Post # 1
Just to explain, Fiance and I are piling our plates a bit high. On top of the wedding planning, organizing everything for our honeymoon and our regular jobs we are also doing extensive renovations by ourselves on a house we plan to move into in November. I AM right worn out!! haha! So I’m trying to manage what is worth spending the time on and what is not.
Yesterday I was reading this post:
What have you learned from attending other peoples’ weddings?
…and one thing I noticed is that alot of people mentioned seating charts being a must. I hadn’t thought of it being that my wedding consists of 60 people where at least 3/4 of them are related or know each other and 11 of those are the nieces and nephews(under the age of 8). I have no problems making one and including name cards and all but I wanted your input on if you think its necessary for me to do this? What are your experiences concerning this? Is there an easier or simpler option?
I will appreciate any comments!! Thx!!!
Post # 3
We didn’t have one and people didn’t complain. Yes, they sat with people that they knew but I don’t think that’s a bad thing.
Post # 4
My wedding is a a bit smaller, 40 people, and I am doing a seating chart. I mostly want to make sure that conversation flows, but also because if all of his friends sit together then it’s going to be a rowdy time. If I break them up but place them near each other, conversation will include more people and it may temper the frat boy vibe. But I think that you’re right, it’s a toss up and it depends on you and your guests whom you know best. I’ve been to a 100 person wedding without a seating chart and it was really nice and relaxed.
Post # 5
Seating charts can be helpful if:
- You don’t want grandma accidentally sitting with the groom’s frat brothers, or
- You’ll have just enough chairs for the guests you invite. If that’s the case, and there is no seating chart, a late-arriving family might find that each of them has to sit at a different table.
We had 60 people at our at-home reception, but pretty much all of them knew each other. We just made sure there were plenty of extra seats, and skipped the seating chart.
Post # 6
Last year I went to a wedding with about 40 guests. There wasn’t a seating chart, and everything worked out in the end BUT there was some awkward confusion at the beginning because the bride’s parents thought they should be at the ‘head table’ or the table closest to it, and those seats were already taken. If you don’t do a seating chart and you have a general idea of where you want some people, maybe you could ‘reserve’ a few seats (bridal party, parents, etc.) and leave the rest open?
Post # 7
The weddings I’ve been to without assigned seating have been super awkward.
We’re inviting about 75 so we’ll likely end up with <70 guests and we’re assigning tables and providing escort cards. It may be more work for us, but it’s way easier for our guests.
Post # 8
I think it is you and your FI’s decision. We are having 55 people and have chosen not to have a seating chart. Our garden wedding is informal and family focused. To be honest, even if we did do a seating chart, folks would sit where they wanted! lol
Post # 9
Yes, I think you need a seating chart. I attended a wedding a month or so back with around 50 people and there was no seating chart. The groom’s grandmother and mother ended up sitting somewhere with a bad view of the wedding party and the grandmother’s walker wasn’t taken into account and she had a miserable time.
Post # 10
My daughter invited 65 people to her wedding-and did not have a seating chart. It worked out fine. Although I did notice that his closest friends and SO sat at one table of 8, and her closest friends and SO sat at another table of 8, except for those friends that sat at their table. We sat at a table with our family members, my brothers (spouses couldn’t make the long trip) and my aunts. It worked out just fine!
Post # 11
In my first marriage, at our reception we had around 80+ people. We did not do a seating chart but we did reserve tables for family. Also, we had extra seating so it all seemed to work out! I never heard anything bad!
Post # 12
We didn’t have one and it went absolutely fine. We had about 150 people, too!
Post # 13
We had 46 people at our wedding and used a seating charts and place cards on each plate setting. Pretty much all of the guests listened to the chart, but some of my family decided to switch around between them, which was fine. As mentioned above, you don’t want grandma sitting next to the frat boys or your parents getting a seat far from you or the last couple to sit down to have to split up because of limited seats.
Post # 14
We’re doing a head table, a sweetheart table and reserving 4 tables for family. The rest is open seating. My coordinator thought that would be fine. We’re having 135 people.
Post # 15
I went to a wedding of about 50 guests, and I appreciated that she had a seating chart.
Post # 16
Yes. A seating arrangement is needed no matter how many or few guests you have.