(Closed) Is anyone else in your circle getting married close to your wedding date

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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388 posts
Helper bee

One if my FI’s groomsmen is getting married 3 months after us. 3 months is a good amount of time but the scary thing is that my Fiance will have to officiate their wedding. We’re so concerned about our wedding that we don’t even know where and when to start with their wedding details.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

we have a wedding to go to pretty much every weekend in July, the last one being my cousin’s wedding two weeks before our wedding, and it’s in another province. I didn’t think twice about it… and didn’t think they needed to come to me to ask or anything.. it’s their wedding day.. I could care less as long as it’s not on the same day.

 

 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2021

One of my best friends is getting married a month and a half after us. I’m not mad or anything, just really soon in my opinion. But I am looking forward to getting the invite to Mr. and Mrs. (:

Post # 20
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74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting married 3 weeks after me. For me, it’s not about feeling overshadowed, it’s more how busy I’m going to be with my wedding/honeymoon and her wedding at the same time

Post # 21
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

One of FH’s good friends in his circle is getting married 2 months after us.  We got engaged maybe 3-4 days before them.  Originally our dates were going to be April & May next year but we moved ours up and they moved theirs back.  No one seems upset.

I had a coworker who had a good friend get married a day after another good friend.  The girl who’s wedding was 2nd planned it at the last minute knowing the other wedding was the day before and all their friends were in it.  Most of the group don’t talk to the girl who planned her last minute wedding the day after the 1st girl now.  But I think that’s a little more extreme than your situation.  2 weeks should be OK.

Post # 22
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306 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My cousin got engaged a couple days after me.  My sister threw us a surprise engagement party, where my cousin announced that she already got married.  Now they are planning a wedding in the same year I was going to.  We live out of state so people being able to afford to come all the way out here and gifts for the two of us would have been a little much so we’re just going to elope 🙂

Post # 23
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

One of my best friends has been engaged for four years but JUST set her date a few weeks after I picked mine, and it was the day after!!!  Luckily she is having a private cruise wedding so I don’t really feel overshadowed or anything, though I did end up changing my date because I wanted her to be able to come and I still want mine on a Saturday.

Post # 24
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@bridetobe7844: A family member is getting married 3 months after us and using the same venue for the ceremony and reception (two different sections)…. I don’t have a problem with it…. Our weddings will be unique and it will actually be kind of cool to go back to where we got married 😉 Good luck and try not to let it get to you!

Post # 25
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

The tentative date we had originally chosen conflicted with my side of the family – the daughter of one of their social circle is getting married that same date, oops!

So we have officially set our date 3 weeks after hers. I know her (knew her better growing up), but I haven’t tracked down her contact info to call or anything. . . should I?

My parents are invited to her wedding, and hers to mine; but neither of us are invited to each others’.

Post # 26
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My maid of honor got engaged a couple of months ago and set her date less than a month after mine.  It has been super stressful since I am the one throwing her bridal shower and bachelorette party and since in between our weddings there is only 3 weeks and I will be on my honeymoon for 2 of them. . .

I dont feel over shadowed just a little over worked.  These can be such high stress times anyway.  You wont feel overshadowed on your day =)  and that is what really matters.

Post # 27
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633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Fiance and I got engaged 11/25/10, our wedding date is 9/22/12.

FI’s bro and best man got engaged this August and they’re getting married in June, 3 months before us.

I’m not upset at all about it. I’m excited for them and look forward to their wedding. In fact, I’m kind of glad that they’re getting married before us. They’ve been together for at least 5 years, and Future Brother-In-Law is the older one. Maybe it’ll ease the tension between Future Sister-In-Law and I!!!

Post # 28
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Friends who got engaged about a month after we sent out STDs have organised their wedding to be 5 days after ours. I realise they’ve done it so that mutual friends who are visiting from overseas for our wedding will be able to make it to both weddings but I’m a bit upset about the fact that they haven’t talked to us about it at all. Actually, no. A few reasons:

1. The visiting friends will be available for 3 weeks so there’s no need to plan the two weddings so closely for that reason.

2. They haven’t sent out STDs yet or talked to us about it at all. They seem to have told everyone but us, even though we’ve talked to them recently. I would feel a lot better about it if they took a minute to tell us that they did try to consider how we might be affected but that they chose to do it because ‘x’ and ‘y’ was important to them, too. That’s just manners if you ask me.

3. Their wedding is a 12-hour drive away (or 2-hour plane + 4 hour drive) so they’re asking most people to travel and take at least one day off work (Thursday wedding). We can’t afford to fly so it really means that we’d have a maximum of 2 nights of honeymoon before we have to leave for their wedding.

4. Their wedding is in the country and the beginning of Easter so it’s going to be very $$$ for everyone attending to organise accommodation.

5. If we don’t go, we don’t get to spend any time with our overseas friends after the wedding. If we do go, our honeymoon is going to be all about their wedding. And a bit stressful because of the travel and cost.

6. They have not been together very long at all. (this doesn’t really have anything to do with how close their wedding is but it’s adding to the irritation.)

7. They eloped last week with most of their family attending so they’re already calling themselves husband and wife. She’s worn a white dress. They’ve exchanged rings and gone on a ‘mini-honeymoon’. We’re only having one wedding so it seems unfair that they get to mess with ours on their second one. Also, they have a lot more money than us and are planning something really massive so, in my pre-wedding emotional/mad brain, it makes me feel like our wedding will just be like a pre-show or the warm-up for their bigger, fancier wedding.

Soo… I guess if you want to take something away from this:

I think it’s rude to schedule something less than a week before or after a close friend’s wedding.

If you plan a wedding within 7 days of a friend, it would make the friend feel better if you could take the time to just explain your reasons (e.g. my family could only make it in this window of time / this was the last available Summer day that the reception place was available / the date is important). Showing that you thought about other people’s feelings goes a long way towards helping them to be understanding about your decisions.

Phew, sorry this is so long. I guess I had to vent a little!

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