Post # 1
My FI has been asking for us to go pickout our bands for months, I think he just wanted to get the task taken care of and know that it’s bought and paid for. I was in no hurry and not at all motivated to go look at them because I love my e-ring and don’t feel that it can be improved on.
We finally went over the weekend and purchased our bands and I’m just still so unexcited about it and honestly don’t look forward to wearing it! Maybe part of the reason is that I am not just a big jewelry wearer. I wear jewelry but always small/simple/subtle things, never anything chunky. So adding a band to the e-ring makes it bigger/flashier, etc.
I considered choosing a ring that would work well on it’s own, like a fashion piece vs a wedding band but none of them worked at all with the e-ring and I wanted the versitility of wearing it both ways. I did end up with an eternity band so I could wear it on a simple chain necklace if I want.
Just to clarify, I will be happy to wear it, I don’t dislike it, I’m just not excited about it.
Just wondered if anyone else has or had similar feelings?
Post # 3
Bah, I’m just getting a plain, white gold, 2mm wedding band and calling it a day.
It’s not that I’m not excited, I think I just have SO MANY other things going on in my life right now that the wedding band got pushed to “stuff that isn’t a priority right now” and so I’m not too worried about it.
But the way I see it, the wedding band is MUCH more important than the e-ring. I will wear mine with the e-ring for a few years I’m sure, but when I’m ready to stop wearing my engagement ring I think I’ll get a nicer band (plus, I’ll have had a few years to think about the kind of wedding band I’d want to wear!)
It’s just a ring, don’t fret about it too much. 🙂
Post # 4
@yehyehgirl Yes I’ve had similar feelings, but not about the wedding band. I actually enjoyed that part. He got to pick the e-ring, I got input on the bands…so I did look forward to that. I’m not very excited about the wedding dress..I just felt kinda blah. Didn’t have the aha teary, ring the bell, yes to the dress moment like I’ve seen or heard from others.
So it’s normal to be excited abot some things, and just “check the box” about other things. If you’re not a big jewelry person, it makes total sense.
Post # 5
@BrideofGroomzilla: Ha! I wasn’t into the dress either! Not at all. I put it off until the very last second. Now I’m just glad it’s done.
I don’t feel bad about my lack of excitement for the band. I think he expected me to act all gaga over it and so i faked it a little to indulge him and that’s the only reason I noticed that I’m just not excited about it.
I noticed a lot of other bees really excited about their bands or sets and rightfully so, but I wondered if I was an odd man out.
Post # 6
@CakeyP: I wish I heard your strategy before we went shopping last weekend! I would have gone the same route, a plain band for now and an upgrade down the road if I want. Perfect.
Anyway, not fretting! Thanks for your perspective 🙂
Post # 7
I would have been excited to go wedding band shopping but I didn’t have the chance. I found out that when FH proposed, he already had our wedding bands purchased because he bought the matching items and was just sooooooo excited.
I feel like I will be much more sentimental about my wedding band than my e-ring because of the vows and the symbolism behind the wedding band. I see my e-ring more as a bauble and shiny piece than a real promise of anything. Anyways… when I saw my wedding band, it was blingy and kind of chunky and, I don’t know, not what I pictured. I really want just a simple, white gold, thin and non-blingtastic band. I tried to tell FH about this last weekend and his feelings were hurt. WTH.
I like my e-ring but I am excited to wear my set together, be it blingy or plain, because I want the world to know that I’m married and happily so.
You should get what you want now and forget upgrading. At least, that’s my plan. Who knows, I may see a jeweler before too long about my band and see if he can cast the gold into a band and we mount the diamonds in a new piece. The idea of upgrading/changing in the future is a neat notion but I wonder how many people actually do it. I think you will get the band, love or learn to love it, get sentimental and keep it. So yeah, get what you want now. Speaking of which… I should probably go down to my jeweler! 🙂
Post # 8
Maybe use your engagement ring as your only ring? You can just have him put it on you at the ceremony. I wear my upgrade alone on my left hand without an additional band and I love the look!
Post # 9
I definitely wasn’t excited while ring shopping!
I ended up getting an heirloom ring that I’m obsessed with–but I think when you buy a ring, yu don’t have any sentimental attachment to it until after you’re married!
Post # 10
I’m with @SunflowerGarden. I don’t wear a wedding band because I’ve never been a ring person and didn’t like the idea of having to wear 2 of them.
We agreed from the start that my engagement ring would become the wedding ring when we married, and I love it!
Post # 11
@sarahuccs: & @SunflowerGarden
Well, my band is already bought so I will be wearing it, sometimes at least but I don’t mind switching up the combination of with/without the e-ring and/or on different hands, plus I will probably get a nice low profile chain to wear it on my neck sometimes too.
@BrandNewBride: & @LilRhodyGem:
True, it didn’t occur to me that the band might become very special to me upon the actual wedding ceremony, that makes total sense!
Post # 12
Eh, yea I guess I wasn’t that excited about getting a wedding band. To me, it was more about finding a simple and understated ring that would compliment my engagement ring, the real shining star. It does bump up the bling factor, so I am happy about that!
Post # 13
I’m not even going to get a wedding band…I figure the E-ring is enough….you don’t need to prove to anyone you’re married, just cuz you don’t have another band on that finger. They’d get the point by just seeing a bling ring 🙂
Post # 14
The wedding ring is definitely the most important ring.
I think you have three choices:
1. Get something you really love and then put the engagement ring on the other hand.
2. Use the engagement ring as a wedding ring on your wedding day. No one says that a wedding ring has to be a plain band or even a ring of diamonds.
3. Get a band that matches your future husband’s wedding ring so that you have a pair of rings.
Post # 15
I think most erings look better alone so I dreaded looking. I found one and chose it but thought for a while for ditching the whole idea. It is just distracting from center stone
Post # 16
yehyehgirl Lol at “faked it a little” I’m sure this wont be the first time we have to fake some excitement for our future hubby’s ego…so it’s good practice.
LilRhodyGem I had to agree with you. I’m just ready to get them both on at this point, to announced that I’m a married lady!!! 🙂