Post # 1
So I’ve been engaged for one month officially (YAY!!!!) and can’t wait to marry my wonderful man. I’ve been searching for venues, been to the bridal expo, and am thoroughly overwhelmed. We really wanted a small wedding to begin with, but due to a copious amount of friends and families, our guest list has now ballooned to 100 (much more that the 50 people I was aiming for).
Today, I just thought – What if we got married this Christas instead of next fall? Our entire family gets together for the holidays anyway, so we could theoretically get married at Grandma’s church (and I love the pastor there), and do a small reception at a restaurant afterward. Is this doable in three months? Am I crazy for even thinking this?? I’d rather rush the next few months than wait another year for some humongous wedding that neither of us wants anyway. Plus, we love Christmas time and having our families together would be so perfect.
Thoughts?? I think my family might think I’m crazy (or pregnant lol). But I just want to marry him, like, now!
Post # 3
Do whatever makes you guys happy! Get married in a week of that is what you want to do…it’s about you two as a couple!
Post # 4
We planned a tiny wedding in 30 days, totally possible and really fun!
Post # 5
You can do whatever you want.
That said, the hangups will be this:
1.) Do you want a certain kind of flower? Chances are, if it’s not a staple like roses or carnations, it might not be in season.
2.) Do you have your heart set on a certain kind of dress? Dresses usually take more than 6 months to come in, with many taking 8 or more. Three months doesn’t even leave much time for alterations, so you might be stuck with whatever you can buy off the rack as a sample or at David’s Bridal.
3.) Do you have your heart set on a particular caterer/type of food? December is crazy busy for a lot of caterers, as they are making the rounds for holiday dinners, fundraisers, company parties. And chances are, all the people hosting those events booked months ago. I’m sure you could find SOMEONE, but you might not be able to be very picky.
If you can bend on all of those things, I say go for it. I’ve seen some BEAUTIFUL Christmas weddings, and chances are you wouldn’t even need to decorate the church too much. But very short engagements are all about flexibility.
Post # 6
It’s very possible but your big hold-ups are going to be the dress and the reception venue. On the dress, if you can find something off-the-rack that needs only minor or no alterations, or something purchased second-hand from a private seller (recycledbride.com is one place to look), then you’re all set but if you are hoping for a designer dress, it’s going to be pretty hard to get it in time. Most bridal shops quote you 4-5 months turn-around on a new order, depending on the designer and their shipping frequency.
On the reception venue, you will be competing with office holiday parties and other big groups for the space so I would not drag my feet on this!
Post # 7
Thanks! I just always hear that you need at least a year. But that sounds like way too long for my taste 😉
@Nona99: Impressive! How did you manage the dress thing? I’ve heard most shops will laugh you out the door if you say you need it in anything less than four months.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Yes, it’s doable. We had a six month engagement, and realistically, it could have been shorter.
It took us about a month to find the venue, another two to figure out the caterer. If you have your church/restaurant already figured out, that can save a lot of time.
Dress: I bought a sample dress the first day I went dress shopping. Ebay or recycledbride.com are other options, or you could go off the rack- Nordstroms, maybe JCrew/Ann Taylor wedding dresses?
DIY: Don’t. Meaning- these can be incredibly time-consuming. I did our invites/paper items since I used to be a graphic designer, and we had DIY flowers-I had a Maid/Matron of Honor who’d done flowers for 2 other weddings, including hers, and two other helpers. But we didn’t have elaborate favors/flowers on the aisles, etc. Keep it simple.
In order to have a short engagement and not lose your mind, you need to make decisions quickly and not second guess yourself. If I’d had more time, I just would have worked on more projects- I wouldn’t have changed our venue/most of our vendors.
So I say go for it! 🙂
Post # 9
I would start by contacting the church and restaurants before you get too set on this. Christmas weddings are pretty popular and lots of restaurants book up because of Christmas parties. But, as long as you are willing to be flexable go for it!
Post # 10
@EffieTrinket: All good points. And I didn’t even think about caterers with holiday parties! Doh! I’ll have to start researching that ASAP
@fishbone: I’m with you on the dress thing. I don’t need a designer dress, but I do want lace, which would likely have to be altered. Like the little engine that could, “I think I can, I think I can” 🙂
Post # 11
I would think that the dress would be the biggest thing to worry about? Normally they take 5 months.
But if you already have that- I’m sure it’s possible!!!
Some churches don’t do advent weddings either.
Post # 12
I’m now realizing I should’ve started a month ago, when I got engaged. Then we’d have four months, lol 🙂
Post # 13
my parents had a 3 month engagement. you have to be prepared to not have everything you set your heart on, but it’s definitely doable!
yes, as the PP said, the church and venue are the first things you need to secure, then everything after that should be okay providing you haven’t got your heart set on a certain caterer/photographer/DJ etc.
congratulations and good luck!!
Post # 14
oooh and think about getting a dress from a department store. they do that in the UK at least and they tend to fit pretty well already – just like any normal dress!
Post # 15
I think it’s absolutely doable! If this is something you and your Fiance really, really want, I say go for it!! The day is about you and him, anyway, not throwing a party for 100 of your closest friends.
Post # 16
It is possible but depending on where you are, a Christmas wedding might be a bit pricier and harder to plan because of all the holiday parties/holiday events. I would definitely look into the venue and photographer asap! Good luck!