Is anyone here ok with private strippers?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Honestly it depends on trust. There was a bee on here who posted that her Fiance had private strippers and a fancy hotel room and lied about it. Not okay. Open and honest about it, I wouldn’t care too much. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I’m personally not ok with private strippers but I’m fine with strip clubs. I think it’s all about communicating what each couples boundaries are and respecting it. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

There was a time when I wasn’t okay with it – really my own insecurities.

At this point I agree with you that a lap dance or what else wouldn’t bother me. I 100% trust it wouldn’t go beyond that. He’s more uncomfortable with strippers than I am. (We joke that he’s the bigger feminist of the two of us.)

As long as he’s respecting the boundaries you’ve set for your relationship, there’s nothing wrong with it in my mind.

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I can’t think of very many things that I’d be OK with my fiance paying 3k for a single night experience for, honestly.  Especially another woman shaking her tail feathers at him when he could be paying me to do that. 😉 

 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

100% ok with strip clubs, we have gone together many times… and separate too for things like batchelor parties and girls nights out gone wrong lol. Not ok with private dances.

TOTALLY not ok with private strippers. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

For me I would not be ok with it, not because I don’t trust my fiance, but because it would be so very out of character for him and would make me question how well I actually know him. I’m just not into guys who are into that type of thing so it would not work well for me. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I’m okay with it as I trust my fiancee to not do anything stupid. I had friends who were strippers and I know how they can be but like you, as long as he’s not having sex with them or making out, I’m okay. For the girls, it’s just their job and nothing more. 

If he does something stupid, then I’d rather know before getting married he’s capable of it then after we’re married.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t mind the concept of private strippers (fine with lap dances, etc. obviously not ok to cheat with a stripper). But my husband is/was not into it anyway.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m with you, I really don’t mind strippers at all; clubs or house calls

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m totally cool with it. I have trust that my fiance would never actually hook up with a stripper, even if he was wasted. He says he doesn’t even want strippers at his bachelor party – he just wants to get drunk on the boardwalk and play carnival games all night…he’s a big kid at heart lol. I, however, will be going to Miami and definitely plan to get many lap dances from some pretty ladies innocent

Post # 15
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Busy bee

I’m not cool at all with strip clubs or private strippers. I applaud the bees who don’t feel jealous because I’d be a jealous wreck lol.

To be honest and this is just how I feel personally (I understand not everyone feels the same) I think it sets a bad/permissable standard in the relationship. Like if looking/touching/getting lap dances is okay, it’s not that far a reach for that to move to a kiss to kissing and et cetera. I certainly wouldn’t engage with strippers (Male or female) either, so I expect the same in return. I also feel that getting sexual pleasure from another woman grinding all up on him half naked is cheating and he feels the same about Male strippers for me.

Again, that’s just how we operate. I get it’s not everyone’s cup of tea. 

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