(Closed) Is a three-month engagement even possible?

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 17
2453 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@BeeandBeeBride27:  oh hell no you do not NEED a year! I got married about six months after I got engaged, and my planning was done in a week. I literally waited for my wedding day.

Post # 18
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@auggiefrog:  Yes, I totally agree with this! These are the most important things to get done, like, today! If they are not available, can you think of a back-up plan? Or would you want to push the wedding back?

Post # 19
4173 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@BeeandBeeBride27:  I found a Jessica McClintock ballgown on the clearance rack!  It was way too big, but it was long enough, which is what I needed and I loved it!  You’d be surprised what you can find if you stay out of a typical bridal salon…my gown was lovely and everything I wanted and I paid $200 for it….you can order flowers through Sam’s club, my sister did my flowers and they were lovely, and since my parents were members at a country club, we got the room for free and just had to pay for the food, since we got married on a Friday night, it was crab leg buffet night, no special menu needed!  An old friend of mine is a photographer, when she heard I was getting married she called dibs and did the pictures for free, my Mom and I are amazing with hair and makeup, so we did our own, and my Dad collects classic cars, so I rode to my wedding in a 1949 Packard and we drove home in a 1976 white Cadillac convertible!  All in all our little wedding, all things included cost under $1,000…and it was everything I wanted and only took 30 days to put together!  It can be done if you ask for help and think outside the box!

Post # 20
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s totally doable, but it will be kind of crazy.

My cousin had a 3 month engagement.  She wasn’t pregnant, they just didn’t want to wait to get married!

The first thing she did was book her venue.  She had a November wedding so there were a lot of places available.  Then she booked the church – again, not a lot going on that time of year so she had no problem with that.

Her biggest issue could have been her dress, but she went dress shopping once and bought literally the first dress she tried from David’s Bridal.

The bridesmaid dresses were a bit harder as they had to order a couple of them and one of the Bridesmaid or Best Man was out of state.  Fortunately, she was able to go to the David’s Bridal in her state to try them on so she knew what size to get. 

It was a beautiful wedding and I think what made it easier what that the bride did not have all this time to research, and think about things, and change her mind, know what I mean?  It was actually one of the most stress-less weddings I’ve ever been in (I was a BM).

Best of luck and congratulations!

Post # 21
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

The 2012 Real Simple Weddings book has a couple featured that had a two-month engagement, and it was beautiful. If you can live with an off-the-rack dress and letting go of a lot of the more minor details, you can certainly pull it off.

The good news is that flowers and decoration are really easy at Christmas…the church should already be decorated, and if you need anything else, you can turn to string lights and inexpensive pointsettias from the grocery. A restaurant will probably only be able to accomodate 60-80 people, but they will already have cutlery, glassware, tables, chairs, and all of your other supplies. 

Post # 22
4173 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Post # 23
6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Easily doable and don’t worry about people thinking you are pregnant because they will realize you weren’t when you don’t have a baby a few months later.  Go for it!  I planned mine in about 4 months.

Post # 24
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I did it in three! Here’s how:

I aready knew what dress I wanted, so as soon as I said yes I found it used on the internet (it was too big, but alterations were much cheaper and faster than a new dress). We then booked our venues within a few weeks– this was the main stressor. Once we had this done, I wasn’t too worried. The ceremony was in a garden, so I hardly had to decorate at all. We had a full dinner-and-dancing reception at a restaurant. The one thing we didn’t do a good job of was getting invites out ASAP! As soon as you set your date/location! We had a lot of super last-minute replies. But what helped was that I made the invites myself and used the wedding website for people to RSVP online (no reply cards). It was a wonderful wedding! I am absolutely pleased with how everything turned out.

I think a 3-month engagement goes hand-in-hand with being a chill bride. You just have to accept that you might not have EVERY little thing you dreamed about, but you make up your mind to have a great wedding and love every minute. Good luck to you!

Post # 25
7039 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

There are so many dresses at J Crew, Ann Taylor, Anthropology, The Limited, Nordstrom, etc that are off the rack and ready to go that I don’t think the dress will be a problem! You can def plan a church wedding and restaurant reception in 1-2 months!

Post # 26
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you can do it then I’d say go for it! I always told myself that I wanted a short engagement but ended waiting almost a year. 🙁

Post # 27
3949 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You can do it! Plus the church will be already decorated for Christmas so you don’t have to worry about flowers for there!

Post # 28
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’ve been engaged for about 7 weeks and I think planning a wedding in 3 months would be TOTALLY do-able. The biggest things to check first would be church/reception hall availability and that all your key people can attend (especially if anyone has to travel), but beyond that – as long as you are flexible on vendors, I am sure you can do it.

Post # 29
4090 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Here in Utah the average engagement period is only 2-3 months!  It’s the norm!

So the majority of the brides here do exactly what you re contemplating.



Post # 30
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m doing it in 2 and we have a guest list of 100!  It’s totally doable, you just need to stay organized!  Make a list of what you want, what your budget is and start crossing things off as you get them done!

Post # 31
8 posts

I think you can do this if you don’t get too carried away with having to have perfection in every detail. Smile


My daughter and her Fiance are getting married on December 22nd because she and several members of the wedding party are in college and this was the only time everybody would be available. They’ve been engaged since late May so they’ve had a bit longer to plan than you will, but I still think it’s very doable.

One thing we discovered is that venues and vendors were NOT all booked up for that weekend right before Christmas! So many people told us it would be a nightmare because of Christmas parties, and my mother said “Every church in this town will have a Christmas program that weekend!” 🙂  But, to the contrary, we’ve had plenty of options available and very few vendors have said they are booked.

Your experience may turn out to be different, but we’re in an area where Christmas is a big deal and winter weddings are also common…and it really has been a breeze. I hope it will be for you, too! Best of luck!

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