Post # 1
My Fiance and I want a small wedding with immediate family only. Our parents respect our wishes, *however* we strongly get the sense that they would like to celebrate with their friends. In addition, we live in a small community where friends assume there will be a celebration that they will be invited to (i.e., “Congrats! When is the date? We look forward to celebrating!”). In an effort to stick with our small wedding, I’ve thought of two ideas to appease parents and friends – an engagement party (specifying “no gifts” since we want it just to be a celebration with no expectation for gifts) or a post-wedding celebration a few months after our wedding (same ‘no gifts’ idea). My Fiance is not fond of the latter idea since he thinks post-wedding parties are only suitable for a destination wedding. What do you think bees?
Post # 3
Both of my male cousins did this. They had a party back at my aunts about a month later when they got home from a honeymoon. I have no issue with this. I don’t have to sit through the vows and I get the food lol
Post # 4
I think either would be perfectly appropriate. Receptions months later aren’t just for DWs; they’re just more common.
Post # 5
It is perfectly fine for you to have a small, intimate wedding ceremony followed by a reception with a much larger guest list. This properly can be done on the same day as your small, intimate wedding or at a later date.
Engagement parties generally are not considered to be gift-giving parties, so there is no need for you to make any type of notation regarding “no gifts.” Although gifts ARE customarily given when guests attend a wedding and/or reception, it is not considered to be proper ever to make mention of them, even to request the absence of them. In other words, you should not make reference to the fact that you do not want gifts.