(Closed) is almost 3 too young…?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

My cousin got married on her daughter’s second birthday and used her as the flower girl.  She was very cute. 

I think maybe if I had a niece or other small child that was two, I might not use her, but if it’s your DAUGHTER, it makes total sense and any lack of perfection can be excused.

Post # 5
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve seen an adorable baby at a wedding where they had a 5 year old ring bearer pull the little infant in a tux down the aisle in a wagon. Would your daughter be better at sitting and riding than walking to you? Or riding a little white trike or something? 3 year olds can be so unpredictable, but too cute when they want to be!

Post # 7
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think you’ll need to make sure you give someone the job of flower girl director. Their job is to keep her happy and help her walk down the isle, perhaps walk with her if needed on the day.

Perhaps the key to keeping her happy would be to make sure she likes her dress/basket. And perhaps to show her a video of a flower girl and tell her that that is her job.

I’m no expert but I guess you could always just decide on the day depending on how she is feeling. Could someone carry her down?

Post # 8
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Would you be open to the idea of having her walk down the aisle just holding onto something, instead of tossing petals? I remember being a Flower Girl at almost-5 and concentrating so hard on going where I was supposed to and remembering to smile, that I completely forgot about having to toss petals too – I’d imagine it’d be even more confusing for a 3-year-old!

@Tickles idea of having a Flower Girl director is good too, and I’ve seen it done; usually it’s the child’s parent/older sibling but anyone else she’s familiar with would totally do 🙂 Even if it’s just grandma telling her right before she has to go down the aisle to “walk to Daddy now”, that might be all she needs (depending on her mood and temperament; you’d know best!).

Post # 9
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My friend’s son was our ring bearer and he had just turned 2!  Our flower girl was 4.  They did really well, no tears, but they got a little off course. 

They were supposed to hold hands and walk down the aisle together, and my Father-In-Law told them to just follow him.  Well, he started walking off to the side of the church (hoping they’d follow him from the aisle), but instead they took off after him, running through the pews to get to that side of the church where he was walking! haha it was so cute.  My Maid/Matron of Honor ended up holding their hands and walking down the aisle with them.  It can definitely be done, but it just may not go as planned!

Post # 10
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think it’s fine as long as she has someone walking down with her.
And you realize beforehand she might not be up to walking down at that moment.

We had 3 flower girls, my niece who’s 7, Husband’s niece 2.5 and niece/goddaughter 1.5.

1.5 year old was obviously carried by grandparents walking down.
2.5 did not walk down the aisle but at bridal party introductions she was in a better place and walked with the other FGs and RBs!

Post # 12
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it depends on the child.  Our church won’t let children under the age of 5 participate in the wedding (flower girl, etc) because they’ve had too many issues with little ones getting stage fright and having melt downs. 

Post # 14
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had two almost three year old flower girls. One walked down the aisle with her brother, the ring bearer (he was almost 7) and one walked down with her dad, the best man. They were great! Except that one of them kept getting up during the ceremony to stand next to her dad.

Post # 15
325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I had an almost three year old and a one year old as my flower girls! The one year old couldn’t walk (she started walking the VERY NEXT WEEK… wish it had been a week earlier!) so my brother carried her down the aisle, just wearing the flower girl dress.

The three year old was the perfect flower girl. I bought a flower girl book that talked about being a flower girl, and we talked it up. She was sooo excited. She started throwing out a few petals as she walked down the aisle. When she got to the end of the aisle, she thought she had to empty the basket, even though it was still 3/4 full. She grabbed the petals one by one and threw them out. She refused to leave the aisle until all of them were gone.

It was sooo cute. On my wedding video, you can hear her mom saying “OK, it’s Auntie’s turn (because we told her that the girls in white dresses got special times to walk down the aisle– her first, and then me).” She turned around to try to see me, but since I was behind the church doors, she shrugged her shoulders and kept throwing down the flower petals.

It was definitely a “how cute” moment for everyone!

Post # 16
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@cyndistar3: At my mum’s wedding the flower girl (her niece) sat with her (the flower girls’s) grandparents (her mum was a bride’s maid) who were in the front row. That way she can sit down and not have to stand the whole time.

I was a flower girl, walked up the alter as told, promptly sat down on a step of the altar, spat on it and wiped it off with my dress. I was 18 months old. 😛

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