(Closed) Is anyone else out there pregnant and depressed?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i am no longer depressed but i was a little while ago. maybe it is just a stage you go through. i was struggling with gaining weight and being okay with it but you have to know that its what is healthy at this point in your life and for the baby. i was depressed with the feeling that i was alone because i felt no one could relate, felt alone even though i have close family and my husband has been there for me. trust me everything will be okay. i am 21 weeks and no longer in the blues.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I felt terrible first trimester, even though I didn’t necessarily have morning sickness. I had a couple weeks of nausea/aversion, but generally felt like I should be feeling so much better since I wasn’t vomiting and even my nausea wasn’t bad. But I couldn’t get myself to exercise (though, unlike you, that’s always a battle for me) and I was constantly tired/unmotivated. I think my “morning sickness” took the form of extreme exhaustion. I also was pretty moody, and sometimes that put me in a funk for a day or two. I started feeling better around weeks 13/14, and now have a pretty normal level of energy for me πŸ™‚ (I’m now 23 weeks). I’m sure it will turn around for you soon!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Also, as for living in a small town, that’s not exactly my problem, but I’m not working right now (summer break–I work at a school), and I’m feeling like I can’t be my normal productive self (can’t paint, can’t do yardwork, etc) and I don’t really have any projects to work on, so I’m bored, which occasionally gets me down. All my friends/family/DH work, so sometimes I get lonely, too! 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yeah, I have been very lethargic and unmotivated.  I think it is because of not feeling 100%.  Er not even feeling 50%.  It is so unlike me to sit around the house on days off but I have been a total sloth.  I can’t wait for the 2nd trimester energy.  This is a bummer.

 

My 2 cents: Give youself permission to feel how you feel.  When planning my wedding, I had times where I was so stressed and on top of that I kept feeling guilty for not feeling happy because I was planning my WEDDING.  That just made it so much worse.  It is ok for you to feel sad even when you are happy to be having a baby.  You can’t be happy 24/7 for 9 months. And your hormones are unlikely to let you savor the thrill of being pregnant all the time.  πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@funkymunky85:  Hm…I actually feel pretty good about myself. I had an interim time where I felt fat instead of pregnant, but I’m pretty clearly pregnant now, and actually really like it. Darling Husband has really stepped up the compliments as well, which helps πŸ˜‰ I’m not sure I feel super sexy, but I feel pretty good about where I’m at. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@funkymunky85:  I didn’t show obviously until about 18 weeks. It’s way easier when other people recognize it. Have you told people? We waited until 13 weeks, and then still didn’t go “Facebook” public until 20 weeks (although people who saw me in real life could obviously tell), and I felt way better about it after we were completely public (not that I post about it on Facebook on a regular basis or everything, but something about keeping it private made me associate it with, hm…, maybe shame? Even though that’s not how I felt about it… But keeping it secret was hard. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I felt horrid from weeks 4-15 and definitely had a few weeks where I felt depressed. I was vomiting all the time, felt constantly crappy/exhausted, was worried about miscarrying (I’d had a miscarriage in February), stressed about not being 100% at work, and self-conscious about gaining weight. My husband did not really get it and complained about me not helping as much around the house, etc. – basically not all that supportive.

Anyway – since week 15, I have felt 1000% better – both physically and mentally. I clearly look pregnant, my Darling Husband has been a little more supportive, and I feel like I did before I was pregnant. I’ve been able to get back to exercise a bit (in the beginning the doctors limited my exercise due to spotting and my history of a prior mc) and things are better at work.

I’d recommend shopping for clothes that fit and make you feel good – if you’re not already wearing maternity clothes, give them a try… I found they made me feel less frumpy/more pregnant! Hope you feel better soon!  

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@funkymunky85:  Me!  I’m not depressed, but same as you, I feel “blah”.  My wedding is saturday and I’ve been working out/dieting before I found out we were pregnant….now I’ve gained 3 pounds and just feel like….UGH.  Stressed.  No working out.  Eating like crap (carbs are all I can think about!). And being tired ALL THE TIME.  It’s hard.  I keep hearing the second trimester gets easier and you get more energy, so I hope this is the case!  Take care of yourself and try to enjoy being pregnant.  I’m told it all goes by fast, but it sure doesn’t seem like it right now! πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am, but mine stems from what I’ve been calling a “nightmare pregnancy”. I’ve been so sick and miserable, missing work, not eating, unable to do things, it’s just led me to being depressed. Some days are better than others, but I definitely feel horrible. I’ve lost around 15lbs, none of my clothes fit (all too big now), and nothing is the same.

It is a phase some people go through. I know mine is from having hyperemesis. Recently I’ve decided I don’t want this pregnancy on Facebook, and I’m dreading when the rest of the family finds out. I know it’s the depression talking, but it’s definitely tough. I’ve decided to wait until I am mentally prepapred to announce it on FB, just for my own sake.

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