is anyone else scared to have a baby because of post-preg body changes?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@kmaemu:  I am rather worried. I’ve just lost 50 pounds and am finally becoming pleased with my appearance so I am concerned about pregnancy weight gain and having to work it off again. I put on weight very easily and am susceptible to gestational diabetes because I am insulin resistance.  And I want to be able to keep my fitness up while pregnant. I’m also prone to stretchmarks – if I got them from growth spurts and weight gain I figure I will definitely get them from pregnancy.  All worth it to have a healthy baby in the end but I don’t look forward to some of the changes!

Post # 4
634 posts
Busy bee

I worry about physical changes and hormonal changes, yes, absolutely. Couple that with the fact that I love children but don’t really care for babies, and I’m very in favor of adoption if/when we start a family.

Post # 6
2089 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@kmaemu:  Honestly, I’m not worried at all. I have been all different shapes and sizes since being with Fiance over the last 8 years. He didn’t notice my weight gain, he just loved my bigger boobs. Now I’m smaller, he loves my bum 😉

Post # 7
3370 posts
Sugar bee

@kmaemu:  Regardless of whether or not you have children you are going to get old. As if he. And me, and everyone. If he really loves you he won’t care.

Post # 9
3370 posts
Sugar bee

@kmaemu:  I think it mostly depends on your body type and pre-pregnancy fitness. I’ve been “full” since I hit puberty and after 5 kids I am full-er, yes, actually fluffy at this point. I met Fiance after I had the 5 kids. And he doesn’t have a thing for big girls or anything like that.

Post # 10
3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@kmaemu:  I would say don’t bother having kids. You’ll stay slim & sexy for your husband and we save the 50% chance you would have a girl & teach her that self esteem is tied to your body. 




I am 34w pregnant and have only gained 22lbs. My body is not a mess or destroyed. Even if it was? I would be ok with it because it is doing some amazing things. Things I never knew it could do. It has grown two cells into a 6lb baby (and still growing). I have nothing but respect for it. Keep looking at the post-baby bodies and judging them- it is only a reflection of you on the inside.


ETA: if you think you will spend the rest of your life looking youthful- like a teen on the street you are wrong. And what a weird thing for your husband to find attractive. Fake porn teens who are really 25? Sure. But actual teenage girls on the street look very young. 


And interesting to note, small/thin women tend to age and wrinkle much more than their plumper counterparts. 


Post # 11
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Awww hun, try not to worry about that.  Your hubby will love you regardless.  I started dating Darling Husband when I weighed 130 lbs and now I weigh 210 lbs and have an icky belly and stretch marks, and he loves me as much as ever.  When we have a baby, I’m sure I’ll have problems losing the weight, as I already find it hard to lose weight! But honestly, over the years, I’ve learned that nice body =/= happiness.  You will both be far too preoccupied with the amazing life you’ve created to care about the fact that you might not have the body of a 20 y/o.  And let’s be honest… we are all going to get older, saggier, wrinklier, etc.  Marriage is a commitment that transcends superficial issues like that.

Post # 15
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kmaemu:  I’m pregnant now and not even slightly concerned. I declare that a raging success as someone who struggled with a horrible ED for years. I’d be more concerned ablut my husband being attracted to teenage bodies. 

Beauty fades as we age, hopefully your husband realizes that.

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