(Closed) Is anyone else in competition with another bride?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

What do you mean “in competition”?

Is there another bride getting married close to you and having a similar wedding?

I guess I never really felt an competition. Darling Husband and I were planning the wedding we wanted to have that would make us and our guests the happiest.

It never really crossed my mind to “compete” with anyone else. We were doing what made us happy and represented us best.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I had a very small & intimate wedding in comparison to my friends, so no- I didn’t feel any competition with them whatsoever. In fact, most were jealous at how little work I had to do. I appreciate all the work that goes into a large wedding after having a super simplistic one and STILL having some problems, but I wouldn’t change anything 🙂 Good luck!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@KatNYC2011:  I’m also wondering this?

The only thing I even slightly feel “in competition” about is making a few things different enough from a friend’s recent wedding to not seem like I’m copying her… I had many ideas, she happened to use a lot of them (she didn’t know about mine, it was coincidence), and while I don’t care who’s wedding is “better” I don’t want to feel like I’m copying her either. But I don’t think most people compare weddings- when I go to wedding I don’t think, “Oh, so and so’s wedding last year was way prettier.”

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jackndiane:  I guess can understand that.

I didn’t have anyone I knew getting married near me and my wedding was perfect for Darling Husband and I so I never really thought about it.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Fortunately none of my friends are currently wedding planning but if they were I’d feel the exact same way… I’m just a super competitive person! And I’ve been comparing to previous friends weddings. Trying to make it as personal/ DIY as I can. One of my close friend just said they other day that I’m putting so much into my wedding, and she was feeling that she hadn’t put enough effort into her own wedding. Obviously, it felt good hearing that. And actually typing it makes me feel worse! In the end, she’s not a ‘details’ person and had a perfect day.

Everyone has different opinions so as long as at the end of your day it was perfect for you, that’s all the matters. And I’m sure you want your friend to have a perfect day too! 

Happy planning 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I hope you won the groom competition…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think that feeling is natural. People do that in other situations in life too, not just wedding planning. I have 2 girlfriends “in competition” over baby nurseries right now (maybe it’s the hormones). 

Don’t let the feeling get the best of you though. Each couple’s situation/tastes are different so it would be unhealthy for you to start comparing yourself to them.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@msgraphics:   That’s the only one that *really* matters!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@jackndiane:  Totally feel you. I just had to go to two family weddings and have 4 more coming up within 3 months of our wedding. Ours is one of the last weddings. With so many guests attending all weddings, I am petrified that mine won’t measure up. Especially when it seems like everyone is in competition with each other to have the most lavish wedding. It sucks.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@jackndiane:  But what I’m saying is that people don’t do that. I’ve never ever heard anyone compare weddings like that- saying one was “better” than another. I think only brides consider that stuff and even since I’ve been engaged, I’ve never had that thought. There are positives and negatives to every wedding but I don’t compare them to each other.

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