Is a rehearsal dinner mandatory?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 61
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186 posts
Blushing bee

bellsprout :  Everyone is entitled you their own opinion.  Unfortuantely,  that also holds true when you are dissing another country’s customs.  Which in reality,  make your argument invalid since the country you are dissing is a melting pot of so many cultures and traditions.  

I am not referring to your opinion; I’m referring to your choice of words.  

Post # 62
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6440 posts
Bee Keeper

taylorg123 :  My SIL didn’t have one, instead she had a nice little get together dinner with some of the family at the hotel she had booked rooms for for people the night before.  Nothing crazy.

Post # 63
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487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

engie :  I’m sorry if my choice of words offended you.  I’m well aware that culture is a very intigrated thing (I live and work in Central London and no one will ever convinve me that there is a place more diverse.)  But hand on heart – to me – American wedding (or at lest my opinion of them from reading these boards over the last few months) are far too much to do with making guests comfortable than celebrating the couple (I’m not saying guests SHOULDN’T be made comfortable, just maybe not to the detriment of the bride and grooms financial future.)

Post # 64
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9604 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

bellsprout :  “American wedding (or at lest my opinion of them from reading these boards over the last few months) are far too much to do with making guests comfortable than celebrating the couple”

yes American etiquette and hospitality in general is about making people comfortable, especially when hosting them formally. Its a value system which is pretty generous and kind-hearted at its core, not “dumb af”. Youre not blunt, youre rude. Im glad I didnt have to pay for my pints at your wedding and you can be glad you didnt have to suffer through open bars and two dinners at mine, fair enough!

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