(Closed) Is a wedding party of 22 too big?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Is a wedding party of 22 too big?
    Yes, too many : (235 votes)
    80 %
    No, not too big : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Do whatever you want : (54 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 3
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted “too big” because it seems huge to me. But it is your wedding, so do whatever you want! If you want 22 people, have 22 people!

    Post # 4
    1645 posts
    Bumble bee

    Honestly? Yes. At least I think so. When I see wedding parties that big I think it’s ridiculous. 

    Post # 5
    5655 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’ve seen/heard of larger bridal parties… My only concern would be coordinating everyone…. ordering attire, fittings, pick up, etc. I know that our 4 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 4 Groomsmen were hard enough to all get organized.. lol

    Post # 6
    6892 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I think you should do whatever you want, just keep in mind…all of these people have to find and coordinate their attire (dresses seem to be a big issue for BMs). If I were you (not saying you SHOULD, but if I were in that position) I’d probably narrow it down to 8 or so each, so it wasn’t too overwhelming. I do personally get annoyed with bigggg parties as a guest because, honestly, I don’t like having my neck turned that long (stupid, I know).

    Keep in mind that not everyone even wants to be in the wedding party, some people prefer being guests and just watching the event. But, like I said, do whatever feels right.

    Post # 7
    1729 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @MissHoneyBun: Completely agree. To me, it comes across like you’re trying to prove something. JMO.

    Post # 8
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s too many. But like PP’s say it’s your wedding so ultimately you can do whatever you want. I think that you as the bride and groom will just get lost in the sea that is your wedding party.


    Post # 9
    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think that is way too many people. Personally I find, the more people, the more drama, the more stress. Just be ready for that.

    Post # 10
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MissHoneyBun: I agree completely! I think it starts to look like a circus with that big of a bridal party, and I would be afraid that people would wind up staring at the large bridal party during the ceremony instead of Fiance and me!

    Post # 11
    238 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Maybe you could have “honorary” bridesmaids and groomsmen who wear a certain color outfit, but sit in designated seats. One of my friends was an honorary bridesmaid with some other girls – the bride told them to wear whatever black dress they like, and they sat together near close family in the front.

    But ultimately, it’s your choice and if you want it, go for it!

    Post # 12
    175 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I thought 5 was already too many for me!

    Just my opinion but…

    The more people…the more headache.

    You have to consider their time (trying to organize a bachelorette/bachelor party or bridal shower where all 11 people can come!  If there’s going to be that many people there’s always going to be one or a few people that can’t make it), the look of the dress, BUDGET (not every girl can afford or want to fork out $100+ for a bridesmaid dress), and the more people means the more gifts you have to give out!  So the bigger bridal party, the more money you have to fork out too. 

    Post # 13
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    totally your choice.  I voted too big just because the last wedding I went to there were 10 on each side, I honestly thought the bridal party was never going to end at the ceremony, announcing etc etc.  It really threw everything off everytime they had to do something together. 

    Post # 14
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think that’s a lot of personalities to deal with during a stressful time, but if that’s what you want, go for it.

    It wouldn’t have worked for us, because we would have had more people up front than watching 🙂

    Post # 15
    4 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    whatever makes YOU happy! I’m trying to decide if twelve (6 girls, 6 guys) is too many!

    Post # 16
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    For me, it would be too huge. But…it’s your wedding! So really, do whatever you want! : ) The only thing I would be nervous about would be the budget…gifts for all of them, plus more people at the rehearsal dinner, etc. etc. etc.

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