Post # 1
I have been thinking about this a lot. Our venue is in the middle of nowhere on a back dirt road. It is 30-40 mins to the closest hotel so i doubt any guest will be staying at a hotel. I know my girls are the party type as well as some guest. Should I just trust that they will have a dd or what have you? Or should I hire a shuttle to take home bridal party and any guest who may need it?
Post # 3
I was just posting about my experience with this in another thread.
I went to a wedding last month that was in a similar location. They hired two shuttle busses to pick up their close local friends and out-of-towners. We all like to party. Having transportation provided was a wonderful idea!! Then everyone is free to celebrate without worry.
If you can afford it, I highly recommend it.
If you can’t, let everybody know well in advance exactly how far it is. And maybe they can take it upon themselves to chip in and organize a shuttle bus or limo and split the costs amongst them.
If you do provide transportation, please inform your guests in advance exactly where/when to meet the shuttle.
The wedding I went to was a mess and a lot of us got stranded and stuck with $$$ cab fare after the bride & groom cancelled one of the shuttles. It was a miserable experience. And then trying to get cabs at the end of the ceremony was a nightmare. There were about 16 of us stranded in a canyon almost 2 hours after the wedding was over. And then there was more $$$ cab fare to pay.
Post # 4
This is exactly why my husband talked me out of using our family farm. He was afraid someone would get in an accident on the way home, and on top of possibly losing a friend, he thought we might get sued. I’d get a shuttle, and a block of rooms. Then you’ll have peace of mind. Is this private property? You might want to look into whether you could be at fault for providing alcohol too…
Post # 5
We’re getting a shuttle and reserving a block of rooms. The shuttle is costing more than we would like, but I think it will be worth it. I just hope people are not too stingy to pay for the hotel that night!
Post # 6
We’re having our wedding at the hotel where we blocked rooms, so we don’t have that problem! This is exactly the reason I wanted to have the reception at an inn or a hotel.
Post # 7
Honestly – I think you have to trust that your friends / family are adults! I’d never drink to the point of not being able to drive without having either planned for a Dirty Delete in advance or planning to take a cab. I think that providing a shuttle is just an unnecessary expense (and they are a ton of money too).
I’ve never been to a wedding that provided a shuttle and not one person has ever had a problem finding a Dirty Delete or a cab.
Post # 8
We booked transportation for our guests. Much like yours, our venue was miles away from the hotel block (I came from a hometown that does not allow chain restaurants, hotels, etc so teh nearest was the next town over.) We told guests the shuttles would pick up at the hotel three times prior to the ceremony, then leave the reception every 30 minutes
We did trust our guests, but I was not about to even allow the chance that we get sued or, god forbid, someone we love get hurt.
Post # 9
@Mrs.KMM: I agree. Be a grown up. Stay under .08, arrange for a ride from a nonintoxicated fellow guest, call a friend to pick you up, or get a cab. A shuttle seems like a nice thing to do, but it would also be nice to pay for their plane tickets and hotel rooms.
Post # 10
My mother was concerned about our guests drinking, mainly because she’s attended very few events where alcohol was served, let alone hosted one. So, I did research on shuttles, and they were all insanely expensive because you have to rent them for the entire 5-6 hours of the ceremony and reception, or else your guests will have to drive to the reception and leave their cars there all night, which no one wants to do, and wouldn’t work with the next day’s wedding at the venue. We trusted our guests to be responsible adults. We printed a local taxi number in clear large numbers on our insert in the Out of Town bags and let people figure out their own lives from there. I heard several people discussing getting a cab, including my in-laws, but do not know whether anyone did.
I will say though, it was easier for us because getting a taxi at our venue was reasonably priced given its proximity to major centers of population, and the drive from the venue to the hotel was only 3.5 miles. Being in the middle of nowhere down windy roads does make things a lot more complicated. I know as a guest in that situation, I’d appreciate the hell out of a shuttle. But sometimes it’s just not possible.
Post # 11
@IvyClimb: I will say though, it was easier for us because getting a taxi at our venue was reasonably priced given its proximity to major centers of population, and the drive from the venue to the hotel was only 3.5 miles. Being in the middle of nowhere down windy roads does make things a lot more complicated. I know as a guest in that situation, I’d appreciate the hell out of a shuttle. But sometimes it’s just not possible.
This was the experience we had last month. The wedding was about 30 miles away from where everybody lived and up in a remote canyon in the middle of nowhere. Driving out of there even after two glasses of wine would have been dangerous given the narrow, windy roads and lack of street lights.
The bride and groom are PARTYERS as are all our friends. Shuttles were greatly appreciated. However, they ignored their headcount and cancelled one of the shuttles which we didn’t know about until the day of. It was a nightmare. A lot of us got stuck with $$$ cab fares and also got stuck in the remote canyon for almost 2 hours after the wedding was over waiting to see if we could even get a cab to come up there. It was ridiculous.
@Engaged_With_Love – if you can afford shuttles, please do it. Your guests comfort and safety should be a priority.
If you can’t, please let everyone know well in advance what the situation is. Maybe they can sort out their own shuttle and have everyone pitch in.
If we had known we were going to be stranded like that, we might have just gone in a limo with a bunch of people.
Post # 12
I have been worrying about this lately. I don’t think shuttles or anything like it will be in the budget. I think I will try to advise people ahead of time that there will be an open bar and to please arrange transportation as needed. We’re also talking about closing the bar an hour before the reception ends, and ordering a bunch of pizza for any late night partiers, to help sober them up.
But in the end, I have to trust that everyone there is an adult and should know their own limits.
Post # 13
Our venue doesn’t have a curfew or stop-time, so people don’t tend to leave all at once. What they suggested was to have a sedan on call for people and people can trickle out during the night. I think this is what we’ll be doing – we’re in an are where cabs are available and the ride is more like 10-15 minutes, though, so we have a lot more flex room.
It’s not a matter of not trusting our guests – I know hardly anyone who would drive while intoxicated. It’s about not wanting guests having to be a designated driver if they don’t want to and inviting everyone to celebrate with us without having to worry if a third drink is too many.
Post # 14
For what it’s worth, I sort of wish we had had a shuttle service because I didn’t want people to have to limit themselves if they wanted to have a good time, and because I work in public health and am fairly risk-averse so I immediately had visions of all of the guests driving off a bridge after the wedding. However, it wasn’t really logistically feasible since our guests were spread out across hotels, the ceremony and reception were in different places (30 minutes apart), etc. I wish I had worked out the logistics early on and figured out a way to get everyone there and back safely.
That being said, if it’s not meant to be in the budget, don’t worry about it. You can facilitate carpools and DDs (which most of our friends did on their own, but you could offer to help coordinate that if you have a lot of guests who don’t really know each other very well), and actually my Father-In-Law booked a small shuttle just for certain members of his family who have, um, full blown drinking problems and just could not have driven home safely. They didn’t seem embarrassed about it, they just thought they were getting special treatment as family members, so it was not as though they realized they were being singled out or anything. If you have people who are of particular concern to you that might work.
Post # 15
Our reception will be going until 10, but the liquor will stop at 9. Hopefully that will give most folks time to sober up.
Post # 16
I got my girls a hotel room for just this reason and luckily my hotel is offering shuttle service from the wedding to the hotel.