(Closed) Is anyone else’s FI and yourself both changing your last names?

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t know anyone else who did this, but I think it’s super-cool.  Before I met Fiance, I always thought I’d want both me and my husband to change our names.  I loved the idea of selecting a unique name together so that we both forged a new, personal identity with it.  Then I met Fiance, and saw haw attached he was to his surname, and I realized that my first name sounds awesome with his surname (even though I am now one of two people in the world with the name, while I am one of one atm….boo).  But I love the idea still!

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Fiance and I have considered picking an entirely new last name, or choosing one from our grandparents.  However, he wants to take my name now, so- that’s what we are doing.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was actually about to post (kind of) the same question…

I want to keep my last name but want to take his too, so I’ll hyphenate…. and he wants to do the same!!!

Is that a bit weird?? I mean, I love it that he wants to do that, but will people find it weird????

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrsBtoBee: I don’t think it’s weird!  A little unconventional, but whatever!  It’s what my Fiance and I are planning to do.

We were initially going to go through the family trees and find something, but when you add the hassle, the cost and the potential issues years down the road if something doesn’t get linked to your new name, we decided against it.  We still have a ways to go, but the point we’re at right now is to hyphenate both.  Apparently, etiquette says I should be mylast-hislast, but we’re not going that route; we’ll be hislast-mylast, despite the fact the various family members have told us we’re “not supposed to do it that way”.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@melisandescott: ahh i’m glad to hear me and my Fiance are not the only ones, then 🙂

We’ll probably do mylast-hislast as we’re only a tiny bit unconventional 😉

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@melisandescott: just out of curiosity, why are you doing hislast-yourlast? is it because it sounds better, or any other special reason?

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mrsBtoBee: It’s actually a pretty silly reason.  My last name is pronounced like a woman’s first name, so by putting his last name first, it actually flows better.  Otherwise he’d be hisname woman’s name-last name, and it just doesn’t sound right.

Incidentally, his brother’s wife hyphenated as well.  She was initially going to be herlast-hislast, however by doing that it actually sounded like a really funny phrase, so she swapped also, and she’s hislast-herlast.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

We added each other’s last names as middle names.  I would have loved to co-hyphenate but we both have really long names as is.  The hyphen would have made it out of control!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

ahh i feel better about both of us changing out names now 🙂

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