(Closed) Is a sweetheart table rude?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think its rude. Let the groomsmen bring a date and seat your kids with their grandparents. Win-win-win-win. (You get alone time, Groomsmen knows someone, your attendant with kids can sit with her kids without you having a giant head table, and your kids get to hang out with their grandparents.)

ETA: I’ve always been annoyed as a bridesmaid when I brought my Fiance and he didn’t know anyone and couldn’t sit with me. Hopefully your Fiance can introduce the Groomsmen who doesn’t know anyone to the other Groomsmen or some friends he might get along with during his bachelor party so that he will see few familar faces.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We had a sweetheart table and it was really nice.  The food was buffet style but our coordinator brought us plates to the table so we didn’t have to go through the buffet line and didn’t get stopped by people.  So we actually got to sit and eat and talk for a few minutes semi-alone.  Now people did come up to us and want to take pictures and whatnot but we got enough time to eat and have a drink before we started visiting tables.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had one and it was nice because our guests could come up and chat with us without anyone else there. We also had 50 people so everyone was close family and friends, I felt rude having to choose who we would sit with and who we wouldn’t sit with in such a small group. We could also leave the table whenever we wanted without feeling like we were leaving someone behind.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Definitely not rude.

My bridesmaids requested we go the sweetheart table route, b/c they were both bringing SO’s who didn’t know many others.  We had no issue with this.

We are actually doing what I call a Sweetheart +1 table because we are sitting with my FH’s 11 year old son.  To me, FH and his son are a package deal and I want to spend time with both of them during the reception, so I wouldn’t want to ship him off to sit with other family.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No it’s not rude at all my husband and I had q sweetheart table, it’s a good way to talk and enjoy each other when eating dinner. It’s great for photos

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Not rude at all, we are also doing a sweetheart table, this way the bridal party gets to sit with their SO, if someone in the bridal party comes alone we will sit that person at a table with another person from the bridal party so they have someone to talk too.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

definitely not rude.  It’s YOUR day and you can definitely do this table to have some alone time with your new hubby if that is what you want most! 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Not rude at all. If that’s what you want you should definitely do it!

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I wanted a sweetheart table, but Darling Husband really wanted a bridal party (with their SOs) table, so I let him have that one.

Maybe have special seating for your kids- like how some brides do the bride/groom or Mr/Mrs chair signs, you could have their names on the back of their seats. I have a feeling the little one would love that she had a special seat reserved just for her. 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My fiance and I are doing a sweetheart table. I would’ve liked to do what my brother did, which was the bride, groom, and their parents, but his parents are divorced and can’t share a table. As for the bridal party, my Maid/Matron of Honor is pregnant with her third kid, and one of my bridesmaids has a serious boyfriend who won’t know anyone else at the reception. So sweetheart table it is!

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