Post # 1
We are thinking of using my parents’ house – the ceremony in the back yard and the reception in the front garden/on front patio/inside. What pitfalls have you experienced? What should I take into consideration? Any advice? How do I figure out how many people I can fit pleasantly in an area? Thanks!!!
Post # 3
I am having my wedding at my parents house. The house itself isn’t all that big, but we are hoping that the weather will cooperate, and we can do it outdoors, infront of their barn. I really don’t have much advice, since the wedding hasn’t happened yet. We are having the ceremony at their house, and then going elsewhere for the reception. I didn’t want guests having full run of their house/bathrooms, etc.
I don’t know how big you are planning on it being, but I found this page: http://www.stylemepretty.com/2009/10/09/backyard-party-by-jessamyn-harris/ which helped me think of a seating arrangement. (we are having a small wedding)
Sorry- I’m not much help! Good luck!
Post # 4
We were originally planning on having our wedding in the backyard, but then we thought it would cost us more and be more stressful in the end.
It would be more costly because we would want to make improvements on the house and I just didn’t want to be enjoying a toast and be interrupted because the toilet broke or someone needed a towel/hose because we missed the dog poop in the yard.
I think you need to be courteous to neighbors with parking and noise. If you have ultra-cool neighbors then that is 1/2 the battle!
I think it is a great idea tho!! Good Luck!
Post # 5
I love at home weddings! They are so personal and charming, and reminds me of the days when weddings were almost always thrown in the bride’s parents’ home. I’m having my wedding and reception at a family farm/cabin and I couldn’t be happier.
So, just a few things/questions ran through my noggin to keep in mind:
How large is the space for the reception? How many guests are you anticipating?
Depending on the size of your kitchen, it could affect the caterer’s work. You should ask them what they need to use the day of your wedding, if you have enough counter space for plating the dishes if you’re serving a plated meal.
Also, you need someone at your home during a window of time for rentals to be delivered or coordinate with rental companies in advance for set up and take down of rentals like tents, tables, chairs, etc. Timing can be tricky sometimes and you’d be surprised, for example, how long it takes to fold napkins for a table setting before the reception.
Clean up is something else that you should think about – make sure that you have enough trash bags and that you have enough space for the filled bags so that they’re out of sight during the party. Also, have an extra mop on hand incase of any spills or dropped plates.
If you’re going to have dancing, then I highly recommend renting a dance floor! It’s much easier on shoes than concerte or brick or grass.
Hope some of that helped! Let me know if you need any more help – my parents are both in the catering and event planning business so I can shoot them a quick email if you have questions!
Post # 6
I thought about having a wedding at my home. I live in a historic white farm house on 2 acres with farm land surrounding. I have always wanted a “down on the farm” wedding if you will. Anyhow, I started looking at costs of tents, dance floors, tables, chairs, linens, etc. and decided against it. I honeslty think that outdoor weddings at home are wonderful…I just could not justify the cost and the time that I was going to have to put into it. I am still doing outdoor, but chose a different location that is already set-up for events such as weddings and receptions. Good luck!!! =)
Post # 7
We thought of doing this. FH’s aunt has an incredibly beautiful property that would have been perfect. However, we realized it was just going to be too difficult. You will have to coordinate everything yourself..the cater, the rentals (tables, chairs, tents, dancefloor, etc.) if you have a lot of people you will probably need porta-potties. and then if it rains…that is kind of a downer. My wedding is going to be small (just 40) but it would have been to stressful for me (and more expensive than a catering hall I did the math). If you plan on having a simple backyard party–maybe buffet-self serve style without a dance floor and a whole wait staff, it can work. Otherwise, if you still want that at-home feel but without the headace–look into a B&B that does weddings! That’s what we did.
Post # 8
Hey! Not sure if you’ve seen this, but a bee actually blogged about this topic recently…
Blame Father of the Bride
Post # 9
Miss Scissors is I believe! You’re in good company :o)
Post # 10
I think weddings at homes can be the nicest, most beautiful weddings. Parking and bathrooms are the only big issues I can foresee.
Post # 11
An at home wedding sounds awesome!
I am not planning an at home wedding, but my FI’s co-worker did. The wedding was gorgeous, but I do know from hearing about their planning process that it was not any cheaper than a wedding held in a location. They has to rent tents, work with a catering company, arrange to use the neighbor’s side field for parking, rent portapotties etc… Just some things to consider!
I would assess the space and have a tent company come out to estimate what size tent you can have in the space. That should give you a good estimate of number of people you can invite.
Also with my FI’s friend’s wedding, the caterer did not cook on site. The food was trucked in and served immediately. It was all fresh and great food so I did not care that we could see the caterers unloading trucks in the back of the house.
Post # 12
I know this is going to sound like “Father of the Bride” but if I were having a wedding my home, I would definitely hire a wedding planner to help you figure out these logistics. I think it would be a huge asset to have a professional come in and make the most of your wedding since it is not in a traditional venue.
P.S. I would LOVE to attend a wedding in someone’s home!!! I think it sounds lovely.
Post # 13
My college roommate did it – it was AWESOME!! They rented 2 large tents and there was plenty room. I think it’s an amazing idea & it inspired me to look into having our wedding on the lawn of a historical house nearby – but like Tonya & cherryblossom said, once we factored in all the details we decided against it.
One suggestion I have is (depending on how many people you plan on having) they also rented large trailors that were portable (mens & ladies) bathrooms instead of the regular plastic port-a-johns. They decorated the doors and added pretty baskets inside. It was a really nice touch & there weren’t a bunch of people traipsing in & out of the house to use the facilities.
Post # 14
We were going to and then realized it would be more expensive because of all the things we would need to rent, hiring people to serve/clean up & also it would be a lot more stress!