Post # 1
Ok, so my wedding is over 6 months away, and I’ve been in serious planning mode for the last 4. All the major things are organized/confirmed. Our DIY projects are underway.
I am just so sick of being stressed out. Deciding colours, bridesmaid dresses, guestlist, the ridiculous cost of what is supposed to be ‘the most wonderful day of my life’… lol! I keep thinking about how I’d rather pay off our student loans. ah well.
i think I just need to take a serious break from planning and stressing over the wedding. It’s consuming WAY too much of my time and mental energy. I am so excited for it, don’t get me wrong. That’s why I’ve become obsessed I guess.
10 months of my life going towards planning 12 hours (essentially- the ceremony and reception are only 5!!) anyone else feeling like this?
Post # 3
i am also sick of it but only because I feel I’m the only one interested in it. I’m full of ideas but they are constantly met with “we don’t need to decide that yet”. It’s like a big smack in the face.
Post # 4
Me! Me! Me! I’m ready to kick this ish to the curb and go honeymoon.
Post # 5
UGH! I go through this every 2 weeks. I am fully focused on wedding stuff 24/7 and then I need to take a break for a week and no do so much. These details kill me because I HAVE TO GET IT done! I am so Type A!
Post # 6
I am soooo done with it. And my fiance is of no help!! I hate planning stuff like this!
Post # 7
@Aubergold: LOL!! I hear ya! The sad thing in our case is, we gave up our travel plans. It was either South America or the wedding. Obviously, we went for the wedding. So, we’re just going on a mini-moon weekend after it all… which will still be great, but I’m slightly jealous of couples who can go on extended holidays after their wedding. Getting 10 days off will be difficult enough!
Post # 8
I’m sick of it! But I’m 82 days away (yes I count!), I’m ready to just have everything done but that seems like it will never happen. I’m ready for it to just happen already!!
Post # 9
@ticatica: I feel the same way. And Im tired of the obsession over it. But I cant help myself! I just saw two venues this past Sat. I know Im going to go with one. Both are all inclusive so this is a huge decision because its actually the biggest decision. Everything else will be taken care of. I just have to meet with them to pick what I like. Im also having an issue with the guest list. Thats the most biggest issue Im obssessing over. I have 70 guests I want to invite but can only have 50 or both venues will charge extra if I have more than 50. Ive decided to hide the darn guest list till about 4 mons away from the wedding date or else I will drive myself mad!!!!!!!!!
Post # 10
I wish I’d seen this before I wrote my own vent!
Post # 11
I don’t mind planning, I just really am not looking forward to “dressing up” the day of. I am a bit of a tom-boy so getting my hair done and makeup and all that is just stressful for me.
Post # 12
You know what…you have to make these decisions yourself in advance. get an idea of what you want and when you get closer to the time…just tell people what your ideas are. I totally get your frustration!
Post # 13
Yes! My wedding is 3 weeks away(yay!) But I’m sooo over it. I just want to say I do and party with everyone coming into town. I’ve put so much effort and time into it, and now I’m just burned out. I have projects to do, and I can’t find the motivation. I know when it finally gets here I’ll be excited
Post # 14
I am sooo over this wedding right now. I go through phases, as I’ve noticed on here before, but right now is one of those “eff it” moments. I need to vent, and I’m glad you posted this thread! I am not happy to hear that so many people are as frustrated as I am, but I am happy that I’m not crazy and all alone in this.
Things contributing to me wanting to throw in the proverbial towel:
- Money. That is THE number one issue making this whole thing miserable. Everyone who was supposed to help contribute isn’t going to. Fiance and I just bought a house that needs EVERYTHING done to it before we can move in, so I’d rather prioritize that over wedding expenses.
- Anxiety over the wedding day. I am so scared about walking down the aisle and standing in front of everyone that I keep getting stomach aches.
- Guest list. It’s amazing how people assume they’ll be invited to your wedding! I’ve got invited guests inviting people that AREN’T invited. It’s just crazy.
- Destination Wedding issues. We’re having a semi-DW. Everybody has left it up to me to find their accomodations for them… as if I didn’t already have enough on my damn plate! Geez!
Post # 15
The last month or so leading up to our wedding, I was a disaster. I just wanted it over with. I cut a few DIY projects to lessen the load and just tried to be as organized as I could.
In the end, all of our hardwork paid off and it was a fantastic (relatively) drama free day of happiness.
The best advice I can give is to focus on the thought of the marriage and not just the wedding. That got me through some rough times.
Post # 16
I felt the same way! I didn’t do anything wedding-related in late november through till yesterday 🙂 I didn’t even really talk about it that much either! It was easy, because of the holidays. but now I am back in full-swing and I feel invigorated and excited again!