(Closed) Is anyone else feeling this way? (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you haven’t sent your invites, you can do whatever you want.  But you probably don’t have to completely change your plans, just downgrade them – then you’ll be happy and your guests won’t be annoyed by the change.  Unless the change is to cut them from the guest list, but they’ll probably never know about that anyway.

I get tired of wedding planning too, all the time, but for so many different reasons.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh, I completely agree.  I’m about to just cancel the whole thing and elope…but not really because I don’t have the guts.  πŸ™

Post # 6
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@lilgreenbee: Have you already told the extended family that they were going to be there?  It’s fine to change your guest list, as long as nobody knows yet who’s on it.

Post # 9
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654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@lilgreenbee: Whoops.  I think if you were really strict about the immediate family only thing, it would go over.  Not well, of course, but it would.  Definitely take some time to think about it.  Then take some time to not think about it – or anything wedding at all – and then decide.  πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel that way sometimes.  When I was feeling pretty down about the whole thing one of the bees suggested I take a break and I did.  I took two weeks of no planning, no brainstorming, no bee and I feel a lot better about the wedding.  Of course, do what you want with your wedding and if you decide a small desitination wedding is the way to go at least youll know you didnt make an impulse decision.  Good Luck. I think we all have are bad moments, at least I do.

Post # 13
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i have this feeling on a weekly basisFrown

Post # 14
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690 posts
Busy bee

This is a tough situation πŸ™  In the end, if I were in your position, I wouldn’t feel right drastically changing the wedding plans.  By ‘people pleasing’ you’ve set up some expectations/excitement for the day, and you would likely hurt people by suddenly changing that.  IMO, its harsher to have to tell people “we’ve changed our plans and you can no longer come like we discussed” versus saying “we’re just having a really intimate ceremony” all along. 

HOWEVER, with all that said this is YOUR wedding at the end of the day.  If you’re ok with people being upset/angry at the situation, you should definitely do what YOU want.  Just make sure you’re prepared for any back lash.

Good luck!  I hope you can at least find some form of compromise!

 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I felt that way pretty much every day for months before the wedding.  Everything got blown out of proportion trying to make everyone happy and it just got to the point where I couldn’t stand it.   Our wedding day was wonderful, but honestly I would have enjoyed it a lot more if it was more low key and more about us and less about the ‘show’.  I really wish I would have had the courage to make some drastic changes.  It was especially hard though because we  had so many people traveling from hundreds of miles away that we felt like we had to have something lavish, even though it wasn’t what we really wanted.  

My advice would be to take a little time away from planning to rethink what you really want. Go do something that you love that you haven’t done since the wedding has been taking up all your time.  It will help to clear your mind and I’m sure the decision will come to you.  I’m sure it will turn out great whatever you decide.  πŸ™‚  

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