(Closed) Is a veil too religious for a secular ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Secular
  • poll: Are veils for religious weddings only?
    Yes - the veil is a religious symbol, and you shouldn't wear it on your wedding. : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No - I do what I want. : (207 votes)
    83 %
    They are religious, but it doesn't matter -- no one will judge. : (30 votes)
    12 %
    If that's monkey pee, you're on your own. : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @EffieTrinket:  +1, veils have nothing to do with religion historically (I’m a historian) 

    Post # 33
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    There are lots of traditions that have their roots in religion, etc., but have evolved and they’re now mainstream. Although I am having a religious ceremony, I’m not a very religious person, but I’m still wearing a veil. Only for the ceremony, though, and there will be no covering of my face! Another bride I know is very religious and opted not to wear a veil at all.

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @mjoyelle:  This made me laugh!

    Post # 35
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    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m choosing to not wear a veil not for religious reasons, but for feminist ones.  That said, I agree with PPs that at this point they’re decoration.

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    The fact that it’s perfectly acceptable not to wear a veil tells me that it’s pretty much just for decoration.  Nobody can really prove what the origins were in the first place, either; I think it’s more likely that it’s just a remnant of times when women were expected to cover their hair anyway. 

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee

    To me a veil simply is an accessory. I personnaly won’t wear one, my dress will be 1930’s inspired so I want a nice hairpiece (with feathers or flowers and birdcage) to go with it. To me a veil doesn’t sound or look religious at all, it is just part of the bride’s multiple accessory possibilities !

     

    Post # 38
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I didn’t even know veils were religious. I mean I figured since most traditions in weddings started as religious, but yeah, nope, die hard atheist (raised by two atheists who were both also raised atheist by their parents too) and I wore a veil and my mom wore a veil, etc. It’s just a pretty thing that means “wedding” at this point and you never get to wear one again so why not.

    Post # 38
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Hahahaha, I think it’s the religious people who should be asking this question. If it’s being worn to showcase virginity, I know a lot of religious girls who wore one who were DEFINITELY not supposed to be. Haha! 

    I’m an atheist and wearing my grandma’s veil not because it screams “purity”, but because it makes me feel bridal and pretty and it was my grandmother’s on her wedding day. Plus, you will probably never be able to justify wearing a veil again in your whole life, so go for it! 

    Post # 39
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    PPs are correct. Veils come from the era of arranged marriages. They were also a status symbol… they showed that the wearer came from a medium to high social class, and the veiled woman was being shielded from the gaze of the scummy working man. They were supposed to give an air of mystery to the woman as well.

    Jacob and Leah is a good example of this… arranged marriages and political machinations. Veils have nothing to do with virginity or religion… honest. They’re to do with the ancient class system.

    Post # 40
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Hi,

    I know this is an old post, but hope to clarify the religious significance of veils. Veils were not just for brides, they were a common practice among many many cultures for centuries. In the Catholic church, women wore headcoverings until like the 1960s, and still do in the Eastern churches. Veiling is an indication of purity and virtue, it is true. But it also symbolized sacredness.

    In the liturgy, the most important things are veiled. The Eucharist and vessels of the altar are veiled until they are to be used or consumed. Women are veiled because they are precious, they have the sacred ability to nurture new life in their bodies. They are also the archetype of the Church, who is the bride of Christ. So, wearing the veil consciously reminds her of her spiritual Bridegroom (which is why nuns wear veils).

    However, the shocking thing culturally is not that women covered their heads, but that men uncovered them. Men and women until recently covered their heads in public nearly all the time. So you could as easily remark that it was ‘sexist’ to make a man uncover his head. 😛

    It’s true that veiling is largely traditional now, but few know why except ‘for looks’. We Christians know that it isvery hard to be material beings and relate to an immaterial world so we used material things – symbols – to help us. We were not the only ones, of course. The pagan mythopoeic mind was very intent on imbuing earthly reality with spiritual significance, as are Jews and Muslims and Hindus, etc. Most ‘traditions’ come from a religious symbolism, which is why the modern age is so intent upon dismantling them.

    Few people might care what the veil symbolizes, but I’d think it’s important to know the meaning of a tradition before you partake in it. I think it would be a very wonderful gesture on your wedding day 🙂

    Post # 41
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

    peachacid:  I am far from religious, but always pictured me wearing a veil. Who cares what it symbolizes, I dreamed myself in it so I’m wearing it!

    PS: We already have a baby, so we all know I’m not a virgin! lol

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