- 8 years ago
If so, what are serving? How vegan are going?
If so, what are serving? How vegan are going?
I have to say (no offense to anyone!) that a vegan wedding seems unfair to guests. I have been a vegetarian for 12 years and I would never have a vegetarian wedding, just because of that.
I guess I am curious if it has worked for people…
I’m not a vegetarian (though I was for many years, so I feel I’m able to see the issue from both sides of the table), and I wouldn’t have a vegetarian or especially vegan wedding. As someone who eats meat, I feel it’s my responsibility to offer food choices that will suit a variety of diets, including those who eat meat and those who do not. So, while only a fraction of my guests are vegetarian (none are vegan), I’m offering about half of our cocktail food as vegetarian and I’ve selected a vegetarian option for dinner.
By not offering options, I feel that you’re basically sending the message that you think your guests should subscribe to your beliefs and practices and be vegan, too.
If I were invited to an all-vegan wedding… well, I personally would go. But I know many people who probably wouldn’t.
I do think that as a vegan, you’re probably surrounded by like-minded (or at least open-minded) people who might be up for that. But, perhaps not everyone will be so keen on it.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
(And on a Not Wedding Related note, if you have any great vegan recipes to share, I’d love to try to sneak a few in for my fiance!)
I’ve been to a wedding that was vegan local food, all made by friends of the bride, and yes, it was a 100+ people reception (though I think there may have been homemade bread that wasn’t actually vegan). I don’t remember all of the food anymore–the tomato soup sticks in my mind because it was really garlicky. The wedding cake was vegan as well. Would the food there have been my firstchoice for dinner that night? No. Did I eat it, enjoy it, and have a great time? Absolutely!
I think with vegan food you may have to make a little more effort to be sure that there is enough filling food for guests, but I don’t think its “unfair” (and yes, I eat meat). Its your party and you are gracious enough to invite and feed your friends, I think you can feed them whatever you want!
I am not a vegan.. and my family is most defintly not. But FH’s sisters’ and their children as well as his best man are.. so I have to find a way to cater to everyone. If I did not serve a vegan option–I expect certain people would not eat. I am just curious what others have done to accomodate everyone.
Another thought. In general, we’re ok with a couple who don’t agree with drinking not serving alcohol at their reception, even if most of their guests drink. Why aren’t people of with a couple who don’t eat meat not serving meat?
I don’t see not serving meat as “forcing your practices on others”–they are hosting a party and can serve what they prefer. Just because you prefer steak but I only serve chicken, I’m not forcing a “no-red-meat” policy on you, I just chose not to serve it. Now, if a vegetarian comes to your house or out to a restaurant with you and demands you not eat meat, thats forcing practices on you. But merely choosing not to serve you meat? You’re getting a free meal. You don’t get to complain about it. Eat it or don’t.
At my wedding, I only have 2, maybe 3 vegans attending, and a large number of vegetarians (FI and I are neither). We have one vegetarian entree, and all of the side dishes are vegan. We could have done a vegan entree, but we decided it would appeal to a larger number of people if we included cheese, and we have far more vegetarians than vegans. So, there will not be a vegan entree, but the salad, two veggies, rice and potatoes are all vegan, so I think that should be ok. If we had more vegans, we would have done one vegan entree and two meat.
I’m lacto-ovo, and there won’t be any vegans at the wedding, but we are working around a variety of diet restrictions. We have several breast feeding mothers/elderly people/Muslims not drinking, can’t have any pork or alcohol in any of the food, nut allergies, poultry allergies, and of course the lacto-ovo vegetarians. The salad, sorbet and some of the cocktail food will be vegan. There will be a meat option for the entree, but there will also be a vegetarian option too. It will have goat cheese on it, but if there were a vegan, that person could easy avoid the cheese (it’s grilled portabellos with chevre and grilled zucchini). We’re also avoiding all lard and gelatin in the meals. The only two things that won’t be vegan-friendly are the dessert and the cake. Honestly, when I fast for Lent, vegan desserts are the HARDEST things because so many of them taste awful. If I did have a vegan coming, I think the dessert part would be the hardest thing to work around.
really, bamm??? Maybe it’s because I live near NYC where there are tons of great vegan bakeries.. but honestly I haven’t been able to tell the difference between many vegan versus traditional desserts!
I am planning on having a traditional wedding cake and then vegan cupcakes (from Whole Foods or Babycakes in NYC) for the ones who can’t eat the cake.
@cherryblossom – Yeah – not a fan of most vegan desserts. I used to live in Montreal where there were a lot of vegan options. I love vegan food – but I’ve never found a vegan cake/brownie/cookie etc. that I like (and I’ve tried many!). Anything that is supposed to taste like chocolate is usually the worst for me! But if you’ve found vegan cupcakes that you love, that’s great!
I’m vegetarian, Fiance is not, and because the majority of our families aren’t vegetarian friendly (I can’t tell you how many cow jokes I hear during big family dinners) we aren’t having a vegetarian wedding. However, I think the people that freak out because you are having a vegan or vegetarian wedding are ridiculous! I just really can’t believe that people can’t suck it up and enjoy one meatless meal. I understand you being expected to take care of your guests, but if I were having a dinner party at my house, would it be a faux pas if I made eggplant parmesean instead of turkey? No! And for the same reason that guests shouldn’t expect beef at an Indian wedding or pork at a Jewish or Islamic wedding.
I say go for it and make sure it’s an awesome meal!
I’m having a 100% vegan meal and cake at my wedding because I absolutely do not want my wedding to be the cause of the mass abuse and slaughter of animals. I’ve been a vegan for eight years now and a vegetarian for almost fifteen. This is my way of life and just because vegans don’t congregate in churches or temples or whatever doesn’t mean our guests shouldn’t respect my moral sentiments any less than they would those of a person whose religion forbids the consumption of certain food products. It’s not like we eat voodoo and glass or something. We eat vegetables, grains, mushrooms, and nuts. Is any of that really so foreign or worthy of contempt to the average American? No. The stigma is really an ignorant one.
We’re having Candle 79 or Blossom do the catering for my NYC wedding. Both are vegan restaurants with multiple locations in Manhattan and they make incredible food that vegetarians and non-vegetarians love. There will always be some people that don’t like what you serve regardless of your dietary preferences or restrictions, but I’m betting that most people who try what we pick will like it if they actually open their minds to it (we’re going for the less ‘foodie’ sorts of selections and sticking with things like ravioli in cashew cream sauce and the like). All it is is vegetables and grains, for crissake!
About the vegan desserts thing: yeah, a lot of people eff up on them. I really don’t get it. It’s becoming easier and easier every day to find good ones, but I don’t even get the excitement over Babycakes: I think the texture and taste of their stuff is mediocre; better things can be found at the three Whole Foods in NYC. One of my dreams is to make a vegan bakery because my stuff always turns out awesome, and I make an incredibly dark, moist, rich chocolate cake that ALL my omnivore relatives BEG for on birthdays and holidays, so I have little patience for bad vegan desserts. I don’t work magic. It’s really very simple. That said, the best vegan bakery that I’ve been to that makes the prettiest cakes is Vegan Treats in Allentown, PA (www.vegantreats.com), so they will be doing my cake. I would make my own, but who needs that additional stress the day before their wedding?
My sister is vegan, lots of my friends are vegetarian, and Fiance and I eat very little meat ourselves. Most of the rest of our families, though, wouldn’t know how to cook a meal without meat. If we were doing a meal, we would probably have a vegetarian entree and both meat and vegan sides. Luckily, we’re just doing heavy hors d’oeuvres and desserts, so there will be some of each. I’m hoping it will be obvious and easy for vegetarians to find the non-meat stuff, and I will tell my sister ahead of time what she can eat.
I went to a vegan wedding a few years ago and it was awesome! I can’t remember what exactly we had- lots of finger food. I just remember it was really fresh and healthy. I don’t understand why people would complain about it… it’s the same thing with dry weddings. If the couple doesn’t eat meat/dairy or doesn’t drink, why on earth would you expect them to serve you those things? I don’t think people should abandon their principals just because they are hosting a wedding.
@veganglam – Candle 79 is one of my favorite restaurants! I am super jealous you are having them cater your reception. And Blossom is fabulous too – I am drooling as I write this.
@Cherryblossom80 – I cook vegan at home and am having vegan dishes at our rehearsal dinner and at our reception because I have vegan friends and I want to eat kindly even at my own wedding. I’m working on a menu with the restaurant that we’re having the rehearsal dinner but I think we are going to have fresh seasonal vegetables with potato dumplings for the main dish, which I can’t wait to have.
If you’re interested his link features vegan weddings and the dishes they served:
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