(Closed) Is anyone else getting stressed out about the whole BM dress thing?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@organicgal: Oh, goodness.  Caused WAY too much unneccessary stress for me.  We finally agreed to the infinity/convertible dress from Etsy.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was the SAME way as you. In the end I let my girls each pick their own dress in the same color. I just made them email or text me a photo of the dress they picked for my approval. It worked out because they all got their dress in the exact same fabric, just different cuts and prices 🙂 Win win!!

We’re tying it all in together with matching shoes and accessories as well as their bouquets 🙂

Mismatched doesn’t look all that bad. Here is an example:

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I was a bit stressed out first, but there are other things that need more worrying over. Once I got my girls together at the store, I actually found something I really liked and they were comfortable with and everything fell into place.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I really wanted the same dress for everyone, but my Maid/Matron of Honor is much larger than the other girls (Size 14, 4, 4, 2), and she is also my sister, so I’m having her pick out hers and choosing one for all of the others to wear the same.  I actually still haven’t decided on the dress, but I am just using DB, so I know they will get here quick and easy to order as my BM’s are all over the country.  They have actually been very good about it, though and said they would wear whatever I picked.  It makes me happy, but for some reason, still stressful!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

 I really didnt overthink my bm dresses too much. I knew i wanted to stay with davids bridal because they are very affordable,  I didnt want my Bms spending more than 135 for their dresses. And since they are in diferent states davids was really the best.. and many of their knee length dresses arent typical bridesmaid dresses.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I love the look of mismatched bridesmaids. The only thing I think with that is that the length should at least be the same, and similar fabrics or it can start to look messy in pictures. it can look silly if you have a bridesmaid in a more form fitted formal, satin next to a bridesmaid in a flowy loose casual silk dress. so be careful. I also love the look of bridesmaids in different printed dresses. have you checked Victoria’s Secret? they have really cute dresses, and also an awesome convertable dress that I’ve been thinking about.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

So I think we’re definitely at the same place.  You’re not alone!  I thought I had chosen the bridesmaid dresses from JCrew too, even same color options as yours…but for some reason I can’t commit.  The good thing to know though, is that if you know someone that is a teacher they can get you 15% off of the bridesmaid dresses at JCrew.  It definitely makes a difference in the prices of the dresses.  I need to stop looking at wedding blogs, because it makes me want different bridesmaid dresses!  Good luck! 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Have you looked into Two Birds?  They have beautiful convertible dresses.

If that’s still too “bridesmaidy” for you, I would suggest BCBG.  A friend of mine went to a local BCBG outlet and bought all of her girl’s dresses (warning: non-refundable) for an amazing price.  They are truly party dresses and will be worn again.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m in the middle of bridesmaid dress stress right now. I think we’re either going with Alfred Angelo or David’s Bridal, but I’m waiting on my Maid/Matron of Honor (who lives 5 hours away in another state) to check out some Alfred Angelo dresses in person before we’ll know for sure. It’s challenging for me because two of my BM’s are plus size and the other is thin and petite and two of the three are apparently quite picky. Good times!

If you really love the J Crew dresses, they do have coupons codes sometimes so you can save some money. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was super picky and stressed out but then I loosened all the “rules” I had. Now my 3 BMs are picking their own dresses(big size range) from David’s in the same color.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@TheFutureMrsT: My bridesmaids’ dresses AND my dress came from BCBG!  Theirs was from the outlet (you’re right, good prices) but mine was from the regular store.

Don’t make yourself too crazy!  Have you tried taking your ladies shopping to some stores with you?  Or asked them to have a look around?  I ended up finding my sister’s bridesmaid dresses by searching lots of chain stores and taking pictures.  I sent them to everyone and we agreed on one after my sister ok’d it.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I got all of my girls together (5) at Priscilla of Boston and had them all pick out dresses they liked, everyone tried them on and narrowed the selection down to one final dress. Done and done and everyone had a say and got measurements out of the way in one visit!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I understand! I very quickly decided on the mismatched dress route, and am so happy and relieved that I did that. I think I’m going to go mismatched on the shoes too. They’ll all have the same bouquets, so it will work out just fine, I think – and the ladies were all so happy to have that choice! I recommend it!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I had a feeling it would have been a source of stress. I gave my sisters in law guidelines and let them pick what they wanted. I said it had to be black and tea length. One sister just wore one she had, the other used it as an excuse to get a nice new LBD, and my other sister found an adorable one for $6 at Target : ) Everyone was happy, including me!

 

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