(Closed) Is anyone else completely overwhelmed?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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nixnox :  im 4 months away and freaking out! I feel like I don’t have anything organised.

I keep reminding myself ive got a groom, celebrant, food and drink. Thats all we need for a successful wedding,  Anything else is just a bonus 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee

Yes! I do too. This sounds ridiculous but I sometimes have Wedding nightmares where the makeup artist or whoever doesn’t turn up! My Fiance has been very helpful but he doesn’t share my stress at all. 

Just hang in there! xo

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Me. This. All of this. I was so happy to get engaged but all my friends told me I needed to jump on a venue and date ASAP because the good ones go so fast. Kind of broke down in my office this morning looking at costs and wondering how we’ll pull off 180 guests (huge families on both sides) who all are so important! 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I’m the same, it’s such a stressful process. I would have eloped if I’d known! 

We’ve had a lot of negativity from some family members who have grumbled at everything we’ve done, too many guests, wrong venue, wrong location (what if the locals in the town we’re marrying in trash our guests cars etc.), wrong date, wrong food, too expensive dress, too many unnecessaries – i.e. photographer, cake, flowers – not providing a wedding car per bridesmaid, inviting children, too unconventional (people will think we’re weird because we’re having a 2018 style wedding in 2018, and not a 1980 style wedding in 2018) etc.

They’re not even paying!

We tried to prioritise key things we cared about, and key things we needed for our guests, first. So we booked church, reception venue, caterer, evening do caterer, bar and DJ first, plus a photographer. We figured centrepieces, favours, flowers etc are less important, as no guest will be that fussed – as long as they have food, drink and music and somewhere to eat, drink and dance, they’ll be happy. 

I have to admit, we’re less than 3 months away and I’ll be glad when it’s done and dusted!

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

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happyjuju :  glad it’s not just me! A family member says people will walk out of our wedding as they won’t like it, and I’ve had a few nightmares where everyone storms out. Logically I know this won’t happen, we’re having a very normal wedding, but anxiety does like to sow the seeds of worry!

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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nixnox :  Waiving at you from Texas.  Our wedding is in April and I am still designing my invitations!  I do however have some of the other major details hammered out.  Keep pressing forward…

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Our wedding was in September and I can tell you all that this is completely normal. When you hire all kinds of vendors, it’s hard to imagine how everything will come together and work out and look great, but I can tell you that everything will be fine. Our wedding turned out way better and nicer than I had thought it would. Just make sure you have the most important parts completed and communicate with your bridal party and everything will be great. Just enjoy the day and don’t sweat the small stuff because it passes by sooooo quickly. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee

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eirlys :  I can’t believe someone said that to you! Even if a wedding was awful (not that yours will be, I’m sure it will be fab!) I can’t even imagine someone walking out

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

It’s stressful and all I told myself was find the venue (church for us) and the officiant (priest at the church), and the rest will happen, or it won’t. Either way, we’ll be married. 

Once I had that in my head it went from “SUPER WTF DO I DO STRESSFUL” to “Shit, there’s a lot of things I never considered like napkin colors, but I guess this could be fun. I’m only doing it once.”

So, find the two or three things that are most important to you, get those squared away, and then just let the rest happening without stressing too much. Either way, you’ll be married, whether the flowers are white or red, the tablecloth is off white or eggshell, whatever the choices may be. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I am, for sure…I haven’t really started anything yet…It has been a month since my engagement…Gotta insure the ring first. One step at a one, I am taking a deep breath.

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

For me, it really helped to just focus on the important thing – getting married! If stuff goes wrong (and it will) that’s okay. Expect something to go wrong, go into it ready to laugh off whatever that something is.

And it’s supoosed to be fun! Don’t worry about it being Pinterest perfect or it being perfect at all.

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2018

YEP. Wedding is in July and I find myself putting off things I need to do/plan for it and giving it the, “I’ll do it later, I have time” thought. Some things feel too overwhelming for me to deal with!

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Oh yeah, at 2 years out I was having a ball, book a venue here, a photographer there, pay deposits… Now at 4 months I’m just starting to stress about organising all the smaller details. My advice is a big clear list on the wall of timeline, things to buy, things to organise etc. That’s what I’ve just spent all weekend doing anyway and it’s starting to clear my mind at least lol.

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