Post # 1
Member
1650 posts
Bumble bee
There are so many instances now where people will have no posting history, and only one post which is a completely whirlwind, blowout, WTF-level story. They then either follow up with concerned bees by posting continuously oblivious, out-of-touch responses, essentially egging the Bees on and making everyone frustrated or increasingly concerned with their wellbeing, or never follow up at all and just abandoning the thread.
With the recent story about the ring getting escalated to social media outlets and trashy gossip blogs, I’m now more skeptical than ever with these types of posts. Coupled with the increasing number of first-time posters with blow-out stories who just abandon the post immediately after, I’m now more skeptical than ever.
What used to feel like a community of women helping each other now seems like it’s slowly losing its integrity. Add in all the site glitches, privacy breaches with unauthorized profile photos being used, and seeming lack of website owner involvement in the resolution of these issues, and matters are even worse.
I do enjoy this site, but I’m wondering if I’m the only one who feels this way? If not, please talk me out of my cynicism lol
*DISCLAIMER for the Mods*: this is by no means a flounce post. I don’t have any intentions of leaving the site any time soon, just curious if others have noticed the same trends I have.
Post # 2
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3896 posts
Honey bee
I live for those crazy posts!
Post # 3
Member
1650 posts
Bumble bee
lifeisbeeutiful : I mean don’t get me wrong I am ALWAYS here for the drama but it becomes underwhelming after a while when I have to continuously wonder if I’m being played lol
Post # 4
Member
1077 posts
Bumble bee
- Wedding: May 2019 - City, State
I’m a little less suspicious of the ghosting threads and more suspicious about the crazy story that just keeps getting more and more absurd with every update. I could totally see ghosting on a thread that got a wildly different response than I expected, like no one agreed with me AT ALL or the responses seemed overly harsh etc. It can be uncomfortable to face when you’re in the wrong or when people are mean, and I’d probably opt to ghost the thread and create a new account if I wanted to stay. But the ones that just seem SO determined to argue that they’re in the right when there’s 10+ pages telling them they’re cray cray…I have to wonder about those.
Post # 5
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2596 posts
Sugar bee
What I hate is the responses on these viral threads that are from a member with 1 post history. Like, did they see it on social media, create an account, and say their opinion and bounce? Because they never stick around. Is it a fake account to add to the comments for the article/thread to gain traction? It makes me uneasy. Lol. A LOT of us post some pretty personal shit on here.
There for a while it seemed to correlate with the holidays, which made me suspicious about teenagers out on school breaks with nothing better to do. Which is utterly infuriating.
Also, more often than not they post and ghost. My biggest pet peeve is no updates or responses to the overwhelming number of comments. Like, hundreds. Maddening.
Post # 6
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143 posts
Blushing bee
A lot of the posters are likely just trying to hide their identity which is fine. If I had a major question regarding my relationship to ask, I would do the same for privacy sake – even more so now after this!
that being said, some of the REALLY crazy ones are trolls IMO. I’ve noticed several lately that just couldn’t have been real.
Post # 7
Member
1650 posts
Bumble bee
michellelynn9175 : right, like all these people are concerned about you and you just ghost. It’s so frustrating to me lol
peachybee88 : I feel like I trust those situations more when posters say “regular bee going anon”. I’ve never considered the other blowouts being from anon bees…even though we’re already 98% anonymous on here anyway lol
Post # 9
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8527 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
Dang, I am missing the fun. I’ve seen some recent doozies, but from members who have a pretty consistant history of posting doozies, responding while ignoring all the advice, then returning in a week, month, or year to say “Everything is still the same, what should I do now?”
Post # 10
Member
534 posts
Busy bee
chelbell23 : I agree with this. Not everyone can handle the truth especially when people in their real life sugar coat things.
I don’t even bother responding when some people post unbelievable stories unless they follow up in a sincere way.
What confuses me though is some unbelievable posts by non-new bees with some history of posting. A good example is the recent thread (which later got deleted) where this lady was talking about her husband going to lunch with a group of coworkers and one of them being female was bothering her. It’s really hard to determine if that’s just someone trolling or if people like that really do exist? I guess they do but you never realize it in real life since they don’t openly express things in real life.
Post # 11
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170 posts
Blushing bee
Yes a little, particularly when its be an account that pops up out of nowhere and then produces a string of unbeliveable stories or complaints, the first example that springs to mind is the woman complaining about her husband not using her 5 laundry bin system and a string of other crazy things all in one week and then I havent seen her pop up again since. I was recently amid typing out a very considered and heartfelt reply to a monsterous family drama story when I saw a mod had closed to board due to it being from a ‘sock puppet account’, which was the first time I’d heard of such a thing. So there deffo are stories on here that are totally ficticious but I suppose we should initially treat them as though they are true just in case? x
Post # 12
Member
1650 posts
Bumble bee
chillbee29 : I don’t doubt for a second that there are truly some genuinely outrageous people out there who just lack the self-awareness to realize that they’re being outrageous…but I have to side-eye those who are posting sporadically about the same outrageous topics over and over without at least realizing/acknowledging that people are giving up on helping them. It’s like they just want to keep people’s blood pressure up. I feel like those are always borderline t-word situations lol
Post # 13
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534 posts
Busy bee
happiekrappie : I guess like a PP said, all we can do is assume they’re innocent until proven guilty 🤷🏻♀️
Post # 14
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1162 posts
Bumble bee
Anyone got a link for the ring story? I must have missed that one!
I agree there are more random posts recently. I try give them the benefit of the doubt but if I think it’s too far fetched I just don’t read/respond xo
Post # 15
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534 posts
Busy bee
happyjuju : If you’re talking about the one that was on the news sites, it’s been deleted since then.
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