(Closed) Is anybody NOT completely open with FI? Bodily function wise?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i feel the same as you. my husband has no problem burping and farting in front of me (tho sometimes it is an accident). i’m very private about those kinds of things and don’t do them in front of other people. my husband hates it. he says he wants proof that i’m human, haha. 

the only thing we ocassionally do for each other is pop pimples and it took me a long time to even come around to doing that. every once in a while we’ll use the restroom in front of each other, but only to pee. it’s pretty rare that we do that tho.

Post # 4
2412 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think your more normal lol. I’m in the opposite group where we do everything around each other but I think its cos being around my hubby he’s just like my best friend so I don’t remember not to fart etc and he doesnt care he’s the same. 

Post # 5
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We pee in front of each other, we sometimes say things like my stomach isn’t feeling well, I threw up, or I had to run to the bathroom…I think I ate something bad, are you feeling ok?


Sometimes I need something in the ensuite bathroom when he’s in there for a lonnnnng time, and I just have to run in and grab it or I’ll never be ready on time.  When I am going poop, no way is he coming in there. If the door is open or jar I’m peeing and it’s fair game.  If it’s closed, don’t you dare open it.


He farts ALL the time around me.  I don’t REALLY care but sometimes I’m like dude – really?  It’s not attractive when you can’t even TRY to be discreet.  The only time he hears me fart is if it’s totally by accident.  He doesn’t really burp much, probably because he just farts it all out! And I only ever have to burp if I’ve had a big sip of beer or pop and it’s uncontrollable and accidental.  I’mnot a gassy/burpy person.  Can’t even do it on command!


Zits, meh, they’re nothing, doesn’t bother me at all.  I have endometriosis and bleed whenever my body feels like it lately (waiting for another surgery date) so I can’t exactly hide that from him if I wake up and it’s everywhere randomly – embarrassing at first but now I don’t even think about it since it’s been going on for 2 months straight this time and I say this time because over the last 5+ years it’s happened often enough that I’m over embarrassment and into the get my effing uterus out of me stage.


Post # 6
38 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think it depends on the people, and the type of relationship you have.

Some couples are naturally open, and have no shame. Others are more conservative.

I don’t believe that either is ‘wrong’.

Personally, there is not much left to the imagination between my fiance and I. After being together for 10 years, it slowly became OK to fart in front of eachother.


Post # 7
4371 posts
Honey bee

We close bathroom doors and stuff like that. I like keeping some mysteries. 

Post # 8
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We fart, but don’t have farting contests or make a big scene about it. We close the bathroom door but sometimes pee if we need to and the other is in there. We don’t pop zits but I’ve pulled a few stray hairs from his ears and neck. We are pretty comfortable around each other but try to be somewhat polite. I think it’s a bit weird when women won’t do anything unattractive around their SO after being together for years, but hey whatever floats your boat.

Post # 9
6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

We aren’t squeamish at all about periods. But I am absolutely squeamish about farting and #2. I am fine telling him I have to pee, but if I have to go #2 it’s “I need to go to the bathroom” and if it’s diarrhea, it’s “I just got sick”. I go in there, turn the faucet slightly on to muffle the noise, put TP down, and hope he is doing something noisy. Sometimes I even do it before my shower so that I know there’s no way he will come in after.

I joke with him that I only poop twice a month, and say the only time I fart is when I’ve eaten something decadent or something that didn’t agree with me. I know he doesn’t believe me and that’s not even really the point. It’s just this weird thing, like I don’t want him to associate those things with me. We are super open in all other areas of the relationship.

And I will belch song lyrics and pee in the woods in front of him.

Bodily function hangups are weird. And yeah, I probably need therapy. Oh, well.

Post # 10
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I draw the line at pooping with the door open. Other than that, whatever. 

Post # 11
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In our second year of dating, Fiance and I got food poisoning at the same time, while we were living together, with only one bathroom. All mystery was lost at that point. Good thing he’s my best friend. 🙂

Post # 12
1805 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Before we got engaged we didn’t do any of the above. After the engagement he would fart/burp in front of me once in a while. After the wedding his burps and farts aren’t hidden at all! lol I don’t do any of the above though, I don’t see myself ever peeing, pooping, or farting in front of him.. but who knows maybe one day hahah

Post # 13
9097 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Not here. We might as well not have a bathroom door since there is absolutely no privacy between us. Everything we do, bodily wise, we don’t keep from the other.

Post # 14
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Mr TTR and I have been together going on 8 years now… and we KNOW a lot of things about each other… but at the same time we are very respectful of each others need for privacy.

Lets face it… as adults of a certain age (in our 50s and 60s) and having raised children… WE KNOW a great deal about bodily functions first hand, including toilet habits. 

As this is something that is common to every other human being on the planet, so for us we’ve decided there is no real need to share this part of our lives with one another… flatus is a byproduct of a natural process… be they expelled by belching, farting or when we have a bowel movement.  Mr TTR and I certainly dont need to “smell each others stink” just to be aware that we are both well functioning humans.

As a courtesy to each other… we regularly use the Bathroom at the farthest end of the house from where the other is located for our dialy “reading time”

Just makes sense to us.

That said, I do know that if either of us were ill (and we have been in our relationship), that although we’d be dead-embarrassed not being able to see to our own needs… we know that the other would have no qualms about helping the other if the situation warranted.


Post # 15
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance works in nutrition.  I think we’re disturbingly open on this subject.

Post # 16
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have always drawn the line at poos and tampons (I think I showed him one once, but didn’t demonstrate how I changed it). Bathroom door is locked, stay out. We’re completely open about what is happening, but he doesn’t need visual confirmation.

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