Post # 1
Let me start by saying I’m not the girl that had her wedding planned since I was a little girl. To be honest, I wasn’t even sure I wanted to get married (this could be because my parents are divorced, who knows).
After he asked me to get married and we started the planning process…I started to get excited and well, overwhelmed. But now….I’m just plain NERVOUS. I’m an anxious/nervous person in general and the more I think about the wedding, the more freaked out I get.
I’m nervous to walk down the aisle, have all eyes on me, the first dance, EVERYTHING. I’ve never been big on being the center of attention so this is really freaking me out.
Please tell me I’m not alone….
Post # 3
You are not alone. I posted something last week regarding my cold feet. It’s not Fiance I fear it was everything else. I am less than 3 weeks away now and honestly the nervousness just went away. Someone in my post stated that I should be nervous. That most girls don’t realize how huge the decision they are making is and that to go over it in your head and analyze it to make sure it’s perfect for you, is something everyone should do. So being nervous I think is a good sign. A sign of your commitment to something that will last forever and the maturity level to think it through.
Post # 4
I’m with ya, sister. Sometimes at night when I’m watching TV I’ll start thinking about it and feel the anxiety slowly rise and rise until I force myself to put it out of my mind. Like you, I don’t enjoy being the center of attention, and the very thought of it freaks me out. I think once I make it through the actual ceremony I’ll be ok, but that walk down the aisle is going to be terrifying.
I’m gonna be a total basketcase come March.
Post # 5
You are not alone!! I posted something about this when a girl said she had cold feet and honestly, I think anyone who goes into a marriage without a care in the world might not be taking it very seriously. It’s a big step!!! The nerves still get me too! However, I have also accepted the fact that I cant predict the future and the only thing I can really do is pray, work hard at my relationship, and be the bigger person (when I can muster up the ability lol).
Post # 6
I was nervous for months and months!!! A few days before our wedding a feeling of total calm washed over me and I felt great. I was not nervous at all walking down the aisle, while getting ready, standing at the altar – anything! Honestly I think that brides think they are going to feel one way and then you are just so focused on the task at hand and your groom that you dont have those feelings whatsoever. During the walk down the aisle I only had eyes for my husband and I didnt even notice that there were people looking at me, while we were up at the altar together it was like we were blinded and could only see each other – didnt even see all 130 of our guests and even at the part in our ceremony where we faced our guests and they stood and we were looking at all of them – no nerves. You are on such a natural high that day and are so full of love and joy that the nervousness totall subsides! You will all be fine 🙂
Post # 7
YES! Haha. I think I’m most scared for (in order of scared-ness) 1) making a speech 2) dancing (I don’t dance) 3) walking down the aisle 4) people not coming
Post # 8
I didn’t post here before? Lol..ya, I am flippin a wreck lately! A flippin rollercoaster of fear, uncertainty..worry..obsessing..just freakin out! My advice is to try to not think of EVERYTHING at once..things will happen as they will. I think for me..I honestly don’t feel like I am in control of enough things..but I gotta give this to God cause for me personally, He’s the one in control and things will go they way God wants them too. I am too much of a control freak..that’s my prob I think..for me..I really have to let go and let God. I have freaked out so much..it’s been really stealing my joy of being a bride. I think that this world may be focused too much on things like dresses and music and this and that..what’s really important is that two people are coming together as one..and it’s a beautiful thing. Noone is goin to remember all the stinkin details..lol.
Post # 9
So apparently I’m horrible at coming back to my own posts LOL Sorry
I feel so relieved though… to know that others are feeling similiar.
@soontobehis OMG, I totally agree with #1 being making a speech. I am freaking out about it and I’m still 8 months away. I can’t even imagine how I’ll be a week away. I’m definitely going to have to make sure I have a glass of wine before the speech!
@pitbulllover and mwitter –I’m hoping that calmness comes to me right before the wedding too 🙂
@kalliela — “what’s really important is that two people are coming together as one..and it’s a beautiful thing” —I seriously couldnt have said it better. This IS the most important part of the wedding.
@lezlers– LOL We are twins! That anxiety rushes over me too, but I’m hoping that we can be like the other ladies that posted and the nervousness will go away soon (we can hope, right?!)
@tseay — YES! Marriage is suuuuch a big step and I totally agree that some people may go into it not taking it very seriously. FOREVER is a long time… and that is exactly what I intend to marry for. I’ve heard about ‘starter marriages’ and think those people are bizarre going into a wedding knowing that it will more than likely end in divorce. I mean, nothing against divorced people… I’m a product of divorce, but I just want to do everything in my power to make sure that we have a strong and healthy relationship so that divorce isn’t an option.
Thanks ladies! Its soooooooo good to know I’m not alone!