Post # 1
I’m super excited to be pregnant, but hating the first trimester! We’re not telling anyone until I’m 12 weeks and the wait is killing me! Plus, I have constant fears about miscarriage.
How is everyone else getting through this time?
Post # 3
Pretty much the same as you. I really want to tell people, but I know if we tell my Mother-In-Law, she’ll tell EVERYONE, from her sisters right to the village postman. It sucks when I’m feeling so horrible, and I can’t even share with people why I’m feeling like this, and like you, I’m constantly scared of miscarriages. I can’t wait until the second trimester!
Post # 4
@Shosha1: Glad to know I’m not alone! I feel like this is a time where I could use support from friends but I don’t want to tell many people for fear of having to “untell” them.
Post # 5
@Bee27: I’m counting down the days!!!
We’ve slowly been telling people, but only those whose support I needed now or whose support I would need if things didn’t work out. When I first found out, I immediately told my sister. We’d both been through miscarriages and I knew she’d completely “get” my excitement/terror. I told my parents and best friend 2 weeks later when my bloodwork came back looking good. Their support has been really helpful. Darling Husband told his parents and best friend after my 9.5 week u/s looked good. That makes me a little nervous, as I don’t want to dissapoint them if I have a m/c, but I know they will be supportive and it’s nice not having to hide it. Oh, my boss knows too because I had to change a few of my duties at work.
It will be nice to be able to tell the rest of my family and friends in a couple weeks! It is hard feeling miserable and sick all the time without others knowing. It’s very lonely/isolating in a lot of ways… thank goodness for WB! 🙂
To make the days go by, I’m trying to stay busy, but it’s hard when feeling crappy. The thing that works best for me is sleeping the days away, lol. I’ve recently started researching baby gear (strollers, etc.) as a from of distraction. It would be better if I could research something non-baby related though… We’re thinking about selling our house/buying another, so I’ve started looking at houses online which is a great distraction. I’ll also trying to plan some weekend getaways for me and Darling Husband in the second trimester.
In terms of fears about m/c, I’m not the best one to give advice as I’m scared all the time. I *try* to tell myself that worrying won’t help anything… Most likely things will be okay… If they’re not, it’s because something was wrong with the baby and it wasn’t meant to me. No amount of worrying will make that scenario better/easier, so I might as well just assume that all will be ok. Some days I just let myself cry when I feel scared and that actually does help a bit. I’m sure the hormones are partly to blame!
I hope we all graduate to the 2nd tri soon!
Post # 6
I’ve also been selective about who to tell at this point, part of it being out of fear of miscarriage. (There’s no history of that in my family that I know of, but there’s always a first time.) Plus it’s my understanding that some of the symptoms I’ve been dealing with (fatigue, loss of appetite, nausea) are supposed be gone in the second trimester.
Post # 7
Yes! Just so I stop being so scared! But I have a long time left… I guess I’ll just wait on the first ultrasound for now.
Post # 8
I’m only 6w 2d so halfway there but counting down the days till the first trimester is over. Mostly so i don’t have to worry about MC but also so i can get some energy back. I’ve been so exhausted and my emotions are all over the place!
Post # 9
yes, so we can tell people and be in the “less risk” zone. i’m also pretty early, so passing the time until my first appt!
Post # 10
@totheislnds: My emotions are pretty all over the place as well! And I’m pretty tired too. Plus I’m sick to my stomach on and off and just feeling bloated.