(Closed) is anyone else lacking motivation?

posted 6 years ago in May 2014
Post # 3
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I was sort of meh for a while (I got engaged back in August) but recently we’re picking up speed! I met with a photographer yesterday and she said she’s already got people booking for September 2014, so I guess I’m not as far ahead of the game as I thought! 

I’ve got decisions made on church, reception venue, colors, and photographer (and florist, and baker, but that’s because those were predetermined family connections) but I haven’t paid a cent to anyone yet – I need to set up a “wedding account” just for this purpose, so I don’t wind up going crazy! 

That being said, once I have deposits down on the two venues and the photog, I’m fully planning on not caring about anything else for a few months. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Interjecting here, but it’s totally normal to have a few “black holes” in wedding planning, where there’s just nothing that really needs to be done.  I was only engaged for 9 months, and even for me, right between 3-5 months out… there was just nothing.

I guess I could have added DIY projects or something, but everything seemed right on timeline, and did get done at the end of the day, so no big deal.

 

Post # 5
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Jw1724:  I’ve done NOTHING so far. In my mind, this is just a day, and a day I can’t be bothered to plan just yet. My fiance and I are thinking ahead in other ways: for our marriage. We are discussing where we want to live, if we will have pets, what our hobbies will be, what kind of furniture we want. That’s why we moved up our wedding day: so we can be married sooner!

Post # 6
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’ve been feeling that lately. I’ve already booked the venue and the church but since our date is more than a year away a lot of vendors I speak to (photogs, caterers, etc.) are just like ‘oh ok you have a lot of time’ when I ask them about services for May 2014.

 

It also sucks that since it’s so far away people just aren’t as excited when I gush over wedding details. I like to plan everything in advance so as to get the best deals/assurance that my first picks will be available for the dates, but everyone else’s ‘it’s so far away, chillax!’ attitude has been a downer. I thought the key to a stress-free wedding was planning well ahead of time, but I guess that’s not always the case.

Post # 7
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was gung ho for a while, we booked our photographer, took engagement pics, booked venue, bought my dress and decided on a caterer. I have so much stuff pinned on Pinterest, but im at the stage where it’s so far off why am I rushing through so much.. But I did buy a bunch of different sized glass vases for center pieces and im going to work on diy mercury glass with some of them. 

Post # 8
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488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was all about it the first couple of months and about a month ago we completely changed up our plans. Since then, I haven’t planned anything. There is definitely stuff to do, but my heart hasn’t been in it. Its depressing thinking about the lack of money so right now I would rather not focus on anything wedding related 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Jw1724:  Girl, I’m getting married next month (been engaged since Jan 2012) and I’ve felt meh the ENTIRE time! Lol, I think it’s just my personality but I’ve been over it from day one. I can’t wait to just get it over with!

Post # 10
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1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens

I think I’m motivated,but I don’t ahve enough hours in the day. By the time I get the time to call people its 7 or 8 and pretty much everyone is done with bussiness for the day…. Its almost a year away so I better kick things into high gear! Especially the photographer!

Post # 11
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1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am def not meh by now… but a little worried since I’ve got nothing and I don’t even know where to start. We are on a (VERY VERY VERY) tight budget!

Post # 12
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AnaA:  WHatcha need help with, girl?  I’m not wedding professional, but we’ve got the ball rolling on pretty much all of our stuff, so I could offer you a few pointers.  Plus, we share a wedding weekend!! 🙂

 

Post # 13
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1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@MsAmandaAnn:  heeey, thank you! Well, Ihave nothing but the venue (which includes food and all that stuff) and that is about it. I want to DIY as much as I can.

Post # 14
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’M SO LAZY…… Can I just snap my fingers and it all be done??

Post # 15
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@AnaA:  Well, start envisioning what you want your wedding day to look like — then you can plan your DIY projects (and decide what you may not want to DIY).  For example, our venue is a barn, so we wanted to not overpower its beauty with crazy lighting and decor.  That was pretty key when we met with our lighting guy.

We also decided on a Southern menu, which has also played into the “keeping it simple” theme.  So, I know if I’m DIY-ing my centerpieces, I’m probably going to lean towards something more fitting for then venue, like twine wrapped wine bottles, instead of something over the top, like peacock feathers!

Then we threw the seashore theme into it.. oi!

 

Anyway, you should also decide what vendors you may want to use.  Tackle this one at a time.  If you can find a vendor that does mroe than one thing, perfect!  For example, our lighting guy owns a production company and is also providing our DJ and our photo booth. Checking 3 things off of the list after one meeting was fabulous (and he came highly recommended!).

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