Post # 1
Someone please tell me I’m not the only one!!
I started looking for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses at the end of last November. I actually found a dress in a color I loved from Ann Taylor, and ordered dresses for each of my gals (5). Well, I ordered one for myself too, just to make sure I liked it in person. I really loved the color and it was a very well made dress (that we also got on sale!), but, I felt like it just seemed a little to ‘bridesmaidsy’ and stiffy – just not really me or my ladies. Returned ’em all.
So Back to scouring, hours and hours of scouring! I will be honest here, I could probably pick an Alfred Angelo or Dessy Group dress or whatever, but thats not really getting away from the whole ‘bridesmaidsy’ thing. It kinda seems like a pain to me since my girls are in CO, MN, and almost Canada MN. So I’ve been scoping out J Crew, Gap, really anywhere I might be able to find a cute and reasonably prices dress.
I love, love, love the J Crew dresses, how you can do the same fabric and color but let each girl pick a style (I’d die for the dark pacific, organic green or aged driftwood in taffeta) but man are they expensive, and I just don’t feel right about it.
But I believe I am starting to go insane spending so much time looking for these things when there are so many other things that need to be done! I’m about 5 minutes away from going mismatched Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.
But first I think I am just going to email them all and ask more specifics on price range, style, or if they think they could find a dress if we went mismatched.
Has anyone else gone crazy with this process? Did you just say ‘screw it!’ and let them find their own?
Post # 3
@organicgal: Oh, goodness. Caused WAY too much unneccessary stress for me. We finally agreed to the infinity/convertible dress from Etsy.
Post # 4
I was the SAME way as you. In the end I let my girls each pick their own dress in the same color. I just made them email or text me a photo of the dress they picked for my approval. It worked out because they all got their dress in the exact same fabric, just different cuts and prices 🙂 Win win!!
We’re tying it all in together with matching shoes and accessories as well as their bouquets 🙂
Mismatched doesn’t look all that bad. Here is an example:
Post # 5
I was a bit stressed out first, but there are other things that need more worrying over. Once I got my girls together at the store, I actually found something I really liked and they were comfortable with and everything fell into place.
Post # 6
I really wanted the same dress for everyone, but my Maid/Matron of Honor is much larger than the other girls (Size 14, 4, 4, 2), and she is also my sister, so I’m having her pick out hers and choosing one for all of the others to wear the same. I actually still haven’t decided on the dress, but I am just using DB, so I know they will get here quick and easy to order as my BM’s are all over the country. They have actually been very good about it, though and said they would wear whatever I picked. It makes me happy, but for some reason, still stressful!
Post # 7
I really didnt overthink my bm dresses too much. I knew i wanted to stay with davids bridal because they are very affordable, I didnt want my Bms spending more than 135 for their dresses. And since they are in diferent states davids was really the best.. and many of their knee length dresses arent typical bridesmaid dresses.
Post # 8
I love the look of mismatched bridesmaids. The only thing I think with that is that the length should at least be the same, and similar fabrics or it can start to look messy in pictures. it can look silly if you have a bridesmaid in a more form fitted formal, satin next to a bridesmaid in a flowy loose casual silk dress. so be careful. I also love the look of bridesmaids in different printed dresses. have you checked Victoria’s Secret? they have really cute dresses, and also an awesome convertable dress that I’ve been thinking about.
Post # 9
So I think we’re definitely at the same place. You’re not alone! I thought I had chosen the bridesmaid dresses from JCrew too, even same color options as yours…but for some reason I can’t commit. The good thing to know though, is that if you know someone that is a teacher they can get you 15% off of the bridesmaid dresses at JCrew. It definitely makes a difference in the prices of the dresses. I need to stop looking at wedding blogs, because it makes me want different bridesmaid dresses! Good luck!
Post # 10
Have you looked into Two Birds? They have beautiful convertible dresses.
If that’s still too “bridesmaidy” for you, I would suggest BCBG. A friend of mine went to a local BCBG outlet and bought all of her girl’s dresses (warning: non-refundable) for an amazing price. They are truly party dresses and will be worn again.
Post # 11
I’m in the middle of bridesmaid dress stress right now. I think we’re either going with Alfred Angelo or David’s Bridal, but I’m waiting on my Maid/Matron of Honor (who lives 5 hours away in another state) to check out some Alfred Angelo dresses in person before we’ll know for sure. It’s challenging for me because two of my BM’s are plus size and the other is thin and petite and two of the three are apparently quite picky. Good times!
If you really love the J Crew dresses, they do have coupons codes sometimes so you can save some money. Good luck!
Post # 12
I was super picky and stressed out but then I loosened all the “rules” I had. Now my 3 BMs are picking their own dresses(big size range) from David’s in the same color.
Post # 13
@TheFutureMrsT: My bridesmaids’ dresses AND my dress came from BCBG! Theirs was from the outlet (you’re right, good prices) but mine was from the regular store.
Don’t make yourself too crazy! Have you tried taking your ladies shopping to some stores with you? Or asked them to have a look around? I ended up finding my sister’s bridesmaid dresses by searching lots of chain stores and taking pictures. I sent them to everyone and we agreed on one after my sister ok’d it.
Post # 14
I got all of my girls together (5) at Priscilla of Boston and had them all pick out dresses they liked, everyone tried them on and narrowed the selection down to one final dress. Done and done and everyone had a say and got measurements out of the way in one visit!
Post # 15
I understand! I very quickly decided on the mismatched dress route, and am so happy and relieved that I did that. I think I’m going to go mismatched on the shoes too. They’ll all have the same bouquets, so it will work out just fine, I think – and the ladies were all so happy to have that choice! I recommend it!
Post # 16
I had a feeling it would have been a source of stress. I gave my sisters in law guidelines and let them pick what they wanted. I said it had to be black and tea length. One sister just wore one she had, the other used it as an excuse to get a nice new LBD, and my other sister found an adorable one for $6 at Target : ) Everyone was happy, including me!