(Closed) Is anyone afraid their ring will be ugly?!?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

You can’t figure out the payment without knowing how much he put down. Also, jewelers don’t always have their entire stock on their website (unless it was a chain, in which case they typically do). 

I was pretty concerned that my Fiance would pick out a ring I wouldn’t like because he was planning to just go to a jeweler and buy whatever struck his fancy. I asked him if we could pick out my ring together so that’s what we did. (Actually, I mostly picked it out myself because when we went and looked he didn’t have any opinions.)

Post # 3
1165 posts
Bumble bee


(a)  what is EXACTLY a ring that you’d love?  Examples?

(b)  Does he know about the ring you loved?  Did you guys talk about this before he purchased the ring?

I know that the fairy tale here is for your BF to know your exact thoughts–likes and dislikes–but that’s not realistic expectation of your man.  You should calm down, wait for the proposal and worry AFTER you get the ring.  You are going crazy over something that you HAVEN’T SEEN YET. 

Just calm down, wait for the ring, and decide when you have it. 

Post # 4
1439 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I picked my ring so a bit different but after it was ordered it didn’t show on the jewellers website anymore. It also varies depending on how much he has already paid (as someone else said).

Try not to panic too much. It might be amazing and something you will love forever.

Post # 5
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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maddyboo:  yeah, i agree with the PPs that said you have no way of knowing which ring it is. The price calculator online is just a rough estimate and doesn’t take into account several factors such as his credit rating, how much he put down, what the finance term is, any sales going on, what size/quality center he chose etc…

Did you ever tell him what you wanted or show him styles you liked?

I would try not to worry about it til it happens.

Post # 7
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

This so reminds me of Carrie on SATC… when she finds the first ring Aiden bought her. And promptly throws up.

I totally feel you and thats why I have a very public Pinterest board of engagement rings. My very good friends know what I would like so I’m hoping he’s taken what I’ve put out there into consideration. I’m worried too that its going to be something I don’t like or isn’t my taste but its out of my hands entirely!


Post # 8
107 posts
Blushing bee

I picked out my ring, but before I did, YES, I was worried about that.


Before we looked at rings, I would drop some subtle hints to my boyfriend, like, “oh, so-and-so is engaged.  I don’t like her ring at ALL.”

My boyfriend did tell me that his family has an heirloom ring that he could have given to me, but he didn’t because he knew I wouldn’t like it.  (I don’t like vintage-style things at ALL, so he’s probably right.  I’m glad that he knows my style!)

Post # 9
1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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maddyboo:  I too saw an email between my boyfriend and the jeweler accidentally (total surprise, I had NO IDEA that he was even thinking of proposing).  It was clear that he was getting yellow gold and I was kinda bummed.  I understood why he would, since he had only ever seen me wear yellow gold (i don’t like silver on my skin tone) but I was never of fan of yellow gold WITH diamonds, I thought it was garish.  I thought I wanted platinum or white gold for a diamond ring.

Anyhow, he did give me a yellow gold solitaire and within a few days I realized I loved it and was glad to have yellow gold.  

As the PP’s have already said, you can’t tell anything by just the monthly payment, too many variables that you don’t know about.  Don’t worry about it, just be excited for now.  If you don’t like the ring then cross that bridge when you come to it.  

Post # 10
605 posts
Busy bee

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maddyboo:  I say go to the store and check them all out in that price range.

Unfortunately what’s done is done, he’s bought it but you can at least go see them in person because I did, I browsed the store my Girlfriend is getting it from and the ring I consider “The one” is exactly what I told my Girlfriend, I HATED and would NEVER want….OOPS!

In person is very different than online. Also, just remember whatever the ring is is going to be a ring that reminds him of you. It’s going to be beautiful. I know it.

Post # 11
3087 posts
Sugar bee


Well, since I am  not expecting an engagement until probably two years from now…

I am not afraid it will be ugly because my man has VERY good (and expensive) taste.

Post # 12
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I picked out my ring, but before I did, I was worried.

My Fiance and had been to a few jewellers and discussed a custom design. I wanted a very intricate ring/shank and an emerald cut centre stone. But if I was able to get the intricate design I wanted, I didn’t think the emerald cut would go with the ring, but the jeweller said it would. After we got home, I was worried and told my fi to hold off on getting it. But he didn’t bring up again for many months. 

So when I found the box, I was terrified I would not like it. So I didn’t open the box, and I waited a few more days til he proposed. 

Turns out the quote for my ideal design was way out of price range, so Fiance just picked a random ring (typical round cut) and presented that to me when he proposed. 

When we got back from vacation, I traded the ring for the one I wanted, and couldn’t be happier.

So! Try to stay positive. There’s a good chance that you will love it! Don’t worry if you don’t like it unless that time comes. Keep us updated! 

Post # 13
258 posts
Helper bee

My SO knows my taste down to the ground and actually as it happens we like the same things, with almost EVERYTHING!  This is quite random and doesn’t come in handy that often, oh except when I have to trust him to spend a fair whack of money on something that I will be wearing forever.  Ha!  So I don’t worry it’ll be ugly, I do worry that he might spend more $$ than I’m comfortable with, as I’m paranoid about losing the ring (I lose things very easily) and don’t want to live in fear of that happening.  But I’ve told him that emphatically so I think he gets it 😉

Exciting that your SO is paying yours off now, ee!!  I’m sure you’ll love it, even if it’s not what you had in mind, the point is, it’s a symbol of your SO’s eternal love.  I mean what’s not to love about that.

Post # 14
2989 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I never worried because DH has strong opinions about jewelry and better taste than most women! Does your boyfriend have a good sense of style in general? 

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