(Closed) ?? Is a rehearsal dinner really nessesary ??

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m not having one.  You dont HAVE to do anything you dont want to.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

you’re asking people for their time in order to practice your ceremony with you so it’s a nice to repay them by feeding them. one friend had a day of rehearsal so there wasn’t any dinner and then another had a backyard bbq. i’m having a restaurant dinner but really it’s not a big deal – it’s dinner. since it’s more intimate, it’s a chance for the bride & groom to thank everyone for helping them plan & practice and all of that jazz as well as give presents if they want.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

The rehearsal dinner isn’t to rehearse eating, it’s just a dinner after the ceremony rehearsal where the bride and groom give their gifts and thanks to their bridal party and parents.

You don’t NEED one, but I think it’s nice to have. Half our wedding party and FI’s parents are coming from out of town, so I think it’s also nice as a welcome and a thank you for their presence the day before the wedding. We’re just having a small, simple rehearsal dinner at a restaurant.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We are going to have a dinner at my fmil’s house. Just a bbq though. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

the dinner itself isn’t a rehearsal.  it’s a way to thank your bridal party for all the effort they put into the wedding, including participating in the rehearsal.

when i was in a wedding, this was actually my favorite part!  everyone can kick back and relax without having any “duties”.  it’s a really nice way to unwind, especially if anyone in your party had to travel. 

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Rehearsal dinners are held for a number of reasons. It is an opportunity for the groom’s parents  to host the wedding party.  It also gives the members of the wedding party a chance to get to know each other, especially these days when people travel to be in weddings.

It gives the bride and groom an opportunity to thank the members of the wedding party both in words and with a token of appreciation and to offer them a meal to thank them for giving up their time to rehearse for the wedding.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I’m going to have to say yes on this one. Don’t get me wrong, if you don’t do it it’s not the end of the world. But I think it’s courtesy to feed the people who have come a long way to be a part of your wedding. It also gives you time to talk to family members and close friends… cause at the wedding, you will have too many other people to talk to. It doesn’t have to be fancy, do a limited menu at a restaurant, or family style, or something much cheaper. 🙂

I’m so glad I was able to do a rehearsal dinner. We ate beforehand. But the rehearsal takes up so much time and stress, it was nice to have a full belly (or to know your belly will be full afterwards).

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s a nice gesture for your bridal party and close family. Sometimes people also invite their guests from out of town in order to spend more time with them. It’s not necessary, but it’s a nice thing to do. It’s also a good opportunity to give out your attendants’ gifts and thank everyone for being part of your special day.

Do you simply not see the point or is it a financial concern? Obviously every case is different, but traditionally the groom’s parents pay for the Rehearsal Dinner.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

As other Bees have said, you don’t HAVE to do one. The wedding will still go on without one. It’s just more of a thank you gesture for the people who are involved in your wedding party and parents and such. I know ours was a lovely time for us to get to spend a little one on one time with the most important people in our lives and it was such a time of love and so many lovely speeches were made both by us and about us, that it’s something I’ll remember forever.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We aren’t having one. Not because I don’t want to say thank you, but because it is way to hard for us to work out a day and time for everyone. We have managed to get everyone together for a quick rehearsal 2 days before the wedding, but most people can’t stay longer than that so we skipped the dinner. Besides our children, we each only have one person standing with us so we will find other ways to thank them.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

We are doing a Rd but it will be really casual. We are going out for pizza after the rehursal. Our budget is tight lol

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Were having a Non-Rehearsal dinner. Laughing The venue has a wedding happening that Friday night, so we decided to skip the rehearsal (most of the party has been in a wedding before and the day of coordinator can take care of the details that day of).But becasue most of our guests are coming from out of town were doing a dinner for the Bridal Party & parents and then having a gathering at the Patio of the hotel later that night for out of town guests to mingle with us.

Post # 16
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Honey bee

We plan to do one, just not sure how we are going to pay for it since I forgot to include it in our original budget.

UGH. Anyways, we are doing it because most of our guests are from out of town, including our entire bridal party. They are spending time and money to travel to be with us, so I feel like its a nice gesture.

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