(Closed) Is any amount of bugging the SO ok while waiting?!

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 61
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elderbee :  

You’re entitled to your opinion, I’m entitled to mine. I refuse to be a cynic and negative thinker. I personally haven’t seen her mention anything abusive and didn’t see any post you’re referring to. I’m making my own opinion based on the facts I’ve seen. 


No need to be so upset by someone else’s relationship is there? Or is it more indicative of your own past?

Post # 63
7268 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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sdarrach25 :  Well this is the second time you’ve created a thread about your relationship that has a disturbing title. Your previous thread had this title: He won’t let me wear my ring at work. Really upset!


Your initial posts in both threads are also pretty grim; you sound upset and distressed about your relationship in both. Then the bees react to that, and you come back, backpedal significantly, add in new info to make the situation sound less bleak, and then get extremely defensive of your relationship.

For your sake I hope your backpedaling updates are truthful and that all will end well for you in this relationship. Good luck.

Post # 65
8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

When I read the title I thought you meant like bugging his phone with a location and/or keystroke and/or voice tracker

So really anything you do at this point is a win from my pov :p

Post # 66
433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Don’t engage when he brings it up. That just not nice of him. If he keeps pestering make a deal with him that if you can’t talk about it, neither can he. He’s not the boss of you, so if he wants you to stop something to stop that is very difficult for you, he needs to not make it worse. Then, once that is all settled, bask in the glow of not being engaged yet, because as soon as you are you’ll get all the questions from everyone. Wedding dates, wedding colors, am I invited, are you pregnant, when are you going to have babies. It’s obnoxious.

Post # 67
10651 posts
Sugar Beekeeper


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lovebee15 :  

I have  no idea where you got the idea of ‘abusive’ from , not do I understand the strange reference to getting  upset  about someone else’s relationship, which you then go on to attribute  to  a supposed abusive relationship  of mine.  I haven’t  actually  ever had one , but if I had, your baiting  reference would have been,  shall we say,  insensitive to a  high degree. As it is, it is  merely inapproriate. 

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sdarrach25 :  

I’m just going off your posting record  OP. If you are happier and more secure  than it suggests I am sincerely glad  for you. 

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