Post # 1
I thought it was an honor to ask someone to be a “guestbook attendant” at the reception — just for about 15 minutes as guests arrive, asking them to sign. I was asked to do this at a friend’s wedding a number of years ago (when I was 18 lol) and it made me feel special — like I was a part of the wedding beyond just being a guest.
Any thoughts on this? I have someone I would like to ask to be my guestbook attendant . . . I’m wondering if it’s a fairly common practice, because I don’t know if I’ve seen it at other weddings . . .
Post # 3
I’ve been a guestbook attendant, and I found it slightly annoying to stand there and ask people to sign, because they often ignored me and walked away.
BUT, I found myself wondering yesterday if I should ask someone to do this for me! We just got our guestbook – we made a Shutterfly album of us with e-pics and pics growing up, but with tons of space to write in – and it’ll be at the hospitality suite at the hotel that afternoon for people to sign, and then it’ll be at the wedding. So I’m leaning against having an attendant, but the thought is still hanging around in my head.
I’ll wait and stalk this thread and see what advice you get 🙂
Post # 4
I am having 3 people to help pass out programs and help with the guest book. These 3 girls are very special to me. They are all out of college so I didn’t consider only younger girls. I have done it many times throughout college as well. I was very honored.
Post # 5
My daughter and our friends daughter will be our guest book attendents/program pass-er out-ers. But they will great the guests as they arrive at the wedding….haven’t planned out the book thing for later in the evening yet, but it will probably just sit on the gift/card table.
Post # 6
I don’t see this as an honor per se… kind of a boring job really to just stand there and direct guests to sign a book and I would not ask an adult to do it. A kid maybe (like a 12-16 year old).
I am going to have my day of helper (like a DOC but without the professional wedding experience) do that for the few guests (she is getting paid to help with everything wedding related so she is not a guest). I think people can figure out where the guest book is and how to sign it.
I am however asking my friend’s 12 year old daughter to hand out programs (since it’s 1 program per family I don’t want to put one at each seat). And I will ask her 10 year daughters to help pass out flower petals for guests to throw after the ceremony.
Post # 7
@Miss Mochaccino: I don’t think that the guestbook really needs someone to attend to it.
Everyone knows what to do, and you can always have the MC or DJ make an announcement, if people aren’t doing it.
I also strongly dislike B-list jobs. They just seem like busy work, and aren’t really an honour in my books.
Post # 8
Oh dear . . . I asked my friend to do this before reading your post . . . and haven’t heard back from her (yet). Maybe she’s just busy, but now I’m wondering whether she doesn’t want to do it. I was hoping to recognize her in a positive way by asking her to be my guestbook attendant because I remember how important it made me feel when I did it . . . but I can kinda see how it’s also just busy work, too. Hmmm, hope this isn’t going to make for an awkward situation.
@bestwishes: This is exactly what I was thinking . . . that it was a special way to include someone by trusting them with your guestbook . . . but I can also see what the ladies above are thinking and come tp think of it I was only 18 when I did the guestbook thing and my friend is like 25 . . . . . I did make it clear that if she’s not comfortable doing it, no pressure, but maybe she’ll feel obligated.
Post # 9
I asked 2 people to do it, and ended up with 3 (the girl who handed out our programs wanted to be involved). I think it’s an honour and you want at least one person who is about 16+. They also usually tell people where the seating chart is and watch over the card box at the beginning.
I’ve done it before and was honoured I was asked to do it.
Post # 10
Maybe it is because I grew up in the South but every wedding I’ve had every been to had a guest book attendent except for the last wedding Iattended. They were also always mentioned in the program so it was looked upon as an honor. I will be having my sister-in-law do it for me. I’m also doing the shutterfly guest book and the “thumb print” wedding tree so I really want someone there in case people have questions with how to do the thumb print tree and to montior to make sure the few children that will be guests don’t go crazy with the ink pad 🙂
Post # 11
I did this when I was 12 with my cousin and I thought it was fun. I plan on asking some of my younger cousins to do this at our wedding.
Post # 12
I’ve only been to one wedding with a guest book attendant & that was because she was taking poloraids of each guest and then letting us write notes on them. From my experience, I can see the point of view of it being “busy work” (unless it’s a guest book that needs supervision, like pictures or the thumbprint tree). But if your friend has had different experiences she might see it as more of an honor, like you do. It seems like it’s a 50/50 chance & letting her know your intent (wanting her to feel involved in a special way) seems like a good option.
Post # 13
@KatieLu: Oh, good! Thank you — the person I asked is from the south, so she’s hopefully seen it before. My intention is to have it be an honor. Good idea re inluding the seating chart at the guestbook table!
Post # 14
Southern girl here too, and we always have guest book attendants at weddings down here. Sometimes mentioned in the program, sometimes not. Sometimes they also hand out programs. Might be a cultural thing, idk.
Post # 15
I’m a southern girl too 🙂 I was really hesitant to do it because of all the controversy on here, but I have never been to a wedding without one. They are listed in my program.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2012 - Watch tower lodge, Black hawk state Park Rock Island, IL
my Fiance niece is handing out the programs and bubbles at the outdoor ceremony and is doubleing as the guest book attendant at the cocktail hour/reception..