Post # 1
I went to lunch with some friends today and they asked me how my wedding menu planning has been going. When I told them what my desserts were, one of them looked at me blankly and said, “So, no cake?” I told her “Yeah, [FI] and I wanted to do something different.” Another long, direct, blank stare, and then, “Oh. Your choice, I guess. I just feel like a wedding needs a cake, you know?”
I thought that was so weird. I’ve known this girl a year, and, admittedly, she’s my most abrasive friend; that’s her personality and I learned a long time ago not to let it get to me. But how annoying is that? My desserts are AWESOME, btw! Fruit kabobs, Meyer Lemon parfaits, mini chocolate tortes with raspberry sauce, and petite New York and Butterfinger cheesecakes. I’m sure people won’t complan!
Anyone giving you and your FI grief for not doing the traditional tiered cake?
Post # 3
I’m not! Our venue offers chocomisu as a dessert option. That’s tiramisu on chocolate mousse (or something – I may have been distracted by my drooling.) Anyway, we’re bypassing the cake since wedding cakes are expensive and in our case, unnecessary.
My mom was weird about it, she said “You can’t have a wedding without a cake!” and I was like “Well clearly we can because that’s what we’re doing. I don’t think they’ll revoke the marriage license…”
She relented after that.
Post # 4
1. Chocolate tiramisu? YUM!
2. LOL @ your response to your mom. Perfect! I should have said that to my smarmy friend. I just laughed and said, “You’ll enjoy yourself, promise!” and one of my other friends changed the subject.
Post # 4
When I told my mom I wanted a dessert buffet instead of the big traditional wedding cake, she thought it was a great idea! However when I told her I was skipping all traditional wedding activites, ie the grand march, she replied “but you HAVE to have a grand march!” No, actually I can do whatever I want 🙂
Post # 5
A little off topic but it might make you feel better, I went to a wedding where the bride and groom didn’t want to pay the cake cutting fee so they bought a cake and paid for it, but noone ate it. At least you aren’t wasting your money on a cake that won’t be serves and your deserts sound amazing!
Post # 6
We didn’t have a cake, either! Our venue put together a GORGEOUS spread of fresh fruits, and the chef even carved a few. If people complained, I didn’t hear them. I tune out that kind of talk though. I think after a very nontraditional wedding weekend, including jumping off cliffs, partying at all hours of the day and night, and everyone traveling to the islands, people left their preconceived notions at the door of the terminal in their home airport!
Post # 7
I’m not doing a cake. WAAAAY to expensive, and our wedding is only 16, anyway. The restaurant we are using has an AMAZING chocolate bomb extravaganza that we are probably going to serve. It was just delicious!
Post # 8
I just got back from a wedding that didn’t have cake and the first thing a guy at work asked me when I got in the office today was ‘how was the cake?’. Who asks that as the first question related to a wedding? When I told them they didn’t have cake he was shocked, almost appaled. Telling me ‘but that’s the best part’–
Really? The cake is the best part? I think that’s kind of a weird response.
Post # 9
I thought my mom was gonna cry when I told her we wanted to do a pie buffet. It’s the thing my fiance is most excited about regarding the reception, and she was really upset! I don’t get it. She kept telling her friends about it and they were like, “what’s the problem?” She kept telling me “But wedding cakes are so pretty!” (and expensive…and never taste that great…) My aunt is making a small cake for us to cut. I don’t know why she was so appalled by it though.
Post # 10
we didn’t have cake. we had croquembouche, which is actually a french wedding cake but people still had things to say. we got a lot of “you can’t have a wedding without cake!” and “it’s bad luck not to have cake at a wedding!” and now people don’t stop talking about how beautiful and awesome and yummy our croquembouche was!
Post # 11
I am doing a dessert buffet instead of a cake. In all truth, I was REALLY excited about having a cake, but no one in the area where we are having the wedding could produce a cake that was 1) up to my aesthetic standards (darn you blogs!), and 2) worth a base price of $8 a slice (for real).
Instead, for about $8 a person, I am having:
– an assortment of cookies (sugar, lemon pecan, chocolate heaven)
– strawberry rhubarb tarts
– blackberry lime tarts
– cream puffs with custard and rasberry
– cream puffs with lemon custard
– turtle bars
– chocolate cupcakes, and
– carrot cake cupcakes
I make fancy fondant cakes (though never for 100 people before) so I know how much work it takes, but honestly, I feel like I am getting much more for the same money with the dessert bar.
Post # 12
We didn’t have a cake, but then again, our whole wedding was a dessert reception. Still, people kept asking when we were going to cut the cake. Um, what cake? There’s a million types of cake in here. There’s no “wedding” cake. Yeah, people thought it was weird, but whatever.
Post # 13
We’re not having a cake – – We’re having a Pie Bar. When I told my father he said to me, “whats a wedding without a cake…” I told him we’re having a Pire Bar and then he said “great whats a wedding without Pie…” haahaahaahaahaa
I think its becoming more more common to have a non-cake wedding. There are several brides that have cupcakes, cookie buffets, dessert bars, etc… Its just another way to personalize your wedding.
Post # 14
We have had a few comments and even people who have asked a million times what kind of cake we are having like they forgot or are hinting at they think we should have a cake. Im not a big cake fan and love love love our chocolate fountain set up! I am so excited for some chocolate covered rice krispies (especially after dieting all these months!) 🙂