263 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Barbiestylez:  Saturday night is MUCH better. As long as your guests know beforehand that there will be no dinner it is fine.

    I think popular hot apps could be:


    coconut shrimp

    chicken kabobs

    chicken tenders or wings or something


    mini quiche (? I think some options for vegetarians may be good)

    maybe quesadillas

    my mind is drawing a blank. Lol

    Post # 44
    8291 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I say yes, if you –


    Have it on a Saturday.


    Have more appetizers, including hot and cold.


    Let guests know ahead of time. (Put it on the wedding website or on the invites.)


    With a 7:30 PM wedding, that leaves guests enough time to eat around 5 or so before coming, as long as it is on Saturday and they have off work. 🙂


    Here is a list full of AWESOME appetizers, with photos. 🙂




    Post # 45
    1224 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I like the apps so far, I think you will do just fine!

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