(Closed) Is a seating chart really worth it

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

If anything, reserve tables for close family members… some people are stupid and will take the tables closest to the front instead of leaving them open for parents, grandparents, etc…

I know someone who did this and her mom got stuck at a table in the back… not cool!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

DONT DO IT!!!!!!!! I have been to many weddings where I had to wander and find a place to sit.

AWKARD…

at least do a table chart. tell people what table to sit at but not seats.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

In my opinion, YES! Unless you’re having a very small wedding where everyone will know each other, I really think that a seating chart is necessary. I’ve been to weddings with open seating and it was chaos. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Yes, I think it’s worth it. I am grouping family and friends together so they’ll have people to talk to.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it depends on how many guests and how the venue is set up.  As a guest, I would be ok with finding my own seat if I knew most everyone there, or if I had a group of friends I could sit with.  However, if I were a guest at a large reception and knew very few people, it would be like walking in the first day of high school and trying to find a seat in the cafeteria… awkward and uncomfortable.

I also dislike assigned seating, but with two very large families who have very rarely met, we are assigning tables, but not seats. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

A million times YES! It is terrible as a guest to have to find a seat. People are trying to save seats for people the know, it is a mess. As long as you seat people in thoughtful spots (keep families together, don’t try to split families to encourage mingling) then I think guests really  apperciate a seating chart.

It also saves money money because you know exactly how many tables you will need instead of having to do extra to account for odd numbers sitting at tables.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@DaneLady:  That is exactly what we did!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ieatunicorns:  That’s my plan… so tell me- did it work out well?  Was it less stressful than assigning seats?  Any complaints?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@ieatunicorns:  agreed, it is no fun as a guest to try and figure out your table yourself. Don’t assign seats, just tables.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes it is worth it. I can tell from my extensive wedding expereince (as a photographer) that they are so worth it. Trust me, I’m not looking forward to having to make one for my 300 person wedding, but I’m going to suck it up.

The problem is, if you don’t assign seats you have people who will pull chairs from tables to join w/ friends and family. Sounds not too bad? Yeah, until you have several emtpy tables (that you paid to decorate) with no one sitting at them, or no chairs, becuase they’ve all been moved. 

Also, even the most outgoing people sometimes feel reservations about just waltzing up to a table of people they don’t know and asking to sit down, or trying to find room for their whole group. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

How many guests are you having? And do you have guests that only know 1 or 2 other people? If you are having over 75 guests, and have ANY people who don’t know another couple or group – YES – you absolutely need a table or seating charts, or people will be feeling awkward or left without two chairs together.  There is nothing more uncomfortable than looking around a room of strangers and not seeing anywhere to sit.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@rbuchanan09:  I actually have never been to a wedding without a seating chart, but I know they are popular in certain areas.

For my wedding, no one was forced to sit with someone they didn’t want to. We grouped the bridesmaids and their dates together, groomsmen and their dates together, hometown friends together, college friends together, my parents and their close friends/siblings, etc. We only had two tables of people not in a particular group and they really didn’t know anyone else either.

It ultimately depends on your set-up. We had round tables and were able to put anywhere from 6-10 people at them, so it allowed us some flexibility.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh, and a quick note that we didn’t assign seats, but we did assign table numbers.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I kind of hate open seating at weddings.  Please just tell me what table I should sit at for the 45 minutes it’ll take to go through dinner.  

Also if you don’t have assigned tables, make sure you have 4-5 extra tables and chairs because I can guarantee you’ll have people who skip seats and will end up with a bunch of 8 tops with only four people sitting at them.

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