(Closed) Is anyone else having a maid of honor and a matron of honor?

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m having two maids of honor! My twin is one, and our mutual best friend since kindergarten is the other. They’re planning events together and such so it works out perfectly. 🙂

Post # 4
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

A matron of honor is a maid of honor that is married – if neither of them are married you can make them both maids of honor.  I am having my best friend be my maid of honor and my sister, who is married with kids, is my matron of honor. 

Post # 5
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had a maid and matron of honor. It is totally fine.

Post # 6
4767 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I always thought that was the same thing. What’s the difference?

Post # 7
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m having both! I also have three bridesmaids. One of my bridesmaids seemed kind of “shocked” I only asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, but whne I REALLY needed someone, my two MOH’s were there!

Post # 8
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Atalanta: Matron is married, maid is unmarried.

Sorry, read that wrong. From what I’ve been reading, the MAID is “first”. However, that seems weird to me. I’m putting my sister right next to me (Matron). There are several tasks the MOH’s do (rings, witness marraige license and others), so you can divide the wedding day duties between them. I’m sure they’ll both be honored to be your MOH’s, regardless! 🙂

Post # 9
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have both.  My MAtron of honor is married.  Maid is still single.  Maid/Matron of Honor is taking on most responsibilities.  Who will step up more?

Post # 10
5572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have both, my two sisters! I don’t see a problem with it!

Post # 11
447 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I had two maids of honor – my sister and my BFF.  They were cool with it (I had my sister come down the aisle last, which seemed fine due to the whole “blood relation” thing).  Then I was matron of honor in my same BFF’s wedding along with a maid of honor, her best friend from college.  We walked down the aisle together, but if it had been one at a time I think the maid of honor would’ve gone last.  We entered the reception together with the best man.

In any case, you can definitely have two maids/matrons of honor!  I see it often.

Post # 12
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Atalanta: Matrons are married; maids are not.

@jn732: I am having both.  I am the maid of honor in my matron of honor’s wedding in September.  My maid of honor is handling most of anything that needs handled (only because she is begging to, she *loves* planning things, so that’s fine with me!), but I asked both to come with me when I went dress shopping.  I am not really into tradition, so I’m not relying on either of them for much of anything, only because I hate the idea of burdening anyone, and for me, it’s enough that they’re going to both be there on my wedding day!  I also have four bridesmaids, and my Fiance is going to have a best man and five groomsmen.

Post # 13
7299 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@jn732: I have a maid of honor and matron of honor.

Post # 14
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I have two and they both are fine.  They aren’t friends either but they both are a great help to me.  Good luck

Post # 15
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

No, but I’m having two matrons of honor.  Except that we are calling them sisters of honor, because we don’t love the word matron. And I’ll have one brother of honor.

Post # 16
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Yea, I’m having Maid and Matron. My sister is my Matron, so she will be first, and my best friend is my Maid, so she will be second. I’m thinking about calling them both Maids… but not sure. I don’t really care either way.

In your situation, correct me if I’m wrong but you will have a Maid and Matron? Since none of them are your siblings, I would just order them by age or height. It doesn’t matter if the Matron or Maid is first. And they really shouldn’t be mad about the order–it’s your wedding, not drama for them.

Hope this helps! 🙂

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