Post # 1
I know this might sound mean. But on our invitations we are writing something like that.. and my wording is off.. “please find a baby sitter.. No kids at the wedding” We are allowing immediate family to bring their children with them but thats about it ( there will only be total of 6 kids)
We are having a smaller wedding and we dont want kids running around.. Plus our venue has a lot of expensive statues all around and we already hiring 2 securities.. So no kids
Is anyone else doing that? or do you girls feel that its kind of weird?
Post # 3
We’re having no kids! My cousin has 5 kids (a tribe of little terrors! LOL) so we’re just slipping in something with their invite that politely explains that the wedding is a child-free event and that they should feel free to have a night out without the kids! Apart from my cousin, most people we know don’t have kids so it’s not really a big deal for us. But I don’t feel bad having a child-free wedding. I don’t want kids squealing during my ceremony. And I’m a teacher so I’m supposed to be all about the kids! LOL! I am – just not at my wedding!
Post # 4
no kids except immediate family. I would love to have all of my friends kids there but the number is too high of a variable for me. All or nothing!
Post # 5
We aren’t having kids. But we aren’t adding a statement on the invitations, just addressing them to those invited. It is very common in both our families to not have kids invited so we don’t think the statement is necessary. And if people resond back adding their kids names we will call them and tell them otherwise
Post # 6
We aren’t having kids at the wedding either. My family were more understanding than I imagine. I am only allowing kids younger than 2 or over 18. My little brother of 12 will be the exception! I added a little note to the invitations saying “For reasons beyong our control, we won’t be able to accommodate children over 2 or under 18 at the wedding. We thank you kindly for your understanding”. I think it’s best to only address it to those who would bring them. That way you don’t have to have everyone see it on the invitation. Good luck!
Post # 7
We’re having no kids! We are doing RSVPs online and at the top of the form, simply wrote “Please note that this is an adults-only function, and that due to the intimate nature of our ceremony and reception, we are unable to accommodate guests other than those listed on your invitation.” And then we only wrote the parent’s names on the invitation. This hasn’t been a big issue thus far except with one person who will be breast-feeding (we REALLY didn’t want a screaming 3-week old baby there!) who thought she she should be allowed to bring the baby (we didn’t expect her to come with out it – we assumed she’d rsvp no!) – but even that was solved with relatively little fuss. I think it’s better to lay your cards on the table as early as possible so people aren’t scrambling for sitters at the last minute!
Post # 8
Add us to the list! At first, I wanted EVERYONE to come, including children. However, after taking a look at our venue space and our guest list, literally half of our guest list consisted of children.
After much thought, SIL and I decided to ask around to those who have children and every one of them said they wouldn’t have wanted to bring their young ones anyway. So, there we have it! We are having a “no children” wedding and the parents aren’t offended. Yay!
Our 1 year old Dear Daughter will be there for obvious reasons, though.
Post # 9
Yup. Inviting all the kids would have pushed out guest list up by about 30. When you’ve only invited 80 people, that’s a huge jump. Our space and budget is too small for it.
I’m waiting for the fall-out, though. I’m sure somebody’s going to be horribly offended. Oye!
Post # 10
Thankfully I don’t have a lot of friends/family with young children, and so we’ll have a max of 5 kids at the wedding. That being said, my brother is 13 and I have several other cousins around that age, and it’s brought up a few questions. How do you set an ‘age limit’? I think that a 13 or 14 year old shouldn’t be excluded because they can certainly behave and appreciate the wedding, but a 7 or 8 year old is too young (IMO). How does the Invite wording work there? Also, what do you do with family with a large age difference between children (say, one is 10 and the other 21)? You can’t tactfully invite one child and not the other, can you? Just a thought…
Post # 11
We are only having immediate family bringing their children as well since they are either in the wedding party (5 flower girls and 2 ring bearers) or infants.
On our reception card we wrote:
For an adult reception
Cocktails, Dinner and Dancing
Country Club of Someplace
Everyone got the hint and understands. We just couldn’t justify $20 for chicken fingers and french fries per kid. But honestly, we both have family who doesn’t do the best job at watching their children and we didn’t want to worry about them being watched after.
Post # 12
No kids but it’s not really that big of an issue. Very few of our friends or family have kids and those that do aren’t close enough to us that they would press the issue. If they chose not to attend because they couldn’t get a sitter or didn’t want to leave their kids at home, we won’t be heartbroken they aren’t there because we aren’t BFFs or close family.
Post # 13
In my opinion, no kids means no kids. That means the immediate family is not bringing kids. Including my sister/MOH’s 3-month old (yet to be born), and my 6 year old niece. No flower girls or ring bearers either. I feel that a formal wedding is not a place for kids to be running around.
Post # 14
We are not having kids expect for a flower girl for the ceremony only. We figured if we said no kids, that meant no kids unless they are part of the wedding party or it would run the risk of playing favorites. We wouldn’t want the message to be ‘we’ll have kids, except your kids”. We do understand however that we have several people traveling from out of town with children, so we have arranged for a babysitter to watch all the kids at one of the hotel rooms so that our decision doesn’t end up being an extra cost for our guests.
Post # 15
We didn’t have a kids, but we just spread the word rather than saying anything on the invite (we had 110 people so it wasn’t that hard). It was pretty much a non-issue because most people were glad to have a night away.
If you say something, I would just go with “adult reception” or something like that.
Post # 16
Yeah we’re doing literally NO kids. No flower girl, no ring barrier, no immediate family, nothing. The youngest person will be my 17 old cousin. But, that is made much easier by the fact taht there are no kids in my close family right now! The only children would be those of my parents friends, and since we are having a smallish wedding, they are not invited 🙂