(Closed) Is anybody else tired of the “Bride Attitude?”

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Yes! Thank you for this post. I feel as if the sense of entitlement now is greater for some reason. And it’s frustrating to see. I often find myself typing out an entire response to some of the posts here talking about many of the topics you mentioned above and deleting them b/c I don’t want to offend the entitled feeling bride. 

Post # 4
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235 posts
Helper bee

I agree with you sister!  I am trying to be so chill but when I do speak up for myself I am labeled bridezilla or demanding because of all the pyshco’s ahead of me! 🙂  I rarely ask anything of my bridal party but I have heard of a lot of friendships ending due to wedding dramz. 

Post # 5
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@swanks4tw: TOTALLY AGREE.

My Fiance and I planned our wedding for next year so that WE could save for OUR wedding and WE have been the ones handling things and not everyone else.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree!

The “this is my day and I can do what I want” has led to lots of bad etiquette and decisions.  Yeah its your day but could you be respectful and considerate at the same time?

Post # 7
Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Well to be honest I could easily see myself as being a Bridezilla candidate IF I didn’t have a wedding planner. It has nothing to do with feeling entitled and everything to do with my desire for perfection and need to control (things/details not people). EDIT: Bridezilla as in control freak, I’m not a mean person nor would I be a mean bride. 🙂

When it comes to weddings it is impossible to make any assumptions or classify any brides in a group together. Family dynamics, finances, personal and relationship issues make what seem to be the standard drama much more detailed requiring a closer look.

While I will agree that sometimes the complaints I see are somewhat “zilla” behaviour I can’t say that I am frustrated by it, especially as my situation while not drama free hasn’t been all that bad compared to others on the Bee.

 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I know! I couldn’t imagine being a mean bride. my planner said she wished all of her clients could be like me!

I had a similar experience: my husband accidentally cancelled the tuxedo order (it’s a long story, he thougt he was talking to a different store on the phone).  anyway, when he called the tux shop a few days before the wedding to confirm an extra-large suit, they were like “whaaaaa?”. then they scrambled around to get our order back together the best they could — they had thrown out all of our notes and measurements! they even ended up upgrading our tuxes to a more expensive model because the ones we chose were no longer available. they did this for free!

anyway, the point is: it was our fault, but they were amazing. of course, if they had not come through for us like they did, then it would have been my husband – not the tux shop – who heard it from me! 

Post # 10
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Newbee

I agree absolutely.

I was my best friend’s Maid/Matron of Honor and unfortunately she’s the type that’s “it’s my day and it’s my way”. and the even more unfortunate part is that her way also means “i want to please everyone” – so at the end, she couldn’t make any decision cuz everyone else wanted something and she would like this more or they would like this more…and I actually had to tell her that “yes it’s your day but if your way is not working and you can’t get everyone happy, you just have to make a decision” – yes, she’s an awkward “my way” girl. The more unfortunately thing is, cuz she was so strong about having it her way, her fiance couldn’t make any decision because it’s Her day and she wants other people to be happy…she ends up getting angry at him every other day and I was so worried that he would just walk out..it was frustrating and I’m glad it was over

 

Anyhow, but definitely I really dislike the bride-to-be’s that yell at their own frds and family…I was watching “Rich bride poor bride” and there was this girl that just made so frustrated even just watching her….she wanted to be THE princess and yelled at her own mother, went over budget by $10,000 and did not feel sorry that her fiance had to pay 75% of it..

Post # 11
Hostess
11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@chx_101:went over budget by $10,000 and did not feel sorry that her fiance had to pay 75% of it.

Is it just me that finds it confusing when brides say their Fiance are paying for something without a thought? If you are married isnt it the same pool of money? In other words you are in essence paying for it too?


Post # 12
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@swanks4tw: Hear, hear!

Post # 13
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Treejewel19: this part I don’t understand either when I read it.

This is a fantastic post.

Post # 14
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Treejewel19 – that confuses me too!

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

+ 1

Post # 16
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858 posts
Busy bee

some women do lose their damn minds and go off the deep end when they are getting married (bridezillas is a perfect example) what pisses me off is anytime a woman speaks her mind or stands ups for what she wants in her wedding people label her as a bridezilla. Its like a bride cant have her own opinion about her wedding

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