(Closed) Is anyone else marrying their first/only boyfriend?

posted 11 years ago in Relationships
Post # 47
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I never had a serious relationship before, until now. My Fiance is my first and only love and I’m his first girl! πŸ™‚

Post # 48
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I am! We met through a mutual friend and become very good friends. We spent so much time together that everyone just assumed we were dating anyway. We have now been together almost 7 years (living together for 6) and will be getting married next fall.

I am not his first gf. He was engaged about 15 years ago and she ripped his heart out and stomped all over it by sleeping with one of his (ex)friends. That did a lot of emotional damage and it was hard to even get him to talk about marriage. I had pretty much settled on being his common law wife when he finally proposed.

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Well, mine is kinda a grey area.

I think in theory we are eachother’s first official GF-BF relationship. We were eachother’s firsts in many ways.

But when it came to me and relationships, I often had opportunities and suitors but I never much cared for them. I was also very clueless when it came to actual dates because I always misunderstood “lets hang out” with “some friends are hanging out, wanna come?” <- very unfortunate when you find out half way that noone else is gonna be there…

Through those incidents there was one guy who always was affectionate towards me and we did “hang out” quite well together. But he lived in Scotland and hardly ever would be able to come over. So I put my foot down before we actually took off.

Now that I think of it, I remember talking about this other guys (FI, lol) to the Scottish guy on one of our “hang outs” so I guess Fiance has always been in the back of my mind.

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yep, my husband is my first boyfriend. Never even kissed or been on a date with anyone else. We met sophomore year of high school and became friends. Went to the same college and started dating before the end of our first year and now, 4 years later, we’re married! 

I got asked out a number of times in high school, but I always felt like I knew what I wanted and how to make a relationship work so I didn’t want to waste my time dating guys that I already knew weren’t right for me, we’re too immature, and played games. 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

He could have been my first boyfriend.  We met when I was 13, he was 16.  I had a crush on him, and when we re-met he admitted he had a crush on me back then as well, but thought because of how young I was it was improper to do anything about it. He’s not the first boyfriend or first guy I thought I loved.  But I do think he’s the first “normal nice guy normal non-crazy relationship” boyfriend I’ve had.  And the first person I felt truely comfortable with and secure with.  He will be my first in one thing though. πŸ˜‰

Post # 52
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Busy bee

My SO is my first “real” boyfriend, the only one I was ever serious in the least about.  we say were going to get married, but theres no ring yet, although i think it would be really special to marry him!

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He’s my first “real” boyfriend. I dated someone in 8th/9th grade for 8 months, but part was over the summer & we didn’t ever do anything. 

Post # 54
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yes, my husband is my first and last boyfriend. I had my “firsts” all with him! Including first hand holding and kiss πŸ˜‰

Im so glad that it was this way, i got really lucky. A lot of my friends think im crazy because i married my first bf. they say why didnt you date around?? there might be someone better out there!!

Well, frankly im utterly happy with him. why date around if im already happy? Thats the way I see it πŸ™‚

 

Post # 55
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Another one here – fiance and I got together when we were 16, he was my first kiss and all of that. I’ve definitely spent my fair share of time thinking about the pros and cons of the situation, but I’ve decided that it would have been just utterly stupid to let him go in the name of dating around. I don’t know how it worked out this way for us, but I am grateful.

Post # 56
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Fiance is my second boyfriend.  And I’m not his first, but it’s all worthwhile.  His ex-fiance is actually part of the reason that we started dating.

Post # 57
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Next summer, I will be marrying my first boyfriend! In fact, he was even my first (and only) kiss… In high school, I was pretty shy and, to be honest, just felt I’d know when I found somebody date-worthy.  My freshmen year in college, I met this guy (yes.. my now fiance!) and started dating him a few months after.  It’s interesting to think back… there was something that just seemed right. No words can really explain it.  We were quite different in a few aspects, but that didn’t seem to bother me (when normally it would).  Anyways, it ended up working perfectly and we have now been together for over 3.5 years! πŸ™‚ I would have never thought I’d find ‘the one’ right away!

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’ll be marrying my first serious boyfriend in 3 days! I only dated one guy before him, and it only lasted 3 months and was very casual. That was in high school; I was 15. Then I didn’t date anyone for 4 years, and met Fiance at 19. We dated for over 5 years before he proposed, and it’ll be close to 6 1/2 years when we get married!

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

He wasn’t the first guy I dated, but he was the first guy I had a relationship with.  

Post # 60
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Helper bee

i was meant to be. but we broke up last week. we weren’t engaged but he proposed a few years ago and i said not yet because i was going through family stuff. i’m finding it hard to know that when the time comes my husband won’t be my first

Post # 61
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am with my first and only boyfriend of 7.5 years. I met him when I was 16 and have never even been on another date with anyone else.

I read your comment about the feelings being stronger because of this being all you know. I guess the question is, if you are happy, does it matter? Do you want to try to see if this is all there is or if there is more?

I could try to say “don’t even think about it.” It’s human nature to wonder though!

You described him as a soulmate. I hope he is your’s. πŸ™‚

 

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