Post # 1
I’ve always been Katie. After I got my masters and got a real professional job, I’ve wanted a more professional sounding name. Plus, I can’t imagine being middle aged and still being “Katie”. However, to me, Kate sounds like nails on a chalkboard with my current last name. (Dull, one-syllable.) I tried going by my full name, Kathleen, but it feels waaay too formal with me and I’m in the mental health field, where I try to get a comfortable rapport with clients – it doesn’t work when I stiffen every time I hear my name. I’m just not a Kathleen.
Kathy…not me at all. Nothing against the name, just doesn’t fit ME.
So Katie it is. However, Kate sounds awesome with FI’s last name. I think I want to try it out.
Is anyone else doing something similar? How do/did you go about it? I’m thinking of just letting people continue calling me what they want (most people call me Katie; a few friends and family have decided on their own to call me Kate; a few people who have known me since I was a baby still call me by my cute-but-unfortunate childhood nickname of Katie Jo) and introducing myself to new people as Kate. I mean, do you announce something like this to people or just put “Mark and Kate Lastname” on the thank-you cards and let people figure it out? LOL.
Post # 3
I am but not for the same reason.
My legal name is a butchered up English version of my Chinese name. When I was naturalized I chose to keep the Chinese name. And I’ve always kinda regretted it so when I take FI’s last name I’m going to legally change my first name to my English first name that every knows me by anyway.
For Example if my Chinese name was “San Yee Chan” the English name I’m known as to everyone (family, friends, work) is Sandy Chan. So I’m going to legally change my name to Sandy Smith. Hehe obviously none of which are my real names!
Should be interesting to introduce my self with a very much German last name. Me being a tiny petite Asian and all! 🙂
Post # 4
I am. I’m changing my first name to the nickname I’ve been known as my entire life and my birthname to my middle name!
Post # 5
I’m not but my Maid/Matron of Honor plans to legally change her first name when she gets married. Her first name is a combination of her mother and father’s names… very unusual (they made it up) and she has always hated it. She goes by a very common nickname, so she is just going to make that her legal name.
Post # 6
I would just put “Mark and Kate” on your thank-yous and let people figure it out.
Be prepared that some people won’t be able to stop calling you Katie. Not because they don’t respect your wishes, but because that’s how they know you! I think if you make an announcement of sorts, you run the risk of 1) making people uncomfortable who find it difficult to call you by a new name, and 2) being in a weird situation if you find you’d like to stick to Katie or some other variation instead of Kate.
Kate really isn’t a huge change from Katie…I had a friend who pretty easily shifted from being called Anne to being called Annie. I think if that’s how you begin to refer to yourself, the change will take place gradually and naturally.
I wish I had a name I could do that to! 🙂
Post # 7
Its going to be really hard for people to make this change at this point, but if you really want to, go for it! By The Way I have a good friend named Katie in her early 30s, a professional who works in finance and it never occurred to me that Katie was a young sounding name 🙂
Post # 8
i am also a katie and am in the same boat. i am 30 and a doctor. i am just embracing my name. i like it and even though it’s unprofessional, it says katherine on my nametag. there is no way my family and friends would change what they call me at this point and i don’t think it’s worth the battle. i will be a middle aged katie and proud of it 🙂
Post # 9
Yeah, I think ya’ll are right. I don’t care so much if people call me Katie if they’re used to it. I’ll answer to Katie or Kate. I’ve even told people to call me whichever they prefer. So I guess it’s mostly professionally that I want to be called Kate and even at that, the people that I already have a professional realtionship with can keep calling me Katie.
I think it doesn’t help that I look younger than my age (I’m 28) and sometimes I feel like I have to prove myself more than others to be taken seriously. I’d like an older sounding name for my professional life. And I’ll probably change it on facebook, too, and see if anyone notices. 🙂
Post # 10
HAHA I’m also a Katie.. A Katherine Katie, I haven’t thought about it too much other than the fact that I hate naming your kid one thing and calling them something else. DUMB. anyhoo, I answer to anything really I guess we will see where things go, but I’m pretty sure I’ll end up Katherine with everyone other than close family who will stick with Katie. I kinda like the idea of being old, and my huband still calling me Katie- the informality of it is sweet I guess?
Post # 11
I’m going to change the spelling of my first name, but it’ll be pronounced the same. I go by the new spelling to everyone & some people don’t know that legally I spell it a different way. So it’ll be nice that it can be on my driver’s license :).
Post # 12
My FH has a name which has like 40 thuosand different possible nicknames and at certain points in his life he’s gone by all of them, (including his full name). the people who met him with a certain name still call him by that name even though now he might be going by another variation. It doesn’t bother him but he always refers to himself with the current variation.
Post # 13
My name is Tam and I hate it so I’ve always been called Tammy by request from myself, so I will be changing it to Tammy legally, Tam is a boy’s name in my language and im not a boy, haha. I think you would need to go to city hall to change it
Post # 14
I have a friend who went by his first name up until college then decided to go by his middle name. The weird thing is that if you call him by his first he responds but his wife is very fast to correct you.
Post # 15
@bohemian – it’s probably because his wife doesn’t like his first name. I’m sort of guilty of the same thing. My FH used to go by a variation of his name that I hate. He doesn’t anymore and hasn’t in a long time but when someone from his past calls him by that name it’s like nails on a chalk board to me.
Post # 16
i’m another katie! i been recently wishing that my parents called me by my formal name Catherine. -its pretty to me and more unique. – ya and dont even ask me why my parents spelled Catherine with a C but nicknamed me Katie with a K 😉 but a switch to katie to kate shouldnt be hard. when i started dated finace’s family called me kate- thats what they still call me to this day. so technically i am known as katie, kate and katie carlene (my middle name that my mom’s family calls me) lol. too many names!!!