Post # 1
My Darling Husband travels interstate for work 2 nights a week. My older brother rents a room from us so usually he is home but he has started working nights.
Tonight is my first night home alone, it’s almost midnight and I’m freaking out! I fell asleep at 9pm but woke up an hour ago and can’t fall asleep again.
It doesn’t help that in our community Facebook group someone’s house got broken into last night but I think even without that I’d be scared.
All doors are locked and I have a lock on the bedroom door.
Does anyone have some strategies to overcome my fear and get some sleep? Feeling silly but not silly enough to be able to go to sleep!
Post # 2
thepinkflamingo : I had that issue at our old apartment after I found evidence of a peeping Tom. I’d put old reruns on TV until I finally passed out if my husband wasn’t home. Now we have a dog who is very protective of me and I just let him sleep in the bed when I’m home alone (he’s usually not allowed in bed).
Post # 3
I wish I did. I’m the same way. We also had a peeping Tom years ago in our old house. Scary.
Post # 4
LilliV : Our dog is downstairs (inside) so I would hear her because she gets very excited if someone comes to the door. Just stressing about what I would do if that happens! I’m currently watching Brooklyn 99 and just going to keep it on until I fall asleep.
Post # 5
I am always scared of being alone at night. Before Darling Husband, I used to barricade inside my bedroom by moving a dresser in front of my door.
I know, it’s nuts. Anything to get a decent night of sleep.
Post # 6
monicageller : Not even kidding, I thought about doing the same thing but I’m pregnant and the dresser is too heavy!
Post # 7
thepinkflamingo : the dog would be an early warning to call the police at a minimum. My dog is large and has a really scary growl when he thinks I’m in danger and even I have trouble convincing him it’s OK sometimes lol. He’s never bitten anyone but I’m pretty sure if I was scared and screaming he would.
Post # 8
I bring my car keys into the bedroom and keep them on my nightstand. I figure if I hear something suspicious, like someone trying to get in the door, I can hit the panic/alarm button on my keys and it will be a deterrent and wake neighbors. I’ve never had to use them but somehow it makes me feel better haha.
Post # 9
I normally can’t fall asleep if my partner is away unless I have some sort of light on so I keep a small lamp on next to the bed. I also lock my bedroom door and that makes me feel safe knowing I’d wake up and have time to call the police if someone did break in. I’d say if you do hear anything lock yourself in and call the police.
Good luck! I know how scary it can be to be home alone at night.
Post # 10
i used to be absolutely TERRIFIED when I was younger of being home alone. If my parents were out of town, I either spent the night at a friends house or had someone sleepover. So it’s funny that once I became an adult that I was alone at home frequently at one point in life, to now I don’t mind it.
So, I have dogs. Like you, I know they will be make a commotion should they hear something, and tht gives me great peace. You said you know they’d wake you, but the problem is you’re wondering what you’d do next. Well let me put your mind at ease. For the majority of people wanting to break into homes, they want an easy target. Get in get out undetected. A barking dog would be too risky and alert their presence. Even when people are casing houses and they discover when knocking at the door a dog barks they will move on. A dog is a wonderful deterrant for this! So the chances of anything happening to your house are already quite low. Just make sure your doors and windows are locked as well before going to bed, and you’re golden.
Post # 11
thepinkflamingo : Do you have an alarm system? If your husband is gone a couple nights every week, I’d invest in one. D.H. travels every now and then and is gone for a few nights at a time. Back when I was single, I didn’t have a problem being alone at night. Now that I’m married, I do struggle being alone and I think it’s because I’ve gotten used to having D.H. there. It helps to have the alarm, and I put my dog in our bedroom on the floor, which makes me feel better.
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
What about getting a security system or a security camera? I have a little Arlo security camera system that works off the wifi in the house. You can watch the cameras from your phone. Also, I use a white noise machine to help me sleep. I hear every little sound in the house and the white noise machine helps. The car keys by your bed is a good idea. I also leave a little light on in the kitchen or living room of the living room TV on.
Post # 13
I would lock the bedroom door and bring my cat’s litter box and food in there so she didn’t need to go into the living room. I live by myself so usually I’m OK but some nights can be spooky.
I also have recently found sound apps on my phone – rain, thunderstorms, light music, etc. You can create your own mix and save it. You set a timer on the app so that after whatever time you want it closes. I’ve found this has helped me a lot too.
I have a body pillow that I now use as my regular pillow but it started out as being my fake person in the bed. Hahahaha. I would lay it long ways like a person on the side closest to the door and it created a ‘barrier’ type of thing.
Post # 14
No advice just wanted to say I’m not even married yet and the thought of me having to be alone at night scares me already!! My boyfriends a cop so it’s just something I’ve already accepted but still scary! Especially when I have babies at home in the future!
Post # 15
thepinkflamingo : I’m home quite a bit, but what has helped me is having lights on. SO wasteful but I feel safer if i have more lights on the house. I also stay up later too so it’s less time ot be unaware (also not the best)